Am I getting out of the friendzone? (pretty long read)

[CvB]

Hey guys, I'm pretty new here but have read a lot of articles and most say you can't get out of the friendzone, but I'm trying anyway. I'd like your evaluation of my situation.

There is this girl I've known for a year and a half now, I got to know her because a friend of mine was in love with her. Naturally I didn't make any moves then and quickly I became a good friend and we discussed alot of problems with each other, sent each other some textmessages and spoke alot through msn. She and my friend never got into a relationship of any kind, they are superficial friends now.

This went on until about the beginning of this year, we spoke less and less, mainly because I wasn't on msn as much anymore and she texted me about once every two weeks. This went on until about three weeks ago.

Since two months I've been having a lot more succes with the ladies, kissed with a few, even had something fairly serious for almost two weeks (up till two months ago I had only kissed once and this was more because of a bet than anything else).

Three weeks ago I spoke to the lady friend in question again and we arranged a date. We went to the forest, had a sort of pick nick by moonlight and she lay in my arms since we sat on the ground. We played a bit with each others hands and tickled each other, you know, pretty innocent stuff.

Since that night, she textmessages me about three times a day, with the most useless messages like: look how pretty the moon is now, or , yay I made an intelligence tets and I scored 139! We saw each other a few times after that and everytime it was really fun and we had a good time, nothing more happened though.

Now she is on vacation for four weeks with around thirty people she doesn't know yet. Sunday, the day before she left, we had another picknick with each other, and she said I really mean a lot to her and she'd miss me while she was away and she was really glad she could see me before going.

I'm afraid she will get to know a lot of guys on vacation who are interested in her, she is really attractive, I'd say at least HB 8 .

Now....I don't really know what my question is....I guess I just wanted to rant a little but still, do you guys think her interest level is high enough; i.e. am I coming out of the friendzone? Will she still want me after the vacation? maybe she will miss me while on vacation and realise we could be a great couple?

 

[b's nuts]

you haven't even kissed this girl, and you are worried about her being swept away while on vacation with 30 guys who have bigger cacks than you. ONEITIS. You need to not think about this girl so much, cuz it will mess up your game and you will put her on a pedastool. She is gone for four weeks? go meet some new girls while she is gone, and when she gets back shell be jealous.

 

[Dee-Zy]

B's Nuts is harsh, but basicly - yeah ... while she is gone, do yourself a favor and get with other girls, for now anyways.

Then when she comes back, I'm assuming she will want to see you, she'll sms you or something. When you will see her, give her a hug and kiss her.

Then you'll know.

Otherwise, there's nothing we can tell you. I mean, she could really like you (as in been hinting you all this time for you to make a move before she leaves) or she was just LJBF you.

god knows.

 

[Ice Cold]

She's not stupid, she knows where it's going and she seems intrested. You should make more active moves GENTLY

You should flirt with her. You should increase the sexual tension between you with A BIT more aggressive stuff at first.

If you just kiss her out of the blue, it's may not be good.

Hug her, touch her, wink at her, massage her, smell her....

Do this over a couple of times you see each other.

then kiss and undress her.

 

[CvB]

Thanks for the reply's guys!

I don't plan to do nothing while she is away, we don't have anything serious (yet) so, why shouldn't I just go after other women a bit, maybe I'll meet someone who I'd rather be with than her, you never know.

You guys are right that I should take it slow, I've been cranking up the tension slightly in every date, touching her a bit more/more intimate, smelling her hair, lighting a candle and touching her hands.

Usually when we say goodbye we hug and kiss three times on the cheeks, but lately she doesn't want this anymore, she says it's too common, like she does that with everyone. Now we hug a lot longer and give one real kiss on the cheek, not the standard sideways kiss...once she's back, I'm taking her out to a restaurant, watch a movie at my place and kiss her on the mouth when we say goodbye (or maybe sooner if all goes really well), guess I'll know then.

I know I have to take it slowly, because there was this other guy, he frenchkissed her one time out of the blue and she immediately broke all contact off with him. It's a really decent girl and a bit shy. Oh well, thanks for the replies and in a month I'll let you know what happened.

 

[Seeph]

Your analyzing this too much.. She said that a hug and 3 kisses on the cheek is tooo common for you and her to be doing.. so now its just one long kiss? When she gets back take her out or whatever, when you get back to your place pop in a movie, but talk to her .. when you start touching/getting intimate stop and look into her eyes, then at her lips, then into her eyes again, she will know what you want. At this point she will either stop it, or not do anything. If she doesnt do anything then she is saying it's ok for you to go in for the kiss. Don't french kiss her imediately, find out if she is going to keep making out with you and take it from there.

 

[zerocelcius]

OK here is the solution for all you LJBF Mother ****ers......

Like the good friend you are remmember their Birth Day. Ok here is how you stop being just a friend. For their Birth Day you get them somthing special. Stay with me step by step:

1. save your present for last.
2. make a big deal out of it all day.
3. go in the other room to get it.
4. come out with it in your hand.
5. give her you very special present.

Her Very Own Mushroom Stamp

Welcome to the used to be just friends... lol

 

[Dee-Zy]

I have no idea what the hell Zero is talking about but I INSIST that you kiss her as soon as you see her.


What more of a light can it be for you?

"I don't want to kiss 3x on the cheeks anymore, it's too common"

******** for KISS ME!!!!

"Let's hug longer and have a real kiss on the cheek"

******** for I want to be in your arms all day, KISS ME YOU DUMB MINDED FOOL!!!

The stuff you mentionned before (in your original post) were pretty much irrevelant, but her statements here are fukkin clear.

You are moving too slow. She gave you an ultimatum before she left and you didn't take it.


I say, you kiss her as SOON as you see her. If you don't have the balls for it - good lord, at least kiss her during the date, don't wait until the end. You are moving too slow!!! She might get fed up. If not already.

 

[superpud]

Hey CvB, do what everybody suggested, check out other women. Practice on them. When this girl comes back, use the excitement of seeing each other again and just lay one on her. She'll definitely be surprised! Furthermore, you'll come off as THE MAN in her eyes. Don't worry about it, just do it. Then, if she responds well, you have reached the next level. You're IN! If she dosen't respond well, cast her off to the friend zone and forget about it. Treat her like it never happened and just be her friend. You can bet, she won't forget and will always wonder how you moved on so well and easily. And you may get another shot at again. Women are like rollercoasters, you got to get them when they're high!

 

[CvB]

Originally posted by superpud
Hey CvB, do what everybody suggested, check out other women. Practice on them. When this girl comes back, use the excitement of seeing each other again and just lay one on her. She'll definitely be surprised! Furthermore, you'll come off as THE MAN in her eyes. Don't worry about it, just do it. Then, if she responds well, you have reached the next level. You're IN! If she dosen't respond well, cast her off to the friend zone and forget about it. Treat her like it never happened and just be her friend. You can bet, she won't forget and will always wonder how you moved on so well and easily. And you may get another shot at again. Women are like rollercoasters, you got to get them when they're high!

Yeah you're right, I'll definitely do it like this!

Thanks for all the replies guys, but zerocelcius...what you said didn't make any sense