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Women like bad boys. Are you a "nice" guy? How many times have you been passed over for someone who treats women like garbage? Never fear. When women are ready to settle down, chances are they'll pick a nice guy who can provide stability and a pleasant environment. The bad boys have a shelf life. Don't you feel better already?

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http://channels.netscape.com/ns/men/package.jsp?name=men/pm/womenmisconceptions/womenmisconceptions

Great. So while they get to enjoy the hotter, spicier, more exciting moments, she gets to "settle" for the lesser desired guys. It's the law of supply and demand, brothers. As her needs change, so does the value of the market.

Initially, she wants excitment, fun, to explore herself. As time progresses, her friendship change, as does her own hormones and desire, at least the dominating thoughts do (her subconscious desires will always be toward heated passion).

I advocate taking responsibility for your tlife and ENJOYING it. That's it. Simple as that. Realize that you die, and laugh most everything. When a person dies, they're not really gone, nor were they ever here. We don't mourn their birth, or their lack of life prior to being alive, so why should we mourn their death?

Guys, this ain't hard, but if you're stumbling, it's cuz you're thinking too much. Inherently, you KNOW how you feel. For instance...

I've played golf for nearly 15 years. Whenever I was in competition and NOT swinging well as I could, it was the result of CONSCIOUSLY trying to work AGAINST what my body ALREADY KNEW. I'd swung the club more than 15,000 times properly, there's no reason I couldn't just REPEAT a great swing time and time again. So whenever I was doing bad...I released all thoughts surrounding what it was I was doing and gave into the goal, the Straight Away Fairway.

The same applies in life. INHERENTLY, we FEEL what it is we are, what we want, and what we should do, but more often than not we give into the thoughts, that create the emotions, and ultimately wonder how the HECK we got there.

You see, there's all these personality tests and career tests and love tests, explain HOW we developed these inner desires to be what we are. Sure you inherit from your parents certain 'qualities' but beneath that, some subterranean sense of self exists that has the blueprint for what you are. Something directing you.

Remember when you were young and liked playing with building blocks, and could do it for hours and hours and hours w/out sleeping, and would think about it while you were sleeping, and would wake up excited to start again, where'd that come from? How'd you develop that? I know NONE of my interests in youth were activities my parents did.

Some "inner" drive gives way to who or what you are, and what you want to do. Just feel it and do it.



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Some women do go for guys that treat them like "garbage" because they have low self-esteem.

One can be a "nice" guy without being a supplicating wuss.

And that can be a very powerful combonation.
 

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Definitions.

A woman said to me:

I'm sick and tired of being duped by guys. I want a niiiice guy.

This girl I met online. We met briefly for a short date, and upon finishing, I barfed up all the food ate, literally. I got food poisoning. BUT!

What did she really say? Follow along and see...

You don't want a nice guy. Let me explain this. You need to learn defintions better, L. Nice is only a term that applies to actions. A man is not action. He is not nice. He CAN do nice things, but he isn't nice. What you want is someone who is respectful, of you, and of HIMSELF. If you had some you deem nice, it'd be so easy to have him, you wouldn't work for it, and in life, we strive to keep what we have to work for. In the process of doing so, we become better. Your definitions are limiting your options with men, as it does with many men searching for women.

She agreed. She wanted to be rid of the 'pain' of trying time and time again, but because she didn't know any other definitions on what men could be, she didn't know where to search for a man. I told her:

I'll teach you how and where to find a REAL man, a don Juan (yes I said that), if you will. A man, not a boy.

When you only know of 2 types of women, NICE girls and SLLUTZ, then you're Options are limited, because, what if you don't like either?

When you learn a new language, you realize other cultures have more words for certain aspects of life. Some languages have more than 10 DIFFERENT words for snow. Other languages have words that explain inexplicable emotions we have yet to define or recognize in the English language. What's this all mean?

That the world we live in is defined by the definitions we have of it. Words create mental pictures in our brain and we either act or react to those images based on the associations we made. If we have yet to make an association, then our association with it depends on the outcome, either positive or negative.

I would suggest that fully 10% of women, possibly 20% MAX are worthy of LTR. Why?

Over time, people bear MANY, MANY scars, from family abuse, career abuse, depression, alcohol, drugs, sexual abuse, or lack of confidence, hormonal imbalance, and so forth, so as time goes by, MOST people become beaten down dogs carrying more baggage than a 747.

We're not going on vacation, so don't bring me your baggage.

I said this to a girl recently who'd dated a purported 'azzhole'. In reality, he was only an 'azzhole' because he did roids, had mental problems, such as anxiety and ADD, and wanted to break up and play the field more. She didn't want that and he played head games. She refused the break up and interpreted his every action of pulling away or moving toward her as something. Needless to say...she carried with her those experience and "meannings" that when I didn't call on time, I was demonstrating 'azzhole-like' skills and I was sure to be a 'bad guy' to date.

I had to correct her a few times and she's since backed off. BUT, this is what many men will face as they encounter older women AND it's also a reason more guys go for the younger girls. Not because they're so beautiful, though they are, but because so FEW women have the mental clarity to distance themselves from bad things in the past. They wear such things as a baggage, or scar, and expect each guy to be as the one before.

Something to think about...



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