Angry Ex-Plates

[dingmachine]

By stroke of (un)luck, I've been running into a lot of old plates lately while in the field. Most of them really don't like me.

Usually they'll come up to me and initiate a conversation, or otherwise proximally linger in my vicinity until I acknowledge them on my own. I'm not going to be a complete d*ckhole and ignore them, and I figure being civil and starting a conversation shows that I have the confidence and presence to not let a potentially awkward run-in with a girl I once smashed get the better of me. Once we start talking, it's a lot of terse conversation and short answers from her, and then I'll exit by saying, "Well, good to see you," before going back to what I'm doing (usually scoping for other women, hanging with friends, or both). At least half the time, she will continue to linger around or stare at me from across the room.

My preferred method of ending things with a plate is the slow fade. Gradually, I'll become less and less available, and more and more detached. They either get the hint and go radio silent because they're waiting for me to initiate something (which I never do), or they will straight call me out on it and I'll say, "I'm just not feeling this anymore. I think we should just be friends."

Girls have told me in the past that the slow fade is their least favorite method of being dumped, but I've tried having "break up" conversations with girls in the past (that I've only slept with three times, for example), and I got stalkers, riot acts, and a whole bunch of begging and pleading to reconsider long after my mind's made up.

However, I have also been on the receiving end of the slow fade, and while I will admit that it sucks, I have come to understand that's a girl's preferred method of ending things. So, I figure what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

In sum, is it normal to run into ex-plates who hate you? And is there another method of ending things, other than the slow fade, so ex-plates don't hate you so much when it's over and rip your name to shreds among her friends and anyone else who will listen?

Or is dumping a girl a lose-lose situation no matter what you do? I'm thinking that it is. In the small, southern state where I live, 95% of guys are p*ssies to the max. Girls rarely, if ever, get dumped here, so my guess is that my dumping them causes extreme reactions because they're not used to it.

 

[Julian]

I had a player friend who said keep em as long as you can. I think what pisses these plates off is feeling used, you spit your game and smooth alpha **** at her and got her to open her heart and her legs to you. Then after a couple pumps you dip on her. I can understand their anger toward you. Now if you came at them like hey im just looking for some physical touching and this may not be a permanent or long term situation..well then at least they got fair warning. IDK man im a believer in do to others as you would have done unto you..

A justified firing/dumping will still bring about negative emotions from a female, but at least you can justify it rightfully. Making a girl believe you are actually into her and then going NC is just cruel so I commend your slow fading. Not a white knight here but I think to bring the sexes together there should be some semblance of humanity...people always seem to have this us vs them mentality. should not be so.

anyway back to your point, i would say when it comes to future plates, BE CLEAR ABOUT WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT. If you are a wolf in sheeps clothing, nobody fkin like that. just be that dirty wolf who like to run around an fk...an bishes will accept it for who you are...its when you come at a girl like some white knight and telling her you feel strongly for her blabla then just abandon her...its kinda fked up. Not saying u do this but some dudes do. If its deserved well then fk that bish, but just a regular good girl out there trying to make a connection...wouldnt play her for no reason.

Ask yourself why do they hate you? you are obviously doing something wrong here in your actions somehow...it would be better to keep an amicable relationship with these people...trust me man burning bridges is not a good thing typically.

 

[Desdinova]

I prefer to end things quickly. If she hates me, oh well. The relationship was done anyway.

I once walked into a karaoke bar and an ex was up on stage singing. She stopped singing at the sight of me an called me a fvcking a55hole into the microphone. I thought it was funny!

 

[old_skoolr]

From the first date I say, I'm not looking for anything serious.

If she likes you, she'll try and change your mind (ie. fvcking you, cooking, cleaning, suck up)

Then she'll end up hating you because she cant have you.

The time frame this happens depends on the girl and her attraction for you.

I had one girl who would pick me up every week, fvck me in her car then drop me off. Probably spent $100 in a years worth of sex, never committed but she accepted the fact that she had to share me.

 

[Alvafe]

serious? who really care? the "ex" means she is not your problem, you yousrself said, tehy do this slow fade, and the reason they don't like is, they don't get they "closure" aka a reason to hate you or its your fault, they will say they hate you but mostly because you crushed they egos but not even caring about how they would feel about you ending with then.

and the about being up front for i'm not looking for anything serious, I wouldn't do it, it does not matter if you are looking for something serious or not, you can do say that after she ask what you 2 are and where you 2 are going


myself? I normally ignore then, be it a ex or a girl I failed to do something, if she comes around I make a scene of I do know you? and then start to think where I did meet her before and it works because a lot of time I really don't remember and even care to remember if I did know then before

 

[BeExcellent]

Why do you care? Breaking things off no matter how you do it is uncomfortable for both parties. Think about it. The dumped party is hurt (or at least their ego is hurt), the dumper dislikes dealing with the dumped, even if the decision is clear & final.

If they don't react well or creep on you that is not your problem. Just do your own thing. Girls that loiter about are wanting attention & hoping to draw you back in. Then they feel embarrassed all over again when you reject them (in their mind), even as you are trying to be cool by acknowledging them. Do yourself a favor & either ignore them completely or say "what's up" but keep moving.

 

[GoodOne123]

Ideally don't plate up girls at the same workplace or institution that you go to. Been there done that and it was a nightmare.

Girls, especially the above average/hot ones, don't respond well to rejection. Their egos get hurt, and will try to get revenge. They may spread rumours about you, or things that damage your reputation. They will always lie about what actually happened, in order to make themselves look better.

Also since you will see them regularly, you might fall into the trap of wanting what you once had, and develop feelings, despite you dumping them. I know it sounds like it won't happen, but it does, especially when you see they have moved on to another man.

If you randomly run into them once a year or so, that's fine. Forget about what they say or do, because it's no longer in your domain, and they can't affect you.