Am I still in the game?

[mecca411]

Met this girl back in December but didn't end up calling because I got sick and there was the Christmas holidays so I wasn't in town. Ran into her sister(who I'd also met at the same time), a week ago yesterday, who approached me and asked me if I remembered her and told me that I should call her sis ecven though it had been almost 3 weeks cuz "she'd like that". I said ok and figured I'd call her the following Weds for a friday date at a martini lounge.

Tried her on Weds and got her machine. Never left a message. Called her on Thursday and got the machine again and left no message. Didn't want to call her 3 days in a row, so I didn't call on Friday. Should I call her today (Sunday) and make plans for the middle of the week? If so, what if I get her machine again, should I leave a message? I'd like to go out for a few drinks since it's relaxing. This means that I won't be driving. Should I just get her to meet me close to the lounge? Let me know what you think.

M.

 

[OddTech]

Don't leave the message, but call her one last time. Don't get your hope too high. Unless there is a very serious excuse, it looks like she's flaking on you.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She is not flaking on him because she does not even know that he is trying to call her - it was over 3 weeks ago and no contact.

If her sister told you to call her then this girl must of been talking about you to her sister - and was expecting your call. I would call her and say you were busy doing school work and fell in a coma, blah, blah, blah and that is why it took u a month to get back to her and go to a date that requires you to pick her up which imples no alcohol or no more than 2 drinks , and yes take a car if you have one and do not make her walk or bus it, if it ain't absolutely necessary! This would be tacky for a first date.

I would not leave a message, i would keep calling hera few times a day until i reached her. Use *67 ot whatever it is b4 u call.

 

[chlywly]

Just call again in two days, btw I don't see why people are so terrified about leaving messages, answering machines are for the pruposes of checking them.. People and women DO check their machines a lot more then men, and well if she's interested; which she sounds like she is she's going to call you.

You're all so pathetically scared of walking on egg-shells, that you're all trying to create a false sense of security and control of the situation, look you shouldn't try to play these silly games in gaining this false interest from a woman.

If you're an interesting character and have whit/charisma and confidense she will be attracted to you non the less.

Leave a ****ing message, and stop worrying about it. If she calls back she's interested, if not she's not. Move on.

Say hey remember me bla bla you popped into my mind etc i'd like to get together or bla bla something short and simple...

Don't be such a *****

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

After each of these calls she probably checks her caller ID and notices its the same number that calls and never leaves a message. Who is this person and what's their problem?

Just something to consider....

 

[chlywly]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
After each of these calls she probably checks her caller ID and notices its the same number that calls and never leaves a message. Who is this person and what's their problem?

Just something to consider....

See, this man lives on earth, uses logic and understands reality

 

[Surfboard]

If so, what if I get her machine again, should I leave a message?

Well mecca411, you're gonna have to make this decision on your own. Some of these guys say "Don't leave a message," and some say to go ahead and do it.

Let me give you something to think about though. I have a basic answering machine that doesn't have caller ID, and I leave it on 24 hours a day. It's great for avoiding unwanted phone calls.

Anyway, everyday when I get home from work I check my messages. If somebody doesn't leave a message, I obviously won't know who it was.

Now, if this girl that you're trying to get in touch with lives her life like I live mine, then she will NEVER know that you were trying to get ahold of her. So, you can try calling her everyday for the rest of your life, or just leave a message with your name and phone number.

Now which one do you think is the MOST LOGICAL choice?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Ok first of all do you have her home phone # or her cell??? If its her cell than you should have blocked your caller id and called. If it was her home phone # she probably has no idea that you called. I'd call one last time in the next couple days and leave a message. Don't explain yourself too much, just make it short and too the point. If she's interested at all she'll call you.




PIMP

 

[Rondavu]

Don't worry about it man. Leave a message. She can't answer the phone when she's banging a guy. She'll get back to you when she's finished.

Ouch!

 

[Shot Callin]

Yeah I have tried the don't leave any messages because they don't seem cool thing... and it doesn't work. Of course you don't want to leave three in a row, but in moderation it is fine.

Like the man said, leave a short message, say whats up.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I say 'don't leave a message' because he has never talked to this girl yet and it was a month ago that he got the number! She gets the message and she's like "was this guy in a coma to wait so long". "I'll wait a month to return his cal" - I'm being dramatic here to make a point -- he has not established a rapport with this chick yet and gives her no basis in thought to respond to his message.

If they had a date already -- ok - then it's cool to leave a message -- and if she don't call back then you know she is not interested!

But you have to nake the first verbal contact so that you have an opportunity to introduce yourself to her and make her have a reason to succomb to your wooing advances. This is not done with a 20 second message and has much less of an affect on the recpient.

Again -- always use*67 before you call - so she don't have your 7 failed attempts on record and then she mentally puts the stalker label on you .

 

[Grey Fox]

This situation was the exception to the rule, this one time it would have been acceptable to leave a message on her machine.

1. A lot of time passed and you did not call. I don't blame you for not calling, you had other important things to do. But after she made an effort to get into contact with you and told you call through her little sis. Cause you didn't get in touch with her you really closed your window of oppurtunity.

2. By leaving a message you place the ball in her court. Either she will call or she won't(read: thats a no). Its no longer your problem and you can't be accused of playing games or whatever. Also calling her shouldn't matter because you should continue to pursue others. A big flaw with a lot of DJs is that once you get a number you drop all other possible leads and if that number doesn't pan out you've wasted a lot of time and those leads.

-Grey Fox

 

[MadTyteYo!]

i read somewhere that the best time to call a HB is on Sundays thru Tuesdays. the reason is because they usually arent occupied and it gives them enough time to get ready to make plans.