Almost don't care anymore

[DonJuan11]

29 years old, not much experience, don't think will ever get it and surprisingly, don't care too much anymore.

I cared about getting action at 14, 15, 18, 21, 22, 24. Now I just don't care that much. It's like the hunger thing, you are so hungry and you don't eat and eat and then you get to that one point where you are not hungry anymore because you haven't eaten for so long.

Also I can't see myself spending money on a 27 year old girl who's had all her fun with the 6'1 jocks in high school and college and now wants a guy with money and stability. Why does a girl need a guy to spend money on her if wants sex? Just go to a bar any night and you can have sex with almost any guy there, they would be more than willing. If the girl was 19, 20...then its a different story regarding money.

I also don't understand people who say "try again, try again, rejection is part of it, all you need is one, try, try, try, keep asking out". If I gamble 100 times I lose, will I try, try again?[/RIGHT][/LEFT][/RIGHT]

 

[zerocelcius]

Than what do you want?

 

[DonDan]

T-r-o-l-l-i-n-g.......

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Only has one post, and has given up already. You need to read much more of the material here....that's especially in regards to what you said about money.

 

[The Sperminator]

"It's like the hunger thing, you are so hungry and you don't eat and eat and then you get to that one point where you are not hungry."

Ummm I don't think that is true. I get hungrier if I don't eat for a long time. I've never not eaten for a long time then said oh wow now I'm not hungry. The only time that will happen is when I die of starvation. Anyways man don't give up I know it's tough but it can be done. I used to be the same way. I didn't get any action or any attention from any girls not even the ugly and fat ones then bam one day I changed my ways, took control of my life, took chances, and now I have lots of girls who want me. It can be done just do it. I know what you are thinking it's not that easy but it is. You have nothing to lose. You already given up whats the worst that can happen. Talk to girls ask them out. Forget the fear and just go for it. And I doubt if you asked 100 girls you will be turned down 100 times unless you look like the Elephant Man or if you are the creepiest guy alive.

 

[Klaus]

He may be closer than he realizes.

Wasn't until I unloaded on my friend one day and told him what was up, I was on my last nerve and ready to give up completely, the nice guy stuff is so over-rated.

I was always very trendy, well groomed and mannered but it never clicked, buddy came through with a copy of the game and some e-books and since then have never looked back.

Its only when you get sick and tired is when stuff finally gets better.

Hang in there.

*Edit the hunger thing is by far the biggest truth, I work in a restaraunt and always have to look behind my back to sneak food, after twelve hour days I maybe have a handful of food off appetizer plates and that consists of my breakfasts all day, my sex drive was very low for a long time and I never even fantasized over a girl in my dreams, let alone watch the occasional porn once every month or so.

 

[reset]

Its only when you get sick and tired is when stuff finally gets better.

I agree with that.

 

[Willis]

Ifeel tha same way
idont care any more and i have givin up already.
and i always ask myself whats the point?

 

[DJVladdy]

As our favorite fruitcake said "your genes will be mercilessly removed"
You have just willingly sterilized yourself. Congrats!
You're gonna cut off your balls by yourself, or u need help?

 

[DJVladdy]

DJ11 and Willis I'm talking to the two of you.
What did you expect? Cries of compassion? Oh you poor guys
Oh and take this to some other site...ANY site except THIS ONE.
Because here you are insulting the rest of us and our predecessors and teachers by blasting out like this.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I given up on getting married/finding a virgin but nonetheless, I will approach a girl if I desire her - this can't be helped and is outside of my powers!!

 

[razer8]

I kinda hit that "drought" after me and my kids mom broke up. My confidence was shot (after a year or two of her bad mouthin me) and I felt like I had nothing to offer a female. I didn't go out, I didn't try to meet someone new, and when I did try I was so timid there's no way a female would go for me. I looked in the mirror one day and realized something and you need to acknowledge the same: This is like a math problem and isn't as bad as your making it seem: Common Denominator.....The only thing that the females that aren't working out have in common is you. You say try, try, try but what your not saying is what you do different everytime you try. There's no point in trying anything over and over if your not doing it different. Look at what you've been doing, and if it's not working what will you do different next time? I hate to get rejected but as long as I can see what went wrong (my approach, choice of cloths, how I carried myself etc.) it doesn't seem so bad.

 

[Kev07]

You fail at life.


And that's a horrible analogy.

You LOSE something when you gameble.

You don't lose shvt when you approach.

 

[swifTy]

I think he is saying-

why try? like why should i? what would be the purpose of trying? and for what? what do i get if i keep trying? why do i have to get rejected hundreds of times just so i can figure it out and so that i can get a girl? why should i have to do push/pull and be this and that just to get a girl? heck, why bother with girls in the first place? why the ruckus over girls? why is everyone trying so damm hard to get them?

why? why? why? why? why?

when you start asking yourself these kinds of questions i think your onto something. your on the right track. EXCEPT the kicker is- that you need to be able to pickup girls and have those skills down pat and know that you can pickup whenever you want before you can ask yourself these kinds of questions, otherwise it would seem your just giving up. But if you know that you are the goods and can pickup at your whim and then you start asking yourself these kinds of questions well then your onto something!

 

[The Juan and only]

If you didn't care, you wouldn't register on a forum just to say that, would you now?

Stop being so defeatist and read the DJ bible, it will almost certainly help you.

 

[amoka]

Just go to a bar any night and you can have sex with almost any guy there,

Homo...No wonder you've given up.

 

[DJVladdy]

Why? Because women are not the problem. Lack of women is a consequence (one of consequences)... of NOT having your SH!T TOGETHER

You guys are lying to yourselfves, because you know there is something wrong with you on a deeper level than women.

And yes, we DO live in the age and place where men, for the most part, have to jump through hoops and pulls rabbits out of their asses to get girls. But how the French say "se la vi" this is life and get used to it.

 

[Slick101]

This guy wont get anywhere in life...

Im sure you do not only suck in getting woman but in other things as well...

you see the problem with you is you put yourself in a state of mind that you just CANT DO IT...

The girls sense that...

I mean if you have a negative feeling about yourself when you approach... why would you expect someone to have a positive feeling about you?

 

[blueguy]

Your attitude is a reflection of how your environment treats you.

I suggest you don't go posting/saying things like this because people are just going to treat you poorly, and you are just going to become more bitter. We can't possibly know why girls are giving you the cold shoulder, but once guys give you the cold shoulder too, you will develop bitterness toward life itself.

I know it is difficult, but try to eliminate the things and people from your life right now that give you the negative attitude. You don't deserve that. Then try to increase the positive things in your life. Whenever you are reminded of a negative past experience, quickly move your mind to something else.

If you haven't already, try to improve your appearance. People respond more positively to a nice appearance. Once you feel comfortable about how you look, try to establish a positive vibe with somebody you are first meeting before they can establish any vibe themselves. They are likely to reflect back your positive vibe.

As you gain more positive experiences, you will begin to reflect the attitude that most girls are attracted to and want.

We can't possibly know what snowball effect led to your current state, but it is possible to recover. Hope this helps.

 

[Obsidian]

Read the f*cking Bible, Willis and DonJuan11. Damn n00bs.