Always assume shes intrested!

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

Ahoy there land blubbers! All hands on deck! This is your Capt.Jack Sparrow with a tip!

ALWAYS ASSUME SHES INTRESTED. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS!
Trust me, you'll feel a lot more confident!!

Even if shes not, assume she is intrested. See, some girls are like this: They will nag at you, tease you, and all and you may think " Hey man, wtf? Whats her problem?" Truth is, she may secretly have a crush on you without you even knowing it. Its happend to me plenty of times. This HB8 used to like me without me even knowing it. She would always just say hi and talk for a bit than go. When we'd talk, she would tease me, and call me stupid at times. What is girl's problems anyways? A few months later after I came to this site, I started applying my dj skills on her and after we got together, I asked her why she never showed it and she said "Well Capt.Jack Sparrow, I was afraid you'd look at me the wrong way after."

Than it hit me.. Are all girls like this? Chances are, most of them are. Weeks later her and I broke up(I got bored of our relationship) so after I went after someone else. I went after a hb7 in my one of my classes. So I dj'ed her but she too, would tease me at things but I never ended up asking her out or anything. Days later, I went after someone else. I couldn't stand her personaility. Anyways, weeks later she confesses she used to like me 'a lot' even though she never did show it.

It hit me again right there-Girls hate showing that they are intrested and would rather let the guy find out on his own. Days later, one of my girl "friends" asked me "Would you rather have a girl show that she likes you or would you rather just find out some other way?" I chose her first answer and she agreed and said most girls she knows act like they arnt really digging the guy that they like but they do secretly.

Anyways, after this, I always asussmed every girl I meet, they would be intrested in me, even if they weren't. By assuming they are intrested, you can feel a lot more confident when you DJ them. I'm not saying that your gonna get that certain girl but trust me, it does help.

Remember.. ALWAYS ASSUME SHES INTRESTED!! Now get out there and go dj some chicks ye scurvey land blubbers! Arrr!

- Capt. Jack Sparrow

 

[mahon83050]

Hey,

I agree with that mentality to assume girls like you, but I do not understand why girls would think like that. If women expect men to do all the work (approach, close etc), the least they can do is show us they ARE INTERESTED (eye contact, touchy feely, body language etc). Jeez, now they don't even want to do that? What are we, MINDREADERS!!

 

[Le Parisien]

I think you are talking about something different here.
It just looks like that you didn't pick up the signs easily.

The teasing and talking all that stuff.

"Always assume that she's interested" is a very bad idea.
Just imagine cold approaches or approaches at bars or clubs and "just assume she's interested"? You will get burned BADLY!

If you are talking about highschool stuff then yeah, probably; but in general, it's a very bad idea.

 

[Frankie]

Originally posted by Le Parisien
I think you are talking about something different here.
It just looks like that you didn't pick up the signs easily.

You don't need to complicate your life by trying to read signs. It's a simple truth table, which I'll sum up in the four posibilities:

1. You assume she's interested, and she really is-
This is the best case scenario. In this case, you take every opportunity she gives you, and you can take that as far as you want to.

2. You assume she's interested, but she's not-
At worst, you get blown out of the water. So what? At best, she picks up on your optimism and changes her mind. There is also a psychological concept that basically states that someone you have rapport with will subconsciously try to match your mood. Nothing new, but it's something to think about.

3. You don't assume she's interested, but she really is-
You end up missing some opportunities. At worst, she decides that you're pessimistic and changes her mind about you.

4. You don't assume she's interested, and she isn't-
There's not much to lose, but it's still not as good as if you assumed she was interested, as in #2.


This works everywhere.

 

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

Thank you Frankie for that, I was thinking of something like that. This is something I exactly ment for the thread.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by mahon83050
Hey,

I agree with that mentality to assume girls like you, but I do not understand why girls would think like that. If women expect men to do all the work (approach, close etc), the least they can do is show us they ARE INTERESTED (eye contact, touchy feely, body language etc). Jeez, now they don't even want to do that? What are we, MINDREADERS!!

Perhaps you're missing the signs - maybe you need to read up a little more my friend.

 

[chicksrock]

Are you sure you are only 15....?
you sound very mature...wish I was like that at 15!!

good luck with you DJing

 

[jonny football hero]

*Added to Jonny's game book*

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Capt.Jack Sparrow you are right, this has happened to me but does not ussualy. The thing is, i could not imagine a girl teasing the alpha male, this would not happen, so i tihnk maybe you are not begin man enough, correct me if im wrong, i do not know what you are like but girls respect an alpha male, and would there for not tease 1, it semes logical enough doesnt it.

feel free to comment

hope iv been a help

 

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

Thank you everyone for the replies and feedback.

Chrisrock - I assure you im 15. Thanks for the comment.

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
Capt.Jack Sparrow you are right, this has happened to me but does not ussualy. The thing is, i could not imagine a girl teasing the alpha male, this would not happen, so i tihnk maybe you are not begin man enough, correct me if im wrong, i do not know what you are like but girls respect an alpha male, and would there for not tease 1, it semes logical enough doesnt it.

Now, I catch on when girls usaully tease me, they are trying to grab my attention. Its not that their disrespectful, but I think they are to shy to get my attention any other way. They would like to bump into me or say something like "Hey dummy/weirdo/(whatever)" to intiate convo or something. Or in class they would throw little tiny paper balls at me to get their attention. But hey, I guess how Highschool chicks are.

- Jack Sparrow

 

[n2o666]

Le Parisien>

"Always assume that she's interested" is a very bad idea.
Just imagine cold approaches or approaches at bars or clubs and "just assume she's interested"? You will get burned BADLY!"

How can you get burned badly in a club, you are approaching people you don't know??? If she blows you off what have you lost??? This assumption allows you to take charge of the frame and be a lot more confident! This doesn't mean of course that you start groping her or anything like that. Just be pleasant, have a laugh with her and act like a man if she blows you off. The worst that will happen is an increase in social proof, girls at the other side of club/bar don't know what is happening in the interaction!

 

[Caveman]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Perhaps you're missing the signs - maybe you need to read up a little more my friend.

I have to chime in just to mention that girls are VERY good at hiding their interest. I have a fairly good knowledge of people and I can read someone by just looking at them.

Some girls are a little obvious and show their interest but it happened to me many times that a girl had a crush on me and I didn't have a clue. Even after I was told, I could not even tell from their behaviour that they even liked me. So I think there really is no point in trying to figure out whether she likes you or not.

On the subject: I think it's a good tip to always assume she likes you. It is better for your confidence and you are more eager to take a little chance in asking her out. If she blows you off, don't take it personally, be a man, and move on. At least you didn't waist any of your precious time wondering.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

yeh it is a good tip, i have heared it somewhere else on this site, i think it must have been in the quick tips section, this will obviously not primarly make a girl like you but its a large confidence boost and stops you form worying, simular to the fact that you should not try to measure yourself up to a girl and validate yourself acording to her, seeking aproval from her.

 

[DJ_Dork]

girls play too many fooking games. they hide their interest or they pretend to show interest. or one day they see you as hot stuff, the next day they see you as a friend.

b1tches and hos.

 

[Caveman]

No, I think a lot of girls that hide their interest are maybe just shy or very old fashioned. They just try and be around to get you to notice them without them having to show interest. I agree it would be a lot easier if they at least try and make some eye contact but maybe they are just too shy.

The ones that pretend to be interested.. yeah, they probably are attention *****s

 

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

Check mate kid, I'm pretty sure it isnt around the fourms or Dj Site because I made it up. if it is, can you kindly post me a link? Thanks.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

i do not know the link but it sayed to always asume every girl is intrested because if you do not you will coem off as insecure and over anaylise the situation causing further problems, i read it months ago in the quick tips so i do not know the link, im not acusing you of copying iy, i just think maybe you where not the first perosn to figure out this advice, im not going to loof for the link because there are hundred of quick tips, it would take too long, altohugh i will now browse through the titles and see if theres anytihng related

 

[big_jeffry]

i agree

 

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

B to the U to the M to teh P

 

[disciple]

Most women hide their interest even if they are interested in you so its useless trying to read her initial signs.

Also, some women give men false signs of interest so it is best to have the attitude that I don't know if this girl is interested or not and the ONLY way I'm going to find out is to approach her and she how she reacts.