All DJs post your responses to this interesting scenario

[intel200]

Ok,

I meet a cute African chic. We go out 2 times, I move in for the kiss, she balks and says she doesnt know if Im friend material or boyfriend.... Im disappointed so she moves in and kisses me. I try to move the action to a better locale, she balks again, we part on bad terms and stop talking. (she was mad I wouldnt keep kissing her goodnight)

She IMs me a few months later. We see eachother much more now. Im getting REALLY interested and I let her know. She gives some back but not too much. She grabs my thing while I drive, but more playfully than anything. The whole time she has this ex who repeatedly sexes her but wont really commit and Im the shoulder to cry on. She breaks dates and trips with me to holla at him. *I think she likes the fact that I like her*

So I, like the ACF I was, break down and yahoo greeting her a "love card" telling her I love her (for the record, it was a tactic and I didnt mean it) Needless to say, she didnt feel the same way, but said my loving her makes her happy. So, then she leaves the country for 2 weeks and she comes back 2day.

The Question: How should I act when she calls? Should I just go ahead and NEXT her? I have done this b4 but she always calls telling how Im the only one she has. Should I send a "I was mistaken I DONT love you" card? Advice please...
She will call me eventually. While she was gone we sent a few emails. No talk of missing eachother, so this seems to be going nowhere.

P.S. after the "i love you" fiasco, she said that I am a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have me but there is no spark between us on that level. I will follow you guys' advice so speak up!!!

 

[So pimp its scary]

What advice is there to give?

Walk away. If this girl ever talks to you again... act like a friend, you will never end up with her no matter how hard you try.

She sees you like she sees her sister. (That is bad.)

NEXT (You'll save yourself alot of heartache)

 

[intel200]

Ok. It is certain that she will contact me. That is for sure. If the advice is NEXT, that is fine...but how? The "Burn the Bridges Next" and just basically tell her she is a waste of time? So if I am to NEXT her..how? SHould I get off the phone quickly and stop calling? I know that a few unreturned phone calls will be the end of it. Or, do I want to let her know about herself first? Guess it doesnt matter if Im really nexting her huh?

 

[Gonzalo]

Dude, everybody will be in an awkward position if you tell her "she is a waste of time", plus you sacrifice possible HBs she might be friends with. I would suggest that if she calls you, talk 3 minutes "because you have company, and will call her later". Seen it with a relative and her boyfriend and works wonders. Then call her five days later "just before you´re entering this place" so you don´t have to talk more than 2 minutes. It´s all the art of giving the hint (art invented and perfected by women), she will get it. Its something kinda ganji games, it´s an interesting read if you search for it. Laters, G

 

[Starman]

WOW!

*Slaps you in the head with an AFC stick*

So what you are basically asking is..you dated this girl, she sent mixed signals..then put you in the LJBF zone..and now you feel embarassed/humilated that you like her and she doesnt like you?

and you are asking how you can win your dignity back..and somewhat put her in her place for rejecting you?

If u are hung up on here..just swallow your pride..and Next her..(unless she has scores of friends you can use her to work on)

Otherwise..Just dissappear like Houdini from her life..

Most likely, she likes your affection..and since you withdraw it (negative reinforcement) she will make a bigger effort to try and get you back in her life..

and dont take it personally..chicks that are hung up on their ex's ..ususally arent in a state of mind to give other guys a chance..

 

[intel200]

Ok, I have thought this through, and dude you are absolutely right. There is a certain amount of dignity that I feel I have lost. But I guess I wont regain it by taking hers. Dang, you guys gotta know how it feels though, just want her to know she's missing out. But, I dont think she has too many frinds. At this point, I think Im gonna do the Houdini move.....

 

[Starman]

yea it sucks..rejections from women I met I can handle..

Rejections after professing your love makes me want to kick myself in the ass..but I learned my lesson...Actions speak louder than words..

and if she rejects your action,..Actions are always be open to interprtation...and you can always have her double guessing your intentions

 

[intel200]

True, true once again my friend. The problem is, ther IS definitely chemistry there. I mean, I can tell if there is no chemistry, but there is some there. I dont know if she wants a man that is from her country, or if she is caught up on the ex or what.....but, it aint worth the effort I guess.....

 

[Julian]

Dude you dont want to mess with a girl who still fuccs her ex. If werent able to make her forget about him when you first met, your fighting a lost cause. Send this b1tch back to Africa and pick up on some new honeys.

 

[tomyv]

just do it

NEXT!!!!!!! and read the bible.

 

[intel200]

I will be reading the bible. Man, these chics can get yo head spinning! But, the good thing is that this situation lead to me finding this site and this community cause I posted a real ACF question on an unrelated forum

 

[Starman]

Originally posted by Julian
Send this b1tch back to Africa and pick up on some new honeys.

Bahhahahahahahaahhahahaha

you act like its a trinket you ordered from Amazon.com that you dont want anymore

 

[Healer]

You should tell her it was a mistake to send her that "love card".

Her: why>?

You guys had some great connections but it was never worth your time to persue her anyways.

Her: why>?

because if she could tell a Real man from a hole in the ground, that non-commiting ex would never be a problem for her in the first place.

 

[Kodiac]

I have been in a very similar situation to you with a woman in the past.

Looking back on that now, i can only laugh.
If i ever run into a biatch like that again...i would be interested to see exactly how far she can get with me

Anyways, READ THE BIBLE. And then read it some more...and finally, more more more.
Trust me, it can really help you in not just this situation, but every other one as well.

She's not worth it. If she was truly interested in you, you wouldn't be having all these problems. She is an attention wh*re and you have fallen into for her trap.

1. Stop waisting your time on her, instead spend it reading the bible.
2. Use your new founded skills to find a woman (or 2,3,4,5) that deserve(s) your attention
3. Enjoy yourself

Once you do this, your current 'lady friend' wont even be a distant memory.

 

[sAxyguy83]

Drop her - she's way too clingy and needy. She is no way GF material.

 

[squirrels]

She wants to be friends...either BE friends and use it to meet HER friends and DJ them, or (preferably) just break contact. Either way, this one is going to the back of the line...find other girls who WANT to be with such a great guy.

 

[TesuqueRed]

You fvcked the dvck, dude.

Chemistry--whatever. Nice to have it, but it doesn't gurantee anything.

She played you. She knows she can OWN you (and she has...) If she wants to own you again, she might--might--have to almost break a sweat to do it if you put up some resistance.

Next her.

She played you and wasn't even winded. You won't reverse this now. Chemistry doesn't mean she'll be good or nice or decent or worthwhile.

Next.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by intel200
Ok, I have thought this through, and dude you are absolutely right. There is a certain amount of dignity that I feel I have lost. But I guess I wont regain it by taking hers. Dang, you guys gotta know how it feels though, just want her to know she's missing out. But, I dont think she has too many frinds. At this point, I think Im gonna do the Houdini move.....

Good choice. Remember this, women have the ability to decide whether you are a keeper or not rather quickly. If a woman is unsure, more than likely she has problems making general decisions. This can cause a lot of problems if you get involved with them.

BE WARY OF CONFUSED WOMEN!

 

[seulaxplaya]

next the bia.

 

[JohnElDonJuan]

My advice is to slowly bait her into a guilt trip about whats going on before you next it wouldn't hurt anyways to try. Heres an example from a another seduction website

And oh yeah in the dating game the only rule is there are no rules, if women can follow these rules and use it against us why not fight back?

I don't mind some of the games chix play wit me, but I hate, hate, HATE it when they try to soften the blow of rejection with a compliment. I made a promise to myself the next time a chick pulls this **** on me to put her in her place. Last night I finally got my chance.

A chick from my computer class calls me up around 10 and BEGS me to come over an help her with some ****ing assignment for her midterm. AFC that I still am (****, guys, I gotta get out of this mode), I drive on over and get to play the hero nerd. Midnight rolls around and I'm hungry and tired, and she starts whining about this jerk whose been cheating on her. Finally I interrupt her and tell her to just dump him and date an honest guy and she tells me she can't find one. I ask her if she thinks I'm dishonest and shes like "Oh, you know what I mean. I'm like "Yeah, I do know." The expression on my face musta said something because she came back at me with "No, no, not that! You know what I mean!!" I'm like "Why don't you tell me what you mean. You think I'm not good enough for you?" She says "Uh, uh, your great, you'll make a fine boyfriend for any woman!" Without thinking, I shot back "yeah, EXCEPT YOU."

You shoulda seen the look on her face!! I just sat there and she fell apart, blushing at me. Musta been my cynicism or something because the next thing I know she's sitting in my lap, unzipping my pants, and we **** all night. Let that be a lesson to all the AFC out here not to take their ****.