Anger

jhonny9546

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After extensive research here on the forum, and reflecting on all the experiences of my life—both lived and observed—I can finally say that I still haven't been able to understand anger. First of all, do you ever get angry with a woman? Does a woman make you angry, and how do you respond to that?

I have always had the feeling that some women are attracted to men who frequently display anger. They might respond to his "**** tests," or perhaps for other reasons. A perfect example would be my father, who gets angry easily, especially with my mother.

In contrast, personally, I rarely get angry. I don't give in to their tests. I either take things ironically or remain serious and silent. Especially with women, I don't concern myself with their altered emotional states. I try to calmly assert myself and put her in her place. This behavior has led me to question whether I am adopting the right approach, especially since I am in Italy, where many women seem to respond to my demeanor by becoming more upset than before. They sometimes tell me that I am strange for not reacting because "this means nothing to me" or "this is not relevant to me."


Many LTR's here where husbands display anger—like my father's—and verbally "dominate" their partners, instilling fear in them. In such cases, the woman feels "reprimanded." But If you do the mature man, and dominate her emotion, being the mountain, you are seen as a "weak" because you don't get angry.
 

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I think anger and neediness are extremely unattractive. I do think anger is better than catering in when the women is wrong.
Standing your ground and enforcing the boundaries is good. Maybe show a flash of anger, but anger is really really dangerous. I've known guys who have been arrested in arguments and merely raising your voice in an argument can get you arrested in the United States if a woman feels threatened. I'm not sure the rules in Italy.
 

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Anger issues is like having a mild heart attack on a regular basis. Take it from me, it’s a liability in every aspect of your life. Jobs will have problems; relationships with your family, and the way your kids view you and model you in their own lives; legal liability from short sighted/temporarily insane behaviors; relationships destroyed; your women and your children will not be honest with you, deepening your problems; i could go on. While it’s probably & likely rooted in ones childhood, its not excusable to not address it.
 

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Tbh I don't have a definite answer. I'd LIKE to be angry when I am angry , happy when I'm happy ect. You know ,just be myself.

On the flip side, to be "myself " isn't always the best available chess move on the board. So I do understand the theory behind standing ABOVE her ,being her leader so she knows that your emotions are mostly sincere and simultaneously "fair". The problem is that women don't necessarily wanna " play fair".

Recently there was this pop the balloon bs show where a woman( sexworker) tells a guy she didn't like him because he "looks gay". Like...damn sis. The narrator pointed out that when a man tell this to another man the game will be "played fair" and its basically a license to get violent. A woman on the otherhand , apparently can insult a man and still get away with it.

Untill she doesn't...
 
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