Alright, goddamnit...help me dump this clingy sh*t.

[cactus3178]

Dudes, ladies, I need some constructive help if ya can

I've now got 2 clingy girls. One that literally calls my house/cell a minimum of 5-7 times daily. Wants to hang out every single day. Has already insinuated that we're in a BF/GF relationship to others, which is not the case.

The other one blows up my f*cking MySpace mailbox, email inbox, and occasionally, my voice mail. This is the one I LJBF'd to no avail. She doesn't get it.

The both of them are making me f*cking crazy!!!

PLEASE HELP ME figure out how to 'nicely' tell the latter to f*ck off, and the former to chill the hell out, because yes, I like her as a FB, but she can't seem to keep it that way without wanting something more.

Seriously, I don't want any advice like: "C'mon d00dzorz, tell h3r to F*CK off", or any of that sh*t.

Anybody got some REAL advice?

Thanks.

 

[smoke city]

Your problem is that you're acting like a teenage girl.
Why the hell are you telling a girl "LJBF" if you want nothing to do
with her? The whole purpose of the phrase was so chicks could break
up with guys without feeling bad about themselves. Do you feel bad about yourself?
As far as the other one goes, if you are not happy with how the relationship is going, you should either make an effort to correct it or
grab your nuts and move on. If you need space from her, you should tell her that. Problem is,you're leading her on. you seem too insecure to risk losing her as a potential sex partner. If all you want out of the relationship is sex, then that should be clear to her. stop being such a pvssy.

 

[Desdinova]

PLEASE HELP ME figure out how to 'nicely' tell the latter to f*ck off, and the former to chill the hell out, because yes, I like her as a FB, but she can't seem to keep it that way without wanting something more.

There are guys out there who would kill to have problems like this. However, I know where you're coming from.

Tell the LJBF girl that she's no longer your friend, and tell her to leave you the fvck alone. When women don't want to take a subtle hint, you'll have to be more clear in telling her to fvck off.

With the FB, did you make it clear right from the start that you're not interested in a relationship? If not, you'll probably have to "break up" with her because a woman scorned is worse than the fvcking devil. Even though you don't consider her your gf, you'll need to "break up" with her rather than tell her she was only good for sex.

 

[everywomanshero]

I like it when chicks chase me, in fact, I tend to forget about them if they don
t do so to some degree. If they annoy you, just state what specifically the
problem is. If the problem cannot be resolved and it annoys you more than
the relationship pleases you, then cut if off or deliver an ultimatum.

I have had some women annoy me, and the problem self corrected when I
didn't respond. It took some time, but eventually it self-adjusted. If they
came by unannounced causing problems for me, I would send their asses
packing fast.

 

[comic_relief]

In the smart words of Pook, "I love you like a sister..."

telling her in reality, i think of having sex with you like incest. ******** is great. Used it once before, I got rid of that girl. Good luck.

btw my girlfriend is very clingy like that but I love it. I had the one day she called 22 times in a 24 hour period. It was crazy. I ended up putting her on speaker phone as I shovelled my driveway. It was crazy.

comic_relief

 

[ADifferentKindofDJ]

Get a real GF. That will stifle these two. Or maybe just date another girl for a while. Just a thought....

ADKdj

 

[comic_relief]

Get a real GF. That will stifle these two. Or maybe just date another girl for a while. Just a thought....

ADKdj

I'm sorry man but that won't stop clingy girls. A girl that I met this year knows that I have a girlfriend and guess what she has loved me for well over 5 months since it first started.

comic_relief

 

[cactus3178]

Your problem is that you're acting like a teenage girl.
Why the hell are you telling a girl "LJBF" if you want nothing to do
with her? The whole purpose of the phrase was so chicks could break
up with guys without feeling bad about themselves. Do you feel bad about yourself?
As far as the other one goes, if you are not happy with how the relationship is going, you should either make an effort to correct it or
grab your nuts and move on. If you need space from her, you should tell her that. Problem is,you're leading her on. you seem too insecure to risk losing her as a potential sex partner. If all you want out of the relationship is sex, then that should be clear to her. stop being such a pvssy.

First of all, I did that LJBF thing as opposed to being blunt and rude. I'm not a **** to people who are nice to me, sorry.

Second, no, I feel great about myself. But the point was to give her the brush off in a nice way, which I don't have much experience with.

Third, it's not a 'relationship' with the other girl...bump up on your reading comprehension skills.

Fourth, of all my problems, insecurity is not one them and I had made it clear that all I wanted was sex, nothing more. She agreed, but apparently changed her mind after a few weeks

Last, you can just chill the f*ck out with the sh*t talking. You must have missed my comment about douchebag retarded comments. Also, you don't know me, b*tch....if you want to offer something productive, go for it. Otherwise, STFU.



-Anyway-

Thanks to the rest of you, I'll give that advice a shot.

 

[cactus3178]

If not, you'll probably have to "break up" with her because a woman scorned is worse than the fvcking devil. Even though you don't consider her your gf, you'll need to "break up" with her rather than tell her she was only good for sex.

Yeah, hell I think your right. Damnit!

 

[penkitten]

you start saying things like this :
i'm going thru a me phase right now.
i'm not looking to be tied down, just tied up once in a while.

or my favorite:
you know what i like about dating women? the variety of them!



if saying any of these doesnt give them the hint that you just arent into them, tell them you met the girls of your dreams the other day and act like you cant hang out with them because you are busy. then ignore their calls.

 

[cactus3178]

you start saying things like this :
i'm going thru a me phase right now.
i'm not looking to be tied down, just tied up once in a while.

LMFAO.

It's true. Thanks, Pen.

Seriously, what the hell is wrong with you girls? We chase, you run. You chase, we run.

Ah, I love this game

 

[Wyldfire]

Tell the second one that you think she's a nice girl but that you just don't feel you're very compatible and that you have met someone else and have started seeing them and suggest that she do the same.

If you aren't interested in a serious LTR you should probably stop seeing the first one too. It's clear by what she's telling other people that she believes you two are in a committed relationship. Just based on how much she calls you she sounds exceedingly needy and clingy. It will work your last nerve in no time.

 

[smoke city]

First of all, I did that LJBF thing as opposed to being blunt and rude. I'm not a **** to people who are nice to me, sorry.

Second, no, I feel great about myself. But the point was to give her the brush off in a nice way, which I don't have much experience with.

Third, it's not a 'relationship' with the other girl...bump up on your reading comprehension skills.

Fourth, of all my problems, insecurity is not one them and I had made it clear that all I wanted was sex, nothing more. She agreed, but apparently changed her mind after a few weeks

Last, you can just chill the f*ck out with the sh*t talking. You must have missed my comment about douchebag retarded comments. Also, you don't know me, b*tch....if you want to offer something productive, go for it. Otherwise, STFU.

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don't be so sensitive -- I am offering you productive advice, but i'm not sugar-coating it or telling you what you want to hear. Yes, i DO think you're being a pvssy. the "LJBF" thing was 'not to be rude'? so you were doing her a favor by letting her be your friend? what a joke! If you don't want to hang out with someone, have solid reasons, be a man and tell it to them straight...don't screw around and send them little "messages." yes I think that is pvssy behavior and it's dishonorable and pathetic.
There ARE many nice and HONEST ways to get someone out of your life if you want -- straight up cut off communication with them. change your phone number. get a new email address. It's really easy. some of us have had to grow up and be not-so-nice to somebody. As for the other one, you need to make it clear AGAIN that you ONLY want sex. and it's YOUR responsibility to make sure she doesn't get the wrong idea. YOU are putting limitations on the relationship so YOU are the only one responsible for making sure those boundaries are not crossed. don't blame her, she's just having a good time.
so that's what i have to say -- it's not what you want to hear, but it's an accurate assessment i assure you. take it or leave it.

 

[cactus3178]

don't be so sensitive -- I am offering you productive advice, but i'm not sugar-coating it or telling you what you want to hear. Yes, i DO think you're being a pvssy. the "LJBF" thing was 'not to be rude'? so you were doing her a favor by letting her be your friend? what a joke! If you don't want to hang out with someone, have solid reasons, be a man and tell it to them straight...don't screw around and send them little "messages." yes I think that is pvssy behavior and it's dishonorable and pathetic.
There ARE many nice and HONEST ways to get someone out of your life if you want -- straight up cut off communication with them. change your phone number. get a new email address. It's really easy. some of us have had to grow up and be not-so-nice to somebody. As for the other one, you need to make it clear AGAIN that you ONLY want sex. and it's YOUR responsibility to make sure she doesn't get the wrong idea. YOU are putting limitations on the relationship so YOU are the only one responsible for making sure those boundaries are not crossed. don't blame her, she's just having a good time.
so that's what i have to say -- it's not what you want to hear, but it's an accurate assessment i assure you. take it or leave it.

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Alright, I read what ya had to say. And then I read it again. Then I got pissed for a second, then got over it.

I think it's solid advice.

I personally do have a tendency of saying sh*t to girls that leads them on instead of telling them exactly what I'm looking for, and I'm not sure why as of yet.

Probably because I love the push/pull game too much......and I do it so f*cking well.....then, when they get in too far, I put off 'the talk' as long as possible before I have to finally tell them. Kinda sadistic, honestly it's probably due to the fact that I can do this now and couldn't before, and the novelty of it is just too much fun.

Hmm, I was wrong.

Point taken.

 

[squirrels]

Dudes, ladies, I need some constructive help if ya can

I've now got 2 clingy girls. One that literally calls my house/cell a minimum of 5-7 times daily. Wants to hang out every single day. Has already insinuated that we're in a BF/GF relationship to others, which is not the case.

The other one blows up my f*cking MySpace mailbox, email inbox, and occasionally, my voice mail. This is the one I LJBF'd to no avail. She doesn't get it.

The both of them are making me f*cking crazy!!!

PLEASE HELP ME figure out how to 'nicely' tell the latter to f*ck off, and the former to chill the hell out, because yes, I like her as a FB, but she can't seem to keep it that way without wanting something more.

Seriously, I don't want any advice like: "C'mon d00dzorz, tell h3r to F*CK off", or any of that sh*t.

Anybody got some REAL advice?

Thanks.

C'mon d00dzorz, tell h3r to F*CK off!!!1111oneeleventyone

If she can't take the hint, lay it out plain. You don't even HAVE to tell her to get lost. Tell her you're trying to be nice, but she's annoying the hell out of you. Most girls will get so offended they'll stop talking to you after that.

Have you ever had one-itis for a girl? ANY sign of niceness from her was something you managed to twist into a go-ahead sign, wasn't it? It works both ways. Stop encouraging them. You're not obligated to be nice to these girls.

 

[smoke city]

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Alright, I read what ya had to say. And then I read it again. Then I got pissed for a second, then got over it.

I think it's solid advice.

I personally do have a tendency of saying sh*t to girls that leads them on instead of telling them exactly what I'm looking for, and I'm not sure why as of yet.

Probably because I love the push/pull game too much......and I do it so f*cking well.....then, when they get in too far, I put off 'the talk' as long as possible before I have to finally tell them. Kinda sadistic, honestly it's probably due to the fact that I can do this now and couldn't before, and the novelty of it is just too much fun.

Hmm, I was wrong.

Point taken.

right on cactus. i'm actually the same way, which is why i was able to pick up that nuance in your post. i find it's good to remind myself that there are REALLY only two variables that i can control/care about in any relationship. the first is my own values, and the second is the way i view the relationship itself.
for what it's worth your stock just went up in my book. maybe others on this site will follow your example of wanting REAL advice and considering it thoughtfully.
good luck, bro. glad i could help

 

[cactus3178]

^

Thanks, and sorry for being snotty, dude. I was so f*cking frustrated with these ho's.

Also,

Squirrels, I agree completely with the reverse one-itis theory, I didn't think about that. I haven't seen much of you around here lately...


Thanks all, sorry for the unintentional bump, I'm good now.

 

[T Money]

tell you the truth man, i'm kinda jealous. I wish I was trying to fend off girls

 

[dikster]

Try to act a super wuss. That would kill their interest level. :crackup: