Anger is something men constantly have to deal with. It is common for men to express their anger. This may be good for the average man, but not for us Don Juans’.
Something I’ve noticed with a few members is that they get angry rather quickly and rather defensive, neither trait is good to have. Right now you may be thinking, “So what? What does this have to do with me? I’m not angry or defensive.” Well if this is the case listen up, because, what I am going to tell you will carry over to many aspects of your life and can improve your game.
My math teacher had a discussion about anger and insults; he said “You can only be offended if you want to be offended.” This may be a rather unusual thought, “I don’t want to be insulted, people just do it.” But when I thought about this more I realized that this is very true.
When someone is emotionally shallow, they will take insults like the truth, and ignore every compliment because they don’t believe it’s true. A person who is emotionally stable will ignore every insult because they know that they not true so it doesn’t matter what others may think, and take every compliment knowing they were already true.
When someone insults you and you become angry or insulted, you are showing how shallow you are. You are proving to them that you feel weak and less than them, this gives them a feeling of comfort. The best way to counteract this is by not being insulted, simple as it sounds, it is the best way, and if you fail to give them this comfort they will move onto someone who will.
A good way to deal with an insult is to brush it off. "Brush it off, what do you mean?" Well you have two choices there; either make the person look stupid, or just make a comment showing your lack of concern." Making the person look stupid is very easy to do, but not as succesful, it sometimes just adds and i wouldn't recomend doing it.
For example, when i was out with some people at school, someone from a public school said "I hear that (school name) sucks." Well I had to agree because I didn't like my school that much. Then as we were leaving he said, "I hear the people at (school name) are fags." Well I may not like the school, but I wasn't gonna let him get satisfaction from this so I said, "Well have fun working at a gas station while we're in college." This made him pretty pissed off, but he couldn't do anything.
The second way to deal with it is to show them you could care less. When someone says something that used to piss you off, you smile lightly, look at the person, and say "Alright dude, whatever you say." This is a very good statement to use, and when used repetedly still maintains its quality. It shows how you just dont care what they think about you, because you know the truth.
A generic insult is “You’re a Fag”. Many men get deeply hurt by this because they are insecure about themselves. Being the Don Juan you are, you ignore it because you know the ladies love you, and you give them the lovin’. Nothing anyone says about you can ever bring you down, because you are a Don Juan.
We Don Juans’ are the best there is, we know how to treat a lady, but still be a man. We are not jerks, and we are not AFC’s. We are the crème de la crème, the cream of the crop, or the best of the best. Nothing anyone can say can bring us down because we are the better man.
--Vincent
Something I’ve noticed with a few members is that they get angry rather quickly and rather defensive, neither trait is good to have. Right now you may be thinking, “So what? What does this have to do with me? I’m not angry or defensive.” Well if this is the case listen up, because, what I am going to tell you will carry over to many aspects of your life and can improve your game.
My math teacher had a discussion about anger and insults; he said “You can only be offended if you want to be offended.” This may be a rather unusual thought, “I don’t want to be insulted, people just do it.” But when I thought about this more I realized that this is very true.
When someone is emotionally shallow, they will take insults like the truth, and ignore every compliment because they don’t believe it’s true. A person who is emotionally stable will ignore every insult because they know that they not true so it doesn’t matter what others may think, and take every compliment knowing they were already true.
When someone insults you and you become angry or insulted, you are showing how shallow you are. You are proving to them that you feel weak and less than them, this gives them a feeling of comfort. The best way to counteract this is by not being insulted, simple as it sounds, it is the best way, and if you fail to give them this comfort they will move onto someone who will.
A good way to deal with an insult is to brush it off. "Brush it off, what do you mean?" Well you have two choices there; either make the person look stupid, or just make a comment showing your lack of concern." Making the person look stupid is very easy to do, but not as succesful, it sometimes just adds and i wouldn't recomend doing it.
For example, when i was out with some people at school, someone from a public school said "I hear that (school name) sucks." Well I had to agree because I didn't like my school that much. Then as we were leaving he said, "I hear the people at (school name) are fags." Well I may not like the school, but I wasn't gonna let him get satisfaction from this so I said, "Well have fun working at a gas station while we're in college." This made him pretty pissed off, but he couldn't do anything.
The second way to deal with it is to show them you could care less. When someone says something that used to piss you off, you smile lightly, look at the person, and say "Alright dude, whatever you say." This is a very good statement to use, and when used repetedly still maintains its quality. It shows how you just dont care what they think about you, because you know the truth.
A generic insult is “You’re a Fag”. Many men get deeply hurt by this because they are insecure about themselves. Being the Don Juan you are, you ignore it because you know the ladies love you, and you give them the lovin’. Nothing anyone says about you can ever bring you down, because you are a Don Juan.
We Don Juans’ are the best there is, we know how to treat a lady, but still be a man. We are not jerks, and we are not AFC’s. We are the crème de la crème, the cream of the crop, or the best of the best. Nothing anyone can say can bring us down because we are the better man.
--Vincent
