am I about to be flaked on?

[Robert28]

this is weird. anyways i met this girl on match.com and we emailed each other a few times, exchanged numbers, all that stuff. we spoke on the phone and everything seemed to be going great, we set up a time to hangout 2 days from then. i thought all was peachy dandy, right? well here's where the red flags start popping up. i call her the day we're supposed to meet to see if we can change it from 7 to 7:30. her phones been disconnected.lol i thought well that's that, not date for me since i can't get ahole of her. so i sent her an email, all i said was "i tried to call you but your phone's turned off. guess this is a hint. later". so i get a call from this girl the next day(today) but from a different number.lol she gives me this b.s about how shes having issues with that phone yada yada yada. then she asks me if we can hangout tomorrow night. i figure sure why not, maybe her excuse was legit since she did call me. well i go to look at her page tonight on match.com and guess what? i'm blocked.lol now the question is, is this chick going to stand me up tomorrow or should i go through with it and show up at the time and place we set, well that she set acctually. like i said, all of our convos have gone very well, the phone convo was great and didn't last but maybe 7 min. she didn't start acting weird until AFTER the phone convo, the first one. she even told me she was looking forward to our date tomorrow when i spoke to her on the phone today, but yet she blocked me on match.com? somethings just not right with this chick. what say you? my gut is telling me she's going to not show up, but another part of me thinks what if this broad does show up and i don't thinking she's going to stand me up?

 

[Joe Stud]

you should assume the date is on (she knows how to contact you if she was to want to flake, right?), and go meet her. if she flakes, theres no excuse...

 

[Robert28]

you should assume the date is on (she knows how to contact you if she was to want to flake, right?), and go meet her. if she flakes, theres no excuse...

yeah i guess but you have to admit. that's some weird $h!t going on(the number being dissconnected all of a sudden, her blocking me). i just don't feel like waisting my night to go meet some girl whos possibly going to stand me up. there's a 50/50 chance she wont, and if she does it's not like i'll ever hear from her again anyways. there's tons of other stuff i could be doing other then being stood up by some wack job girl who wants to play games.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Did she accidentally press a wrong f*cking button or something and put you on ignore? I wouldn't show up if she's blocking you. Let her call and ask "where were you" and you can list the reasons why you think she's a flake i.e. phone disconnecting and her blocking you on match.com.

Better yet when she calls, have some self respect and don't even answer.

 

[Kailex]

i call her the day we're supposed to meet to see if we can change it from 7 to 7:30. her phones been disconnected.lol i thought well that's that, not date for me since i can't get ahole of her. so i sent her an email, all i said was "i tried to call you but your phone's turned off. guess this is a hint. later". so i get a call from this girl the next day(today) but from a different number.lol she gives me this b.s about how shes having issues with that phone yada yada yada.

This actually happened to me a few weeks ago.
I was having a bit of a problem with my provider with trying to set a new contract (it had expired) and decided to cancel the phone and went to a new provider with a different number.

You emailed her, she answered. Give her the benefit of the doubt here.
We can't automatically think that everything is a red flag.

then she asks me if we can hangout tomorrow night. i figure sure why not, maybe her excuse was legit since she did call me. well i go to look at her page tonight on match.com and guess what? i'm blocked.lol now the question is, is this chick going to stand me up tomorrow or should i go through with it and show up at the time and place we set, well that she set acctually. like i said, all of our convos have gone very well, the phone convo was great and didn't last but maybe 7 min. she didn't start acting weird until AFTER the phone convo, the first one. she even told me she was looking forward to our date tomorrow when i spoke to her on the phone today, but yet she blocked me on match.com? somethings just not right with this chick. what say you? my gut is telling me she's going to not show up, but another part of me thinks what if this broad does show up and i don't thinking she's going to stand me up?

Just show up. Why try to take preemptive measures when you don't really know what's going on. If she flakes, go back to Hooters. :rockon:

You say she was acting weird, but you've shown nothing really to demonstrate that she is in fact, acting weird.

If I remember, isn't Add to Favorites really close to the Block button? Maybe she pressed the wrong one?

I mean, in the end, the only surefire way to know is to show up.
I just don't get why we, as men, are so afraid to get flaked on. If it happens, it happens. But I'd rather be 100% sure that that was the case then to try to play it safe and not get flaked on "officially".

If I get flaked on, I just go somewhere else and have a good time.
It's a girl from Match.com.

 

[DonGorgon]

....well i go to look at her page tonight on match.com and guess what? i'm blocked.lol now the question is....

there is no question... time to keep searching cause she is done... she had many many men chasing her online and she is choosing who to see and ho to not see. you were eliminated !

 

[Robert28]

well the woman is 30 yrs old, i've given her no cause for alarm whatsoever so if she does end up standing me up that proves there is something wrong with this chick. hopefully if she plans on not showing up the least she will do is text me and let me know...afterall shes 30, right?

 

[todays_news]

dont show up.

assume she's blocked you. retain self respect, and dont go.

plus if she turns up and you're nowhere to be seen, if she rings you then you have a good set of reasons for not showing up.

in some misplaced way, her turning up and you then listing your reasons as to why you werent there might in some sick way raise her interest, as it makes you more of a challenge.

^tbh I doubt it. But weirder things have happened with women. Interesting..

 

[Robert28]

yeah i dont think i am gonna go. this girl is hot, and like someone said earlier, shes got tons of guys after her on match.com and probably in real life. i bet she would never expect an average joe like me to stand her up.haha somethings just not right about it. her blocking me wasn't on accident, and thinking back on our two phone conversations she did come off as she could be a big b!tch if she wanted to be. you could just tell. my gut is telling me that she's not going to showup anyways, but if she does and calls me wondering where i'm at what do i do/say? just tell her i didn't think she was going to showup or do i call now and cancel?

 

[amoka]

Why are you checking her profile again after you setup a date with her? Wanted to see if she has "in relationship" on her profile? Do what Kailex suggested. Show up, if she does not, don't call her or email her asking why she did not show up. Delete her information completely.

 

[Robert28]

Why are you checking her profile again after you setup a date with her? Wanted to see if she has "in relationship" on her profile? Do what Kailex suggested. Show up, if she does not, don't call her or email her asking why she did not show up. Delete her information completely.

nope. i wanted to see how to spell the name of the restaraunt we were supposed to meet at and i remembered she had it on her profile, so i went to look at it to see how to spell the name for directions. where we are supposed to meet is 45 min away for me, i really don't feel like driving all that way just to get stood up. even if i did showup and she didnt, i sure as $h!t am not going to call her or email her(well i cant do that anyways since she blocked me) and ask "why didnt you show up boo hoo hoo". the day we were supposed to go out the first time i couldnt get ahold of her to ask if we could make it 730 instead of 7 because her phone was mysteriously cut off. i chalked it up to that being that and we weren't going to go out. she called me from another number an hour before we were supposed to meet and gave me some story, then rescheduled for tonight. it wasnt til after then i realized she had blocked me from match.com. do you not see the weirdness in all of this?

 

[Donnie Darko]

Honestly, it sounds like you are preemptively NEXTing yourself.

You have essentially convinced yourself that she is not going to show up and you are afraid of being flaked on.

Everyone gets flaked on because girls are flakey.

Preemptively NEXTing yourself is not the answer.

Take action. Assume that she will show up and go meet her for the date.

If she doesn't show up, then delete her information and don't call or e-mail her again. Don't confront her about it. Just silently walk away.

45 minutes is not that big of a deal for a drive.

But why are you taking her to a restaurant for a first date? That is boring. Everyone does that. Why spend so much money by taking a girl to a restaurant to just meet someone that you never met before? STOP doing that.

Instead try taking a girl out for a coffee or a drink for a first date. Or an art crawl or some other interesting area that you can walk around, look at interesting things and chat. Or action dates like ice skating, bowling, pool, put-put golf, etc.

Eliminate restaurants from your dating routine until you are at least having sex with her.

 

[Robert28]

Honestly, it sounds like you are preemptively NEXTing yourself.

You have essentially convinced yourself that she is not going to show up and you are afraid of being flaked on.

Everyone gets flaked on because girls are flakey.

Preemptively NEXTing yourself is not the answer.

Take action. Assume that she will show up and go meet her for the date.

If she doesn't show up, then delete her information and don't call or e-mail her again. Don't confront her about it. Just silently walk away.

45 minutes is not that big of a deal for a drive.

But why are you taking her to a restaurant for a first date? That is boring. Everyone does that. Why spend so much money by taking a girl to a restaurant to just meet someone that you never met before? STOP doing that.

Instead try taking a girl out for a coffee or a drink for a first date. Or an art crawl or some other interesting area that you can walk around, look at interesting things and chat. Or action dates like ice skating, bowling, pool, put-put golf, etc.

Eliminate restaurants from your dating routine until you are at least having sex with her.

well i've been flaked on, stood up, whatever you want to call it plenty of times. more so in the past couple of years then anytime before, but i've had my share of it. this one just seems so obvious though, the others were kind of a shock. i didn't suggest going to a restaraunt the first date, she did. in fact i suggested we meet for a drink or go dancing, but she said no to that and brought up her favorite restaraunt. 45 min is nothing to go meet a girl you think is going to be interested, but 45 min is a looong drive to get stood up. i dunno, maybe i'll call and cancel and see if she'll do it tomorrow and see how she reacts. shes cancelled on me once so i owe her one.

 

[scorpio1138]

in fact i suggested we meet for a drink or go dancing, but she said no to that and brought up her favorite restaraunt.

So she could make you pay I would bet...

Don't show up. Txt her something came up and you can't make it, but counter offer for another time. If she really is interested in you, she will contact you again.

 

[Robert28]

UPDATE: i just called her to see if we could reschedule and guess what? she forgot we were supposed to be going out tonight! she told me to call her tomorrow so we could reschedule(haha riiight). i told all of you i had a bad feeling about this and i was right! she acts like she wants to hangout, but her actions dont add up. she keeps rescheduling, and she addmitted she forgot we were supposed to hangout tonight.lol she did say "i am looking forward to meeting you, i think we will have fun".haha whatever. if anyone learned anything from this, ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING. its never wrong!

 

[scorpio1138]

Good Good Good!

Now Next her a$$.

 

[Kailex]

UPDATE: i just called her to see if we could reschedule and guess what? she forgot we were supposed to be going out tonight! she told me to call her tomorrow so we could reschedule(haha riiight). i told all of you i had a bad feeling about this and i was right! she acts like she wants to hangout, but her actions dont add up. she keeps rescheduling, and she addmitted she forgot we were supposed to hangout tonight.lol she did say "i am looking forward to meeting you, i think we will have fun".haha whatever. if anyone learned anything from this, ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING. its never wrong!

When she suggested a restaurant, you should have said: I don't do dinner on first dates, sorry.

Do that from now on.
NO DINNER DATES.

If she doesn't want to do something YOU want to do... PASS.

And second... we already know she's nexted.

But do know that she didn't forget, it's just obviously zero interest.
Whatever, her loss.

Hell, call her tomorrow and tell her you'll pick her up and then delete all her info and do something else instead.

 

[amoka]

UPDATE: i just called her to see if we could reschedule and guess what? she forgot we were supposed to be going out tonight! she told me to call her tomorrow so we could reschedule(haha riiight). i told all of you i had a bad feeling about this and i was right! she acts like she wants to hangout, but her actions dont add up. she keeps rescheduling, and she addmitted she forgot we were supposed to hangout tonight.lol she did say "i am looking forward to meeting you, i think we will have fun".haha whatever. if anyone learned anything from this, ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING. its never wrong!

Why do you keep on calling her to reschedule? If she was my sister or any relative of mine, I would have asked her to NEVER gone out with you, period. Simply because you're UNCERTAIN.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Dude, practically the ONLY women who ever show up FOR ME, at least, are non-American women. Asians seem to Always show up, and they're nervous, yes, but they've got balls. All of our women need to be thrown in the zoo and be raped by the animals for their conduct. They're not even human. They're worthless.

 

[Robert28]

Why do you keep on calling her to reschedule? If she was my sister or any relative of mine, I would have asked her to NEVER gone out with you, period. Simply because you're UNCERTAIN.

if she were any kin to you, i would hope she would be more honest and have more respect for people's time and feelings. did you not read ANY of my other posts about her conduct thus far? if not i suggest you take a look at what i wrote before you go accusing me of being uncertain. i only called her once to reschedule, turns out she totally "forgot" about our date tonight. she wants to do it tomorrow, but she will never hear from me again. shes the one who blocked me and got her phone cut off, i didnt do it. if im uncertain then shes a headcase.