Alpha mindset explained

[everywomanshero]

I'm going to do you guys a favor and explain this.

This isn't some half baked theory either, this comes straight from
the horses mouths and real life. I've read a lot on the
subject, and I've gotten rid of ideas that I couldn't
implement.

OK HERE GOES, after this post you *will* understand:


Women are more afraid of some pathetic loser becoming a stalker/threatening to kill himself over her/weirdo than of him being an *******. This is because there is actually more clingy guys than *******s and because the *******s are easier to get rid of. If you don't believe this, then I am afraid for you. I lost so much with women by being too clingy. This is how most men are.

How I dress advertises my internal state. Nice guys who dress well but generic need at least one cool item that shows they have a fvcking soul! Although, they are still better off than guys who wear shiny pants or kahkis or something that stinks of not understanding fashion. Otherwise, you're boring and women already can tell that. I spend the most time on the pants and jacket and shoes. I have some dress shoes to wear with destroyed jeans, one pair of cool boots, a pair of doc martins, and of course flip flops are very popular. I'm dirt poor guys, for real right now, I go through spells of having lots of money and then being broke as hell. I find good stuff at second hand shops. I got CK button ups for less than 10$ each the other day. I also found some cool Italion stuff noone else even has access to. My goal is to look cool but not look like I spent hours getting ready, I don't want to signal that I have time for that. In fact, I may not even shave because I want her to know my personal life is that damn fun. I will always have my nails, hair, nose hair, and teeth in goodshape, though.

Alphas are vague, I don't give every detail and create an aura of mystery. I don't evade questions, I just don't go into every detail. Is she important enough to me that I would tell her every detail? What if some chode I didn't care about asked?

I am not easy for her to win over. If she can easily win me over, then so could lots of women. She wants to feel special. I am a man is a challenge and if she can win me over then she is really something special.

I always make my financing seem more interesting than it really is but I strive to finance my mission in life in an interesting way so I no longer need to stretch the truth so badly. My financing works in my favor, so that I am getting closer to the goal while obtaining much need $$$ and supplies.

I travel to interesting places ALONE. By going ALONE I am guarenteed to have some crazy ass experiences that become great stories. These are the type of stories you really can't just fake. I don't know that I can take trips alone any longer but maybe someday to get a fresh set of new experiences I will.

I don't offer a lot or worry much if people are comfortable. The time I worry about that stuff is *before* they arrive not by asking a zillion questions. I have prepared the seduction location as best I can beforehand.

Women can get close to me without fear that I am going to want to start staying over every night or pull out a ring or buy them dinners expecting something in return. I don't do any of those things unless they really do win me over which most women simply cannot do no matter what.

I am not reliable in regards to answering my phone. Sometimes really hot chix esp strippers act pissed about this. You know what? I don't care, yes I will loose some this way but I'd never lay them in the first place if this weren't the case. I have a mildly funny voicemail and I always leave it full ( a tip I got from a book but that works for me). Note I said works for me, not I think it may work for me. Be that guy.

I will simply cut other guys out or talk over them if they get in the way. I always assume they are nothing to the woman because in the past I lost women by assuming the guy was with them when I later found out he wasn't. I worried too much about "winning" over the friends. Now, I just cut them out unless I don't think I can get away with it. Default action is to cut them out and beta them unless I see that will not work. Here is the thing, watch really alpha guys, the way they walk and talk over other guys. By emulating that I am already sending signal that I am higher value. By sending those signals men might hate me, but they assume alot and before you know it the whole group sees me as more alpha. I'm not sugesting you throw group theory out the window here, I am just saying alpha guys will definitely not run away just because some little dork comes up and has a 10% chance of actually being with the girl. You can't always find out in advance because these guys pop in from out of nowhere all the time, and 90% of the time I can just get rid of them without doing much at all. It's not as clear as it might at first seem. Just remember the goal is to get the girl and do what yeilds the best chances for that. Short of hanging with alpha guys there is almost no way to learn how they beta other guys, TD has some good stuff but you really need to see some really alpha guys in action that are good with ladies. Alpha guys are ****ing harder to find than 10s. Search clubs. Maybe someone can recommend a movie? I still doubt you can really get it wothout being there though it's an energy thats unmistakable. It is so powerful that guys will overcome approach anxiety by it's presence. That's how I did it originally and part of why I suspect guys can approach at workshops.

it ism true alphas don't need to approach alot, that's because it will work more often for them and women are naturally making themselves available to them. MY alpha friends generally make commeents like "Yea lets find some girls and take them to a party and **** them" sometimes I meet wanna be PUAs that are like "Ya lets go sarging and try to get isolation with a hottie". See the difference, one thinks if we can makeout with girls in a club then that is something. The other isnt even interested in that, thats kiddies stuff to them, they are straight to thinking why wouldnt she want to go with us and leave the boring ass hoosiers behind. Sometimes The wanna be PUAS often even think I am lying when I take a girl home and **** her. They think she really just crashed at my pad and we didn't **** or they will say yea but she's not that hot. I wonder how hot these guys rate their hands? Thats how out of their reality this alpha stuff is.

So in short I want women to see me a tough guy with a tender heart that she thinks she might be able to tame, only her becuase of XYZ. All guys know women want that, but most don't have a clue how to be THAT guy because there is so ffew of them most guys will never ever see one. My post here should help clear some of this up, there is a lot more but try these first. If this stuff works for you guys let me know and I'll do a part II.

 

[KoalaKing]

The way that a guy dresses depends on the type of girl he is trying to attract, if he is trying to attract a hot business woman then he dresses in a suit, if he is trying to attract a hot surfie girl then he wears board shorts, if he is trying to attract a hot hippie girl then he wears sarongs and those type of things, if he is trying to attract a yuppie girl in a nightclub that is when the flash shirts and boots would be required.

As far as stalkers are concerned, it could be anyone, just think back to the infamous, Ted Bundy, he was handsome, confident, and educated, yet he raped and murdered at least 28 hot young babes, he never had to do this as he was extremely popular with the majority of the hottest babes around him, yet he still raped and killed them.

You can't put every type of guys personality into the one basket, although people just assume that it will be the less confident nerdy wussy types of guys who will be stalking the girls it isn't always that black and white, why a guy like, Ted Bundy, would do this type of thing is very strange considering that he had plenty of hot babes to go out with, he blamed it on his watching pornographic films, but it would be more understandable if a guy who couldn't get a hot babe did this type of thing, but the world is a strange place.

 

[everywomanshero]

I'm on my way to go sarging now, but I know what you mean.

I didn't really mean stalker in that sense though. What hot women told me they are afraid of is more along the lines of someone just getting oneitis and being annoying/too clingy/etc/ However. most hot girls do have a serial killer stalker story too, whether real or not I don't know for sure.

The thing hot women think is that the nerds will get desperately attached and becoming annoying and so why would they want to date someone with no other options and who isn't going to be sexy/attractive when they can have guys who will be? Hell, Im a guy and I don't even like being around people like that.

 

[BlahBBlah]

I always wondered this, but what kind of clothes usually attracts smarter women?

 

[Nighthawk]

Wise words everywomanshero.

 

[lavhoes]

I always wondered this, but what kind of clothes usually attracts smarter women?

Why change my attire for the express purpose of attracting women? It's like wearing a disguise, and it's not staying true to who I am or who I want to be. I wear the clothes I want to wear, and a side effect of that is attracting women who are more suitable to me.

I will note, however, that I don't just wear whatever. I do keep up with current fashion trends, and I do develop a style over time. I put honest work into how I look because it's an extension of myself. But make no mistake, I do it for myself above all others, not just to attract women.

I keep up with fashion because I like looking good, but I take what I see and refine it to my own tastes, which have developed over time. I won't attract every smart woman this way, but there will be some intrigued by the way I present myself, and from there my awesome, alpha personality will further cement who I really am.

The point is to not mold your look for the sole purpose of attracting women, but rather for making you look the best you possible. If you think that look constitutes khaki shorts and hawaiian shirts, well, you might have some work ahead of you, but just so long as you do your research, experiment, develop your taste and style, etc. you'll come out looking awesome, true to the person you want to be, as well as being attractive to women.

I think that's pretty much in line with the alpha mindset.

 

[Paradigm Artisan]

I agree with you lavhoes. I think your dead on.

To BlahBBlah: Clothes aren't going to matter too much. I have personally gone into a place with old walmart jeans and a too small dress shirt (from walmart as well) and still had the lady of my pickin' (No, not the walmart greeter, and no I don't usually shop at WM, it was a laundry day.) If you have the confidence that she will like you anyway, then clothes don't matter in the long run. Having your own personal style and looking good will help you boost your confidence, no doubt. But you really don't need to dress a certain way to attract anyone. However, it can help initially.

I personally wear a lot of black with jeans and a chained wallet, nothing fancy, and this puts up an initial barrier between the 'preppy' girls I like to date, but once I come over to talk, communicate my interest, be C&F, they don't care anymore, they like me. Hell, I'm different from all the preppy guys that have been trying to hit on her. I stand out, not fit in, she will remember me better then she will remember the other 25 Ambercrombie drones.

So all in all, dressing a certain way can get your foot in the door, but it's not the determining factor. So why care if she is initially attracted? Get in there and do something about it. Dress the way you want to. Your life shouldn't revolve around what other women perfer.

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[skeeloo]

Its all good to have the alhpa and im the greatest mindset but ... remeber you have to go for women that recognise that you are the man dont try to win over someone that tries to knock youR SELF WORTH down. and believe some women cant not handle guys they see as higher than them ... some like guys they can treat like crap. i also like the way everywoman hero described his dress sense.. i think thats similar to mine, i kinda hate the im trying so hard to be sexy look, look at me. i dress simple but got my own style that suits me and it took me years of experimenting some ppl dont like my style and say im to casual because i dont buy clothes that write d&g bold in the front even though its actually d&g. i wear good designers once in a while and can wear and get casual outfits but ppl are so narrow minded that unless you wear the designers name upfront they dont think you dress well. all importanly is cut your nails, clean your teeth and smell really nice and i leave some stuble sometimes thats shows i kinda dont give a **** thats how i do it.