Am i in friend zone or not?

[DannyM]

well a few months ago i met a girl from pof...we had a few dates...kissed etc but nothing major went down...aftera few dates she told me she really liked me but just as a friend and she had met someone else, anyway i stopped txting her much but she still kept txting me every now and then.

We don't see each other for 3 months but keep txting ocasionally and one night i just randomly sent her a txt saying "Any good ideas where to take a girl on a 2nd date?" she sent me a txt back saying "who's the lucky lady...whats the chance she'll be as good as me?" I didn't reply back and then the day after she txt me to ask how it went which i also ignored.

Anyhow i txt her to tell her that i had a new girlfriend and around the same time her boyfriend dumped her lol....Anyway's shes been txting me lots so i agreed to meet up with her again for a friendly meal etc....we ate, watched a movie at cinema, danced in a club abit and i hgave her an arm massage which she didnt seem to mind.

A few days later i break up with my gf and i told the girl about it and she called me to check i was ok, I then suggest we should go out thursday to which she sends me a txt saying this "My parents are out for their anniversary next thursday so do you fancy coming to mine and i'll sort some food out and we can watch soem geeky crime dvd or something?"

Im just not sure if this is a friendly thing or I could have sex with her?

Forgot to add she is dating other guys which she openely tells me about and i do the same with her but for other girls.

 

[froznie]

I would've been more direct with her. When I meet a girl I usually tell them that for me sex is an important part of a relationship so after several dates, usually 3-5, if we still haven't gotten intimate I'll stop seeing them. I tell them right from the start, so when we get to 3rd date they know that if they want to keep seeing me they're going to have to start taking their clothes off soon. You can even cut it off right away at the 3rd date, but I can tolerate waiting until 5 if I feel like it. But they know it's their last chance to keep seeing me.

Some girls act really offended, I get lines that sound like "I can't just sleep with all the guys I have a few dates with, I'm not a slut!" But then often they still do it, if I've established to them that I'm honest and they trust me enough to know that I'm not kidding when I say that I'm going to stop seeing them if they don't pull out. I let them know I won't be manipulated. Why would I stick to a relationship if I'm not getting what I want out of it? Girls do that to us. If they're not getting what they want, they're out so fast they leave our heads spinning.

They want sex as much as we do but they use it as a power tool to manipulate guys. I don't think it's hopeless with this girl. Try being totally honest with her. She knows already whether or not she wants to do it with you, if she doesn't want to she never will, but if she wants to she might just be holding back and using it as a leverage to get power over you. There's nothing wrong with expressing a sexual interest. You could tell her that you enjoy her company but that you're looking for something more intimate, and that if you stay platonic for too long you're going to move on because the relationship is not heading in the direction you want it to. You don't want her to waste your time. Say it in your own words. It's the truth. Nothing to be ashamed of. If she wants you to be in the friend zone or whatever it is, that's her thing.

 

[DannyM]

Ok this date is tonight...any ideas how to esclalate into something sexual?

 

[sexysuave]

instead of going out she suggests that you come over ... yes man, of course there is a chance.. you need to go over there and fvck her.

Don't go massaging her arm this time and acting like it's some big deal. "Oh I massgaed her arm and she didnt' seem to mind". Common man, make a sexual move on this chick. You should have followed up the massage with a kiss, and kino.

Have you never made a move on a girl while watching a movie?

Start making out with her, and using your hands to kino her up and get her turned on. Take it slow but keep proceeding. When you can tell that she is hot and bothered, start taking pieces of clothes off. If she ever stops you just dont' get freaked out, keep making out with her and turn her on some more, it just means that you gotta turn her on a little bit more. So let's say you go to take her bra off and she kinda grabs your hand, well it's ok. Keep making out with her and running your hands all over her body. CAress her boobs through the bra, and kiss her neck and her boobs and anything else, and smell her a bit and make out some more, and a few minutes later, just reach around and take the bra off.

In other words, you are taking one step back and two steps forward, if ever stopped. Same goes with her pants, if she ever grabs your hand to hold you back, just keep getting her turned on more, dont' give up, you'll probably end up screwing her.

And I prefer to show her what we will do with actions, rather then telling her "oh you have to sleep with me by 3rd date". Nothing wrong with letting her know that you're just in it for the sex, if that's all your in it for, but I prefer just doing my thing and let your ACTIONS speak for you... if you only see her once a week or less, and are just mainly sexual with her and dont' take her out on dates, she will know that you're only in it for the sex. Just don't talk to her or text her every day like you guys are dating or something..

But you are already getting invided for one on one time at her place.. dude... this is like a hidden code "do you wanna come over and f*ck", so no matter what she really meant by it, you better take it as "do you wanna come over and f*ck" and act accordingly. oh, and have fun

 

[r0cky]

Ok this date is tonight...any ideas how to esclalate into something sexual?

change your personality into a man with balls.