Ah I need some advice. I work with a woman who's 37 and I'm 30 and she asked me to take her to a mutual friends party as a "date." So we went and had a good time and I got the hug when I dropped her off. I asked her out again, she said yes we went out and had a great time. So by the third date I went in for the kiss and got a peck on the lips. I was a little confused because she had shown signs she was into me but I the kiss didn't help clarify things. So I came out and said that I was after her a bit and wanted to know what she wanted. She told me she was "undecided" at the time and I was young. I replyed that yeah and I don't have my $h!t together either but I'm working on it so it's really no big deal and she could tell me yes or no we're still friends. She said she was "undecided" and I laughed and told her she sucked and thanks for clearing that up then she laughed and hugged me.
She went on vacation and about two weeks pass and I walk into her office and chat with her for awhile and she asked what I was doing that weekend. I told her I didn't have plans and asked if she would like to get togehter and she said maybe and to give her a call. We ended up going out to a bar that Sunday and she was a tad moody. During the night she mentioned a few stories about ex's which I didn't find all that respectful (I don't talk about mine when I'm out with a woman). I had no clue why she was bringing them up but oh well. So we keep talking and I mentioned a funny scene from a movie and she wigged out and thought I inferred that she was and old lady which didn't make any sense. It seemed like she was out to pick a fight with me. She then asked for the check and that was that. I drive her home and on the way we pass a house and she started up with a story about an ex that lived there and cheated on her years ago that she caught in the act. I told her that sucks more or less but things like that happen. She said yeah but to me? And by this time I have had enough of this crap and I told her oh why because your so special? She laughed and stared at me and changed the subject. Anyway I go to drop her off, she invites me in to use the bathroom, gives me a drink and has to walk her dog. I walk with her and as we pass my car she gives me a hug and tells me she had a good night. I was like this is it? So I said what's going on and she said I think it would be better if we were friends. I asked if it was because of the misunderstanding we had about the old lady thing and she said yes. I asked to come in and talk about it because she must have taken it the wrong way then she said I think we would be better as friends again. Then she said "I just don't like anyone that much" three times in a row like some weird mantra. Now I was the only one standing there and I was not interupting her during her repeating. So I told her basically that I was disappointed but ok and wished her good luck.
I didn't call her and did not see her until I was in the office on Thursday. I was in my office and she was in the main room and made her presance known by speaking loudly to a coworker then walking by my door quickly then passing back about a minute later. So I got up a few minutes later and passed her and she did not say hi so I thought screw it and asked her how she was doing? She seemed startled that I was talking to her and not mad. I asked her a work related question and she was short but not snotty and that was it. I steared clear of her the rest of the day.
So another week passes I go into work there again and say hi, get a big smile from her. Later that day I go into her office and talk to her and said hey we haven't spoken in a while how have things been? She small talks a but then she said she's been really bored and has nothing to do but work and go home. I told her we have all been there and that's unfortunate and to have a good weekend more or less. There was a definate opening there but I didn't bite because it was a shady situation. Anyway another week goes by and I get to the office and see her. I had to go speak to her about a work matter and in the middle of it she asks if what my plans are for the next day and if I could make her birthday/drinking luncheon. I told her if I was in the area I would try. My boss then email's her and asks if I can work overtime the next day and she is excitted and said do it, that way you can come in and go to lunch. I said ok because I need the money.
So I come in and get bogged down in work and am supposed to meet her at 11:30 and cannot realistically get there till 1230. She calls me at 1215 asking me what I'm doing and I said I'm on my way. I get there and after my boss leaves things loosen up. I'm there with three female co-workers who I assume since they are women know I tried dating her weeks earlier. Well things get weird and she mentions that she get's mad that men don't chase after her and brings up things I said to her while we were hanging out. She touched my arm about 15 times during the course of the lunch and I didn't recepriocate. Then a co-worker brought up some movie which is one I asked her to go see when we were together and she said she hasn't seen it yet then touched my arm and asked if I had. I told her no and left it at that. We all left together and I asked what she was doing later and she said nothing but going straight home, I thought about asking her to do something but then I thought **** that she rejected me just weeks earlier and has done a 180 and I'm not sure if it's one big game because I don'd chase after her or act like I give a ****. So like the tittle says does anyone have a read on the situation? Should I ask her to do something again or just keep sitting back and do nothing which seems to be working?
She went on vacation and about two weeks pass and I walk into her office and chat with her for awhile and she asked what I was doing that weekend. I told her I didn't have plans and asked if she would like to get togehter and she said maybe and to give her a call. We ended up going out to a bar that Sunday and she was a tad moody. During the night she mentioned a few stories about ex's which I didn't find all that respectful (I don't talk about mine when I'm out with a woman). I had no clue why she was bringing them up but oh well. So we keep talking and I mentioned a funny scene from a movie and she wigged out and thought I inferred that she was and old lady which didn't make any sense. It seemed like she was out to pick a fight with me. She then asked for the check and that was that. I drive her home and on the way we pass a house and she started up with a story about an ex that lived there and cheated on her years ago that she caught in the act. I told her that sucks more or less but things like that happen. She said yeah but to me? And by this time I have had enough of this crap and I told her oh why because your so special? She laughed and stared at me and changed the subject. Anyway I go to drop her off, she invites me in to use the bathroom, gives me a drink and has to walk her dog. I walk with her and as we pass my car she gives me a hug and tells me she had a good night. I was like this is it? So I said what's going on and she said I think it would be better if we were friends. I asked if it was because of the misunderstanding we had about the old lady thing and she said yes. I asked to come in and talk about it because she must have taken it the wrong way then she said I think we would be better as friends again. Then she said "I just don't like anyone that much" three times in a row like some weird mantra. Now I was the only one standing there and I was not interupting her during her repeating. So I told her basically that I was disappointed but ok and wished her good luck.
I didn't call her and did not see her until I was in the office on Thursday. I was in my office and she was in the main room and made her presance known by speaking loudly to a coworker then walking by my door quickly then passing back about a minute later. So I got up a few minutes later and passed her and she did not say hi so I thought screw it and asked her how she was doing? She seemed startled that I was talking to her and not mad. I asked her a work related question and she was short but not snotty and that was it. I steared clear of her the rest of the day.
So another week passes I go into work there again and say hi, get a big smile from her. Later that day I go into her office and talk to her and said hey we haven't spoken in a while how have things been? She small talks a but then she said she's been really bored and has nothing to do but work and go home. I told her we have all been there and that's unfortunate and to have a good weekend more or less. There was a definate opening there but I didn't bite because it was a shady situation. Anyway another week goes by and I get to the office and see her. I had to go speak to her about a work matter and in the middle of it she asks if what my plans are for the next day and if I could make her birthday/drinking luncheon. I told her if I was in the area I would try. My boss then email's her and asks if I can work overtime the next day and she is excitted and said do it, that way you can come in and go to lunch. I said ok because I need the money.
So I come in and get bogged down in work and am supposed to meet her at 11:30 and cannot realistically get there till 1230. She calls me at 1215 asking me what I'm doing and I said I'm on my way. I get there and after my boss leaves things loosen up. I'm there with three female co-workers who I assume since they are women know I tried dating her weeks earlier. Well things get weird and she mentions that she get's mad that men don't chase after her and brings up things I said to her while we were hanging out. She touched my arm about 15 times during the course of the lunch and I didn't recepriocate. Then a co-worker brought up some movie which is one I asked her to go see when we were together and she said she hasn't seen it yet then touched my arm and asked if I had. I told her no and left it at that. We all left together and I asked what she was doing later and she said nothing but going straight home, I thought about asking her to do something but then I thought **** that she rejected me just weeks earlier and has done a 180 and I'm not sure if it's one big game because I don'd chase after her or act like I give a ****. So like the tittle says does anyone have a read on the situation? Should I ask her to do something again or just keep sitting back and do nothing which seems to be working?
