Another issue for me is...

[CapedCrusader08]

being unrealistic, esp about women,dating,and sex. But, due to what seems like years of inexperience due to shyness or lazyness, I feel like I don't even have an understanding of myself almost. I mean, how does this happen? Like why didn't my first time and such happen sooner?, or am i putting too much emphasis on this?

 

[aner]

Most of us are fed unrealistic expectations of relationships, friendships, and even our own self-worth and abilities--by media, parents, teachers, even ourselves. And while I think it's good that you're asking questions (and you're even being critical of the questions you ask, which is interesting), it's too easy to become cynical--that's a well traveled road and I've been there too. The real winner in a confusing and changing social world is the one who rolls with the punches, looks forward, gets back on his feet, tweaks his method, tries again.

Didn't get laid for a long time? So what? You can make up for 20 years of inexperience with a single month out there. Monogamy is a dying social practice? So be it, if the dating world is now a free market, you'll make sure you win.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

Well, I don't know if it's me being fed unrealistic expectations, or me creating them on my own. I wonder if this is me placing all my own self worth into how much i do, or don't, get laid.

i mean, I read about how everyone,guys and chicks, first did it with they're s.o at 16,dated,then broke up, or have had this many partners, and all that, and I feel rather embarrassed by my own inexperience that I can't even find a way to play the game so to say, perhaps I am so afraid of others reactions, I can't find the will, and that is a bad thing. Even throughout early 20's, most people have seemingly had more experience than me.


I mean, all I really wanted was to meet someone and have things happen, but it seems as time goes on, it gets harder and harder as everyone else is seemingly moving forward.

I mean,reading stuff like this, http://www.feministing.com/archives/012770.html almost makes me realise how much of what I have been doing wrong.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I have alot more to post, about myself, and observations of and in the world, but it's late, and I am too tired to think right now. So more in due time...