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Am I spending too much time with this girl?

Knicknack

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I've been dating this girl for almost a month now. Last Friday we went to a concert and had a great time. On saturday she came over for dinner and we had a moderately good time. Yesterday(Sunday) we went to a baseball game and she just seemed out of it. Didn't really talk much and didn't seem like her usual self.

I'm afraid I pushed it a little too far by taking her out 3 days in a row. She did text message me last night after our date and said, "thanx for the weekend. i have so much fun w/ u"...

if she has so much fun why the hell was she acting like a dead beat yesterday?

The reason I wanted to spend a little extra time with her was because she is leaving for school soon and we won't be able to see eachother except every couple weeks or so.

I'm going to give her a day or so of thinking. i.e. i'm not going to communicate with her whatsoever.
 

chlywly

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3 days together is not a problem unless of course you have a amazing day the first and then don't top it off... I would have started out with something a little modest at first and progressed with more and more fun each time.

Anyways, if she says she had fun no reason to suspect otherwise :)


Dj'ing is great and looking for sygnals is great too, but seriously you just have to TRUST people and hope they are honest, too many mind-games are not a good thing, so when someone says something take it as is, use your intuition.

Good luck.
 

squirrels

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Could be too much time together right away...not sure.

Now would be a good time to take a break, though, cuz it sounds like she's getting worn down, and you probably are too. You don't want to wear out all the fun and the mystery by being together for a LONG time.

Rule of thumb is that as long as you both were having fun, it's all good. You just don't want to drag it to a point of boredom. Sunday was your sign that this particular interval was ready to end. I think you ended it on a good note, though. Calling her up and asking to hang out today (Monday) would be a mistake. I think you've got the right idea. Make yourself scarce for a couple days, then call again if you want.

She may BE the greatest thing in the world, but exercise some control. If you've got a hobby, focus on that for a day or two...she'll be there when you come back to her. It sounds liek the interest is there. :)
 
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aaahh don't worry about it, you aren't spending too much time with her...Now if you were to like see her everyday, do soemthing everyday, talk on the phone for hours, then that is spending too much time with her.

You're doing fine!

Now with her going to school and all, you should ina way keep your options with women open because you never know what could happen with her being away for school. But when you do see her, it should be memorable you know what I'm saying?
 

Knicknack

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chlywly was right. we had an amazing friday, so saturday and sunday just couldn't live up to it.

thanks for the replies.
 
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