Alpha man in life, submissive in bed

[Millard Fillmore]

With strong frame you can do whatever tf you want. A guy who acts "alpha" because he's afraid of what he wants has already lost the battle bc he's incongruent and deriving value from another party. A lot of men live lives of quiet desperation.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Ok, so... the conclusion is: you cannot be submissive in bed. It's not attractive for women, focus on growing dominating part and k^ll this submissive part inside and don't fantasy about being dominated by a woman anymore. Is that correct? Looks like a lot of work for me because I think it's coded in my brain as something rousing, but I believe it's possible to erradicate this.

No, the conclusion is that a lot of forum members think they need their dominant masculine frame to get laid at all. Members of this forum are all about being 'alpha males' and submission is too feminine for them to even consider the possibility.
If you're truly submissive, find a dominant woman in the kink scene, but don't strike up a relationship until she clearly cares about you as much as she likes dominating you.

But this is the wrong forum to ask these questions.

 

[handle]

No, the conclusion is that a lot of forum members think they need their dominant masculine frame to get laid at all. Members of this forum are all about being 'alpha males' and submission is too feminine for them to even consider the possibility.
If you're truly submissive, find a dominant woman in the kink scene, but don't strike up a relationship until she clearly cares about you as much as she likes dominating you.

But this is the wrong forum to ask these questions.

Seconding this advice. Please do not try to unprogram your sexual preferences. Find partners who are compatible with you and have fun. Having a 'frame' and being confident in your everyday life is useful, for sure. But it doesn't disqualify you from enjoying whatever you like in bed.

 

[smartpill]

Ok, I got completely diffetent answers so I will tell you what I think.

In general a man designs his own life and he lives like he wants to. If the woman is interested in you, and you like her, she can join your journey and be a good company.

Sexual preferences are coded in our DNA. So let's assume being submissive in bed gives you pleasure. We know that a good sex has a lot of good benefits. Then you should inform woman that you like when she dominates you in bed. Hiding this would be a mistake. When you don't tell a woman that you like to be dominated by her in bed it means that you are afraid of how she will react, or how she will treat you after that. And this is not man's behaviour. You rather try to get what you want and if you don't comunicate this you will not get it.

When you call a woman wh*re during a sex it doesn't mean that she is a wh*re when she cooks a dinner. Same here, if she dominates you in bed, it doesn't mean that she has extra privileges outside of bed.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

other times you think about the clean-up

Get the type of absorbent sheets that you use to protect a crib mattress.

Menstruation is about 2-3 thimbles per day, those sheets can be under the slipcover of your mattress to keep your mattress stain free. The blood-stained sheets can soak in cold water with Biotex or other handwash detergent, rinsed to get the blood out, and washed on high temperature.