********...and a LJBF turnaround

[The_King]

OK....******** and LJBF turnaround experience

There is the girl that I have been kiss closing if she is out on a Friday night afor the last couple of weeks (I haqve not been out on adat with her) when I am not seeing one of my other women. Last night we are down the pub, I am celebrating a friends birthday and she is there celebrating it to. I did not arrange to meet her.

Well, I kind of play it cold but show some interest. Then, as the night goes on. she pulls me to one side and says

"I think we should be friends"

I was thinking wtf, we are not dating and all that, where did that come from. I just smile back at her with a knowing ****y look, i.e an eyebrow raised. She says stop giving me the raised eyebrow.....so...I just raise the other one instead. OK, I was pretty annoyed at ter LJBF comment, so I was like...how can I get this back on track.

What would you guys do?

My approach was just to crank the whole friends thing up 10x. Like reintroducing her to our mutual friends as have you met my new best friend, and basically just carried on having fun, not begging her like an AFC for a reason etc for the LJBF or trying to gain her approval directly. This is where having other options definately helps as it helps keep any sort of desperaiton or supplicaitng behaviour away, as you know you have got other options, which should be the DJ attitude anyway. As you know you can seduce another woman. Anyway, she pulls me aside later and says

"I am attracted to you"

And hugs me (ok...should of kissed her then) But she goes onto say, she does not want to get hurt ...you see my problem is that I have reputation as abit of player at the moment within her friends circle having dated others close to them. However, I am thinking good, have got it back on track, passed her test and she also invites me out saturday night ....but I will not go. The only thing is she was acting cold again by the night, like suddenly a bit~ch shield was up. Therefore wit hthis shield and a few beers in me, I nearlly commited a major DJ crime by saying..I really do like you and am not looking to play you..or something to that effect...luckily managed to rid my mind of spouting wussy comments.

The plan is to leave it until sunday (5 days away) give her a call and make plans then.

Opinions...?

 

[Starman]

This is a great example of how women are crazier than $hit house rats and that they are all screwed in the head.

Good work..keep the friend notch up just a little longer..JUST in case she is testing to see if your reaction to "lets just be friends" was just a front..or if she could Have you as soon as she says "Im attracted to you"..just to see if you cave in.

She doesnt want to get hurt?? She is already assuming you have romantic interest in her? and that its all up to her to give you the green light?

 

[DiamondMind]

Originally posted by The_King

The plan is to leave it until sunday (5 days away) give her a call and make plans then.

Opinions...?

Perfect plan. Thats all you can do anyway.

From what it sounds like, she expected you to go all Pavlov's Dog on her when she 'gave' you 'permission' to see her. Give her a call in a few days, take it from there, etc.

But, ya, womens' irrational behaviours and drastic mood swings are NOT worth trying to figure out (well, duh ehehhe)...you simply have better things to do (or you should anyway)...Nascar Racing 2003 online perhaps....inventing something...BBQ'ing a yummy steak....anything but trying to play 'figure her behaviour out'.

The best I've heard it put is "Men Think, Women Feel". Sums it all up for me at any rate. I've told that to several longtime married friends and most said....."Wow....ya, you know.....that would explain a lot".

I love the Spock-eyebrow thing....I consider it a 'secret weapon' of sorts. Master the look of 'mild amusement' and that can set the hook a lot of the time...look at her as a brat who needs a spanking lol!

 

[Starman]

I cant help but to analyze every persons word..try to resolve their angle..its kinda my profession..and with the ladies..I sometimes goto extreme's..and it could drive you nuts.

So yea, trying to figure women out (an irony on this site) is sometimes futile..they are all the same yet so different

 

[DiamondMind]

Originally posted by Starman
I cant help but to analyze every persons word..try to resolve their angle..its kinda my profession..and with the ladies..I sometimes goto extreme's..and it could drive you nuts.

So yea, trying to figure women out (an irony on this site) is sometimes futile..they are all the same yet so different

Irony aside (I liked that line hheheh), this site is 100% right in what women respond to, and what triggers 'attraction', and guiding guys thru the 'minefield' of womens' thoughts and intents. Wow, I sound like the Double Your Dating guy doh.....! He is pretty much bang on too...the newsletters 'get it'.

 

[Lionheart]

Women make almost perfect sense when looked at from the right angle.

The only problem is that any thing that is ruled predominately by emotion cannot be defined in terms of logic, i.e. Black and White.

That is why, we as logical men, cannot totally define women in terms of our logical rules, as their emotions and feelings are partially subjective, we can do our best though.

And what we have found works in 90% (if not more) situations, once you start looking at sexuality in terms of nature and body instead of mind, then it starts making much more sense.

 

[DiamondMind]

Originally posted by Lionheart
Women make almost perfect sense when looked at from the right angle.

The only problem is that any thing that is ruled predominately by emotion cannot be defined in terms of logic, i.e. Black and White.

That is why, we as logical men, cannot totally define women in terms of our logical rules, as their emotions and feelings are partially subjective, we can do our best though.

And what we have found works in 90% (if not more) situations, once you start looking at sexuality in terms of nature and body instead of mind, then it starts making much more sense.

Yea, what he said

 

[TesuqueRed]

You did this under the influence??? Wow--this is why training is so important, because--as the marines say--you fight like you train.

Or something like that.

 

[vdk]

I would NEXT her if I were you. She is one minute hot and then cold another. A DJ rule is to eject when heading or being told you are in the LJBF zone.

Actually drive her crazy and let her initiate the contacts. flirt on her friends and watch the 'are you gay?' complements coming your way.

In conclusion, DONT call her. Build good rapport with her and then use her as social spoof.

 

[TesuqueRed]

She's still in play, vdk...hot/cold means the action is still live, this isn't a terminal red flag situation yet, and he's handling it.

 

[The_King]

Cheers for the replies guys...

I think its pretty much still on... I can not see why not. I will call her Sunday, if I do. Its just amusing seeing women give out these mixed signals, and when armed with the knowledge of a DJ, how you can still remain in control of the situation,the way I see it, if I can keep the LJBF's turnaround up at X10, soon, the roles are going to be reversed and she is going to be trying to gain my approval . Next time, I see her, its going to be,

"so how is my new best friend doing?".....

Its going to drive her crazy, I think. Just got to be carefull not to have her accusing me of playing games, but then again, it shows she is thinking about me and the attraction is there, else why should it bother her...she just wants to know for sure I like her.

 

[T.T. Boy]

Originally posted by vdk
Build good rapport with her and then use her as social spoof.

LOL, is that when you're seen in public with psycho girls?