Another one bites the dust...

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Everything reached the breaking point the other night when she showed up at my house. She started accusing me of cheating on her with her friend. I’m 99% sure that this was the friend that she wanted to have a threesome with. Her friend did like me, but there was nothing that would ever lead a person to a “rational” conclusion that her friend and I were messing around with each other. I listened to her rant and accuse me of all sorts of irrational made up schitt. Finally I had enough and told her to leave or I would call the cops. This angered her even more and she threw a chair and tossed a pan of chicken she had prepared. The chair broke and The chicken made a huge mess.

While I was cleaning up the mess, she went outside. I assumed she was going to leave. Instead she went around to the other side of my house came back inside and hid in one of the spare bedrooms. After I found her I escorted her to her vehicle. She finally left kicking and screaming.

On her way home she starts texting me that she is going to kill herself. At this point I called up her friend that she thought I was messing around with. We compared notes and discovered she had sent both of us a text earlier in the day asking us to send her our gps locations. When we both refused, she came to the irrational conclusion that her friend and I we were together having sechs! Lmao.

Her friend calls the cops and asks them to do a welfare check. Once the police are on the scene they end up calling me. Now, I’m a little concerned. I’m thinking this stupid crazy biatch hurt herself and is going to pin it all on me. I can hear my girl yelling in the background thru the police’s phone. They end up handcuffing her and taking her to the hospital for evaluation. A few hours later I get another call from the police. He apologized for hanging up on me earlier and that I didn’t have anything to worry about.

She spends about 36hrs in the hospital. She is sending hate messages to everyone. They ended up taking her phone away. She then uses the hospital phone and can only make local calls. My phone number is the only number she has memorized. So I spend the entire morning notifying her family/friends of the situation and coordinating thru her which was a huge struggle as she was still angry. I was not going anywhere near this girl for fear of what I might get falsely accused of. Her childhood friend ended up driving from 2.5hrs away to take care of her.

I talked to 3 of her best friends, her son, and her mom. I figured they would all be hostile towards me, but this wasn’t the case. They thanked me for handling the situation like I did, and told me they were very thankful she had me in her life. She had told her friends and family that I was the best guy she ever had. It became obvious that this wasn’t the first time she had such an episode, but it was the first time it got this bad.

I’m pretty sure this girl is bipolar. I dated one other girl that was confirmed bipolar and they have a lot in common. I found out that this girls sister is bipolar.

When in the manic stage, they require little sleep, talk fast, eat very little, have tons of energy, are very productive, confident, creative. Once they flip, they become irritable, can’t focus, lose interest, self-esteem drops, they have little energy, hopeless, and this is when they start having suicidal thoughts. At times she has zero empathy and no ability to understand anyone else’s point of view. At other times she is always doing nice things for people and is very generous. She also has a hard time accepting responsibility. Its almost always somebody else's fault with her.

It’s a sad situation. When you look past all her anger, this girl has a huge heart and a lot to offer but I’m not going to be the one to deal with her crazy side. I truly hope she gets some professional help. I used to think people ended up with cluster b issues because of how they were raised. Although that certainly has an impact, it is not entirely the cause. It also has to do with how a person is wired.

I'm sure this won't be the last I hear from her, but I have no plans of communicating with her again. I've already received a long apology text.
 

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Meth does this to people as well
Wow
 

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Time to prepare yourself, OP. :eek: GET TO DE BUUUUNKER! (voiced in Arnold's accent).

 

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Everything reached the breaking point the other night when she showed up at my house. She started accusing me of cheating on her with her friend. I’m 99% sure that this was the friend that she wanted to have a threesome with. Her friend did like me, but there was nothing that would ever lead a person to a “rational” conclusion that her friend and I were messing around with each other. I listened to her rant and accuse me of all sorts of irrational made up schitt. Finally I had enough and told her to leave or I would call the cops. This angered her even more and she threw a chair and tossed a pan of chicken she had prepared. The chair broke and The chicken made a huge mess.

While I was cleaning up the mess, she went outside. I assumed she was going to leave. Instead she went around to the other side of my house came back inside and hid in one of the spare bedrooms. After I found her I escorted her to her vehicle. She finally left kicking and screaming.

On her way home she starts texting me that she is going to kill herself. At this point I called up her friend that she thought I was messing around with. We compared notes and discovered she had sent both of us a text earlier in the day asking us to send her our gps locations. When we both refused, she came to the irrational conclusion that her friend and I we were together having sechs! Lmao.

Her friend calls the cops and asks them to do a welfare check. Once the police are on the scene they end up calling me. Now, I’m a little concerned. I’m thinking this stupid crazy biatch hurt herself and is going to pin it all on me. I can hear my girl yelling in the background thru the police’s phone. They end up handcuffing her and taking her to the hospital for evaluation. A few hours later I get another call from the police. He apologized for hanging up on me earlier and that I didn’t have anything to worry about.

She spends about 36hrs in the hospital. She is sending hate messages to everyone. They ended up taking her phone away. She then uses the hospital phone and can only make local calls. My phone number is the only number she has memorized. So I spend the entire morning notifying her family/friends of the situation and coordinating thru her which was a huge struggle as she was still angry. I was not going anywhere near this girl for fear of what I might get falsely accused of. Her childhood friend ended up driving from 2.5hrs away to take care of her.

I talked to 3 of her best friends, her son, and her mom. I figured they would all be hostile towards me, but this wasn’t the case. They thanked me for handling the situation like I did, and told me they were very thankful she had me in her life. She had told her friends and family that I was the best guy she ever had. It became obvious that this wasn’t the first time she had such an episode, but it was the first time it got this bad.

I’m pretty sure this girl is bipolar. I dated one other girl that was confirmed bipolar and they have a lot in common. I found out that this girls sister is bipolar.

When in the manic stage, they require little sleep, talk fast, eat very little, have tons of energy, are very productive, confident, creative. Once they flip, they become irritable, can’t focus, lose interest, self-esteem drops, they have little energy, hopeless, and this is when they start having suicidal thoughts. At times she has zero empathy and no ability to understand anyone else’s point of view. At other times she is always doing nice things for people and is very generous. She also has a hard time accepting responsibility. Its almost always somebody else's fault with her.

It’s a sad situation. When you look past all her anger, this girl has a huge heart and a lot to offer but I’m not going to be the one to deal with her crazy side. I truly hope she gets some professional help. I used to think people ended up with cluster b issues because of how they were raised. Although that certainly has an impact, it is not entirely the cause. It also has to do with how a person is wired.

I'm sure this won't be the last I hear from her, but I have no plans of communicating with her again. I've already received a long apology text.
When chairs and chickens take flight, it's time to tell her to hit the road. There is more wrong with this one than anyone could diagnose
 

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You met the love of your life here... now ride off into the sunset together.
 

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I showed her your cute little gym selfie @soulforge, she wants your number!
 

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Last night about 1:30am I get a text from the exgf saying she knew I was seeing someone and was sad I wouldn't admit it. She drove by my place and saw an unfamiliar car parked in my driveway. This car happened to belong to my mom. She assumed it belonged to some girl I was fuhking. lol. so this set off a rash of angry text messages. After I explain things to her she figures out she is wrong, then sends me a pic of some flowers I gave her for her birthday letting me know they were still alive. Never once apologizes for her over the top behavior.
 

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Last night about 1:30am I get a text from the exgf saying she knew I was seeing someone and was sad I wouldn't admit it. She drove by my place and saw an unfamiliar car parked in my driveway. This car happened to belong to my mom. She assumed it belonged to some girl I was fuhking. lol. so this set off a rash of angry text messages. After I explain things to her she figures out she is wrong, then sends me a pic of some flowers I gave her for her birthday letting me know they were still alive. Never once apologizes for her over the top behavior.

That girl knows another chick is involved... they just have a nack for this kinda chit..

She didn't apologise... because she does not completely believe you.
 

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Might want to get a restraining order while you're at it if she keeps stalking you :eek:
 

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That girl knows another chick is involved... they just have a nack for this kinda chit..

She didn't apologize... because she does not completely believe you.
But there aren't any other chics involved.

She doesn't apologize for anything....ever. You have to coax an apology out of her no matter what, its something that is very difficult for her. By apologizing, she would be forced to admit she did something wrong or there might be something wrong with her. That's a huge blow to her fragile self-esteem/ego.

I rejected her because of her disrespectful actions. She partially realizes this, but does not have the capacity to fully accept this. She would rather look for other reasons that don't point the finger back at her. Nothing is ever her fault and they show little empathy.

This is what cluster B's do.
 

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So why are you even still communicating with her?

Also, how are things coming along toward her friend? You need to at least go have a drink with her. You already know she's possibly down for a threesome.
 

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So why are you even still communicating with her?

Also, how are things coming along toward her friend? You need to at least go have a drink with her. You already know she's possibly down for a threesome.
The only text I've replied to was the one with her accusing me of sleeping with another girl. I wanted to explain to her that it was my moms car. I did so to defend myself and hopefully diffuse the situation. All of her other texts I've ignored and I've received two more this morning.

Her friend(the one that she first accused me of cheating with) told me they hung out together yesterday and my exgf is going to counseling. I don't have any desire of trying something with her friend. That's a high risk deal and the reward just isn't worth it to me. Too many other girls out there.
 

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I bet this chick was one heck of a fvck though lol.
 

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But there aren't any other chics involved.

She doesn't apologize for anything....ever. You have to coax an apology out of her no matter what, its something that is very difficult for her. By apologizing, she would be forced to admit she did something wrong or there might be something wrong with her. That's a huge blow to her fragile self-esteem/ego.

I rejected her because of her disrespectful actions. She partially realizes this, but does not have the capacity to fully accept this. She would rather look for other reasons that don't point the finger back at her. Nothing is ever her fault and they show little empathy.

This is what cluster B's do.
Mate I just came out of relationship with someone who pretty regular fuk up... but NEVER a genuine apology..

No sense of wrong doing, or acknowledgement of your feelings..

In the end you will get sick of it, and eventually walk away... lets just hope you don't waste too much of your time, and end up head fuked by this chick..

If a girl never accepts responsibility, them that is a HUGE red flag
 

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Mate I just came out of relationship with someone who pretty regular fuk up... but NEVER a genuine apology..

No sense of wrong doing, or acknowledgement of your feelings..

In the end you will get sick of it, and eventually walk away... lets just hope you don't waste too much of your time, and end up head fuked by this chick..

If a girl never accepts responsibility, them that is a HUGE red flag
I've already checked out, not going back. No worries there.
 

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I've already checked out, not going back. No worries there.

Smart move... when you see those red flags, its best to walk...

The longer you stay in that situation, the more it can potentially damage you.. plus your precious time wasted.
 

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On the bright side, consider yourself fortunate to have found out her flaws when she's your girlfriend. You'd be fvcked if you were married. Move forward, my man.
 
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