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SmoothTalker

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The last week has not exactly been fun. It feels like my world has been turned upside down and I feel so naive.

Hello fellow DJ's, I've been a member here for a while now, been lurking and learning for longer. I use to be a very akward kid, who didn't have solid friendships until grade 9, and who didn't have the self-confidence to believe any girl could like him.
Over the last few years I have matured and improved, thanks to this site and friends, and finally 2 years ago, I spwept some chick off her feet.

I hadn't even been trying, just being myself, a bit ****y, fun and open, and she fell for it hook line and sinker. Being a direct person, she told me she really liked me and this surprised and scared me off I suppose, because we cut contact for almost a year. Well if absence makes the heart grow fonder it definitly worked in this case, because when we started talking again, she liked me even more, and I liked her also now.

Now keep in mind, she was my first girlfriend. Infact, she was my first for absolutely everything. First kiss, first boobs, first oral, first sex... and I think, first love.

Our relationship started out strong, and went great for 6 months.. At that point it began to show warning signs... We would be amazing together when we were good, but we'd also have stupid fights. We both discounted them at first, and it seemed things were going fine, until about a week ago, when everything came crashing down. She kissed some other guy and didnt tell me for days, her friend that hates me tried to convince her to dump me, and she realized she had feelings for the guy she kissed, instead of it being a stupid spur of the moment like she originally said.

The next week was a wild emotional rollercoaster, and I really believe we are over now.

Now, as sick as I was of the fighting, I feel, what I'm guessing is heart break. Perhaps it is because she was my first everything, but there's a definite empty feeling.

It wasn't all bad, I learned a LOT from her. How to behave in a relationship, how to make out, sex skills. She definitely helped me mature as a person, and I don't regret it.

I also learned much about what not to do in the future.. Though I started strong, I became more and more AFC as the relationship went on. We spent too much time together. I started saying I loved her far too often.

I am sure you have all been here at some time or another. That's why we DJ's are here.

Now I don't know what to do. I don't think we can really pick the relationship up again, and I will try to move on, but I do not have any other girls lined up. Furthermore, she is a definite Nympho and the sex was amazing and abundant. There were weeks where I got off at least once each day. I would like to turn her into a **** buddy, which I think is doable because there has always been a lot of sexual attraction there, and we both liked the sex. Tips on how to go about this?

Any advice, stories, comments, would be greatly appreciated.
 

shark

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Hmm..sounds somewhat similar to me but my girl kissed someother guy and im still with her. (lets just say we got even) and im still w/ her but its more for the ass, but i can see me experiening what ur goin throu real soon.

i'd say to just focus on the fact that it WAS a positive learning exp. and now you get to share yourself w/ the rest of the ladies out there. go have fun bud.
 

The Real Ice Man

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Dear Patient,

Unfortunately, you have been diagnosed with "one-itis."

But the good news is that there's a cure: meet NEW chicks. You should stop crying and get started immediately.

Furthermore, I also see symptoms of "total *****." I can see this because you didn't break up with this girl the second you found out she was cheating on you. But perhaps this could also be a sign of an even worse disease called "desperation." There's no way to know for sure. It could be a combination of all of the above!

Sincerely,
Doctor Ice Man
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Originally posted by The Real Ice Man
Dear Patient,

Unfortunately, you have been diagnosed with "one-itis."

But the good news is that there's a cure: meet NEW chicks. You should stop crying and get started immediately.

Furthermore, I also see symptoms of "total *****." I can see this because you didn't break up with this girl the second you found out she was cheating on you. But perhaps this could also be a sign of an even worse disease called "desperation." There's no way to know for sure. It could be a combination of all of the above!

Sincerely,
Doctor Ice Man
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Sorry, but when you love a girl and get a girlfriend, you get one-itis whether you like it or not. One-itis is a good thing if you are in a relationship, it is always going to be there when you love and trust somebody, but obviously it's bad if its only a crush that you are getting obsessed about. A lot of people on these forums seems to be happy to jump onto the bandwagon saying your AFC for really liking a girlfriend or being upset when you split up. If you don't feel any pain at all after splitting up, then you weren't living in the best relationship you could have done.
 

The Real Ice Man

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He wasn't in the best relationship he could have been in. Remember, she fooled around with another guy! I wouldn't call that a great one by any means.
 
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