Aging and erections

[mr.confused]

So this is a rather embarrassing topic, but I figured this was probably a good place to discuss.

At the moment I'm 37 and over the last few years, specifically around ~35 I started noticing a change in my sex drive / performance. I can still perform but I've noticed it's not always as reliable and rock hard as it used to be in my younger years. Some days everything works as it should, yet some days I just don't seem as "up for it". I've also noticed my ability to go multiple times in a day is somewhat diminished. I have the odd day where I can go 2-3 times but it's not as frequent as it used to be. It's really made me realise that I'm growing older and I'm not the young kid I used to be.

I think on top of that, what used to be considered 'normal' has been influenced by the ubiquity of pornography today. It seems the 'norm' now is to have a 10" **** and be able to go for hours, no matter what your age. It's difficult not to feel that I should be doing the same.

I'm just wondering if I'm the odd one out here? Or is everyone else still able to perform as well as their younger days?

One issue I have is that my girlfriend is younger than me (29) and beautiful - so she's used to having guys always being rock hard and good to go (mainly because before me she was in relationships with guys in their twenties too). So over the past couple of weeks I've been on a low calorie diet, and I'm used to my sex drive dropping when I do this. Yesterday she was feeling particularly horny so we had sex that morning. 2 hours later she wanted to go again but the combination of having already sex and feeling so exhausted from low calories meant that I just couldn't perform. She got a little upset and I tried to tell her it's because I'm exhausted and already had sex that day.

I think the humiliation of not being able to give her what she wanted made me feel particularly low, and got me wondering whether there's something wrong with me or whether every other guy is having sex like a porn star?

Have any other guys in their late 30s gone through this? Or am I the only one?

 

[derby1]

I could straighten up the leaning tower of pisa at 37 heres how...do not cherry pick this info it needs all doing together

1)30 mins CARDIO
2) no touching your own LeRoy
3)no viewing Porn
4)only ejac once a week for now
5) take your time, she must also be understanding, (notice how its all your fault)

 

[SW15]

I'm 37 and my erections are generally strong. @derby1 is mostly correct.

I could straighten up the leaning tower of pisa at 37 heres how...do not cherry pick this info it needs all doing together

1)30 mins CARDIO
2) no touching your own LeRoy
3)no viewing Porn
4)only ejac once a week for now
5) take your time, she must also be understanding, (notice how its all your fault)

You should mix cardio and strength training.

2 and 3 are huge. I cut porn and mbate about 4 years ago. My morning wood became much more reliable after doing that.

I only believe in ejaculation during sex or a nocturnal emission (wet dreams). My wet dream frequency increased with no porn and mbate if I had no partner.

Taking your time helps. When I have sex, I'm usually good to go at least twice in a day or evening. In my 30s, Saturday or Sunday daytime sex has become my favorite (Monday-Friday daytime has been my work schedule). There's usually enough free to take your time and do 2-3 times during the day time hours. I'm doing this with a greater degree of difficulty because I've been using condoms to prevent some real lifestyle downsides.

A solid sleep schedule is also good for your testosterone. I recommend eating a clean diet with no soy products, processed ingredients, or anything else that might be estrogenic.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hows your bodyweight compared to when you had good erectile performance.? Are you the same body fat or fatter?

Do you have a woman? How does she treat you? Does she sexually desire you?

Have you had any bad relationships or bad breakups or trauma in between the time you had good boners and now?

How is your current sex life?

Are you working out?

Porn c0cks aren't 10". It's camera angles. Porn is the NBA of c0cks. So it's not fair to compare your body height to a man whose 6'9", it's the same as it's not fair to compare your c0cks to porn.

 

[mr.confused]

Thanks for the replies.

I'm in good shape - always have been. I used to be very into the weight lifting side but over the years my muscle mass has gone down. I eat very clean.

My woman does desire me, but she's quite.. how I say? Blunt? ie. if something like this happens (and it's happened a couple of times before) she makes it very clear to me that she's not happy about it. I won't lie, it's very painful and humiliating when she reacts like that but what can I do. And it does make me worry sometimes that it could happen again.

Just FYI, it doesn't happen all the time. Like I said, for the most part my body works as I need it do. But on the odd occasion, particularly over the last few years, I do find I'm not as firm as I used to be and sometimes just can't go a second round. I was wondering if this was just how it is at this age, or whether there's something wrong with me? It's not exactly something I discuss with friends.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thanks for the replies.

I'm in good shape - always have been. I used to be very into the weight lifting side but over the years my muscle mass has gone down. I eat very clean.

My woman does desire me, but she's quite.. how I say? Blunt? ie. if something like this happens (and it's happened a couple of times before) she makes it very clear to me that she's not happy about it. I won't lie, it's very painful and humiliating when she reacts like that but what can I do. And it does make me worry sometimes that it could happen again.

How long have you been with her? I've been with that type of person. If you have been with her for years, and that negative REINFORCEMENT method that she's so comfortable using ( like most females ), then your c0ck is literally beat down mentally.

Over time their negativity will cause you to start to cause you to second guess and doubt yourself. In the case of erections, we start fvcking it up when we start thinking about it or doubting ourselves. Back when we were young, we got hard, took it for granted never thought about it.

With a wife like yours, your d1ck is going to be toast.... She would have to change some of her ways which are natural for her, in her need to verbalize her doubts and nag you. She has to be aware of your esteem, and not go stabbing it like a killer or sucking blood just because she smells some like a VAMPIRE!!!

I would never talk about erections with her.

If she is kind, she will give you oral before sex and you go right into the act after you gain a strong erection. In porn most of the guys do this, because after seeing 100's of puzzies and fvcking them thousands of times on the finest and finest girls, you get desensitized. You need her to SHOW you her desire for you and that's thru giving you some head to start the act. Those porn guys have fluffers, or ladies who give them head before the scene or before penetration.

Even Lexington Steele ( 9" porn c0ck superstar ) said that occasionally he has women who are DIFFICULT to work with. In that they are BIG HEADED and they are not HELPING him. They try to act "bigger than him". So they leave the erection process all on him and often he can't get hard due to HER mindset.

Just FYI, it doesn't happen all the time. Like I said, for the most part my body works as I need it do. But on the odd occasion, particularly over the last few years, I do find I'm not as firm as I used to be and sometimes just can't go a second round. I was wondering if this was just how it is at this age, or whether there's something wrong with me? It's not exactly something I discuss with friends.

Dude just stay fit. Ask your wife if she can just not talk and kiss on you and give you head to get the sex started. Just like porn stars do and guys who get a sh1t ton of puzzy. It's kind of normal. Their c0cks need to see that she's interested.

 

[9-3enthusiast]

Can only speak for myself... but currently have no problems at all - I turn 57 in a few weeks.

I did put on a LOT of weight after losing interest during a LTR (marriage)... The classic.. 'let myself go..' - Eating too much - sugary crap - no exercise - etc.
Morning glories had faded away completely by about 50-ish, and I was often in the position where the little fella wouldn't respond anywhere near as strongly as it used to.
I had also developed high blood pressure, which I'm pretty sure had quite an impact on performance issues.

A few yrs ago I divorced, then lost the excess weight by completely avoiding refined sugars, and cutting right back on processed foods.
I eat quite a bit of fruit - mostly apples, bananas and watermelons... I usually juice the watermelon and drink that, with some orange/lemon/or lime juice added so it isn't so bland to taste.
I also started taking a couple of supplements known to help with circulation (Omega 3,6,9 and Ginkgo Biloba).
Blood pressure dropped back in to the 'normal' range as the weight came off, and since getting back into casual dating I've found that the little fella is pretty much back to the way he was in my 20s/30s, morning glories are also back with a vengeance.
I've also found that it no longer subsides straight afterwards... to the point that I can continue with no in-between downtime (Much to the surprise, and pleasure, of most women)

Not sure what, specifically, is the main cause of it all - Whether it's the better fitness, lower BP, sugar-free diet, the fruit-rich diet, the supplements, the better circulation in general, or some combination... I just know that I'm sticking with the current diet regime... because it's obviously working for me...

 

[f(x)]

Have you tried boron for testosterone and l-citrulline for circulation? I have responded well to these supplements.

I would not recommend boron if you’re considering nofap.

Check out peaktestosterone.com. It is a very expansive and informative website.

 

[7onriverI f]

For me I can get a errection just from rubbing my dik for about a min or less then have a hard dik. I don't even need to think about pssy or ass/tits to get a errection I get it just from the process of rubbing my own dik not thinking about sexual stuff.

But put me in a club rubbing my crotch on a girls ass and can't get hard to save my life. Also using condoms doesn't turn me on either and I find it impossible to have a errection. that's one of the reasons why i don't have sex. that and religious reasons.

Your not the only guy that has problems dude. guys in their 20s also have problems due to various reasons.

 

[SW15]

If she is kind, she will give you oral before sex and you go right into the act after you gain a strong erection. In porn most of the guys do this, because after seeing 100's of puzzies and fvcking them thousands of times on the finest and finest girls, you get desensitized. You need her to SHOW you her desire for you and that's thru giving you some head to start the act. Those porn guys have fluffers, or ladies who give them head before the scene or before penetration.

Even Lexington Steele ( 9" porn c0ck superstar ) said that occasionally he has women who are DIFFICULT to work with. In that they are BIG HEADED and they are not HELPING him. They try to act "bigger than him". So they leave the erection process all on him and often he can't get hard due to HER mindset.

Dude just stay fit. Ask your wife if she can just not talk and kiss on you and give you head to get the sex started. Just like porn stars do and guys who get a sh1t ton of puzzy. It's kind of normal. Their c0cks need to see that she's interested.

Before I gave up porn years ago, I had read that Viagra was replacing fluffers. Fluffers were common from the 1970s until the early 2000s for sure. It's a valid point.

When I have sex, I can get a massive erection from kissing and an undressing a woman for Round 1. I don't need oral then and that's usually a waste of effort for me. For a Round 2, I need oral before penetration.

I'm surprised that Lexington Steele and other porn stars would ever get desensitized from some of the most physically attractive women out there. A lot of female porn stars are D and DD cupped women with breast implants and lower than average body fat percentages.

You do have a valid about about the woman's attitude and there's also some emotional stuff that can affect physical stuff.

I would not recommend boron if you’re considering nofap.

What happens when boron and nofap are combined?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Before I gave up porn years ago, I had read that Viagra was replacing fluffers. Fluffers were common from the 1970s until the early 2000s for sure. It's a valid point.

When I have sex, I can get a massive erection from kissing and an undressing a woman for Round 1. I don't need oral then and that's usually a waste of effort for me. For a Round 2, I need oral before penetration.

I'm surprised that Lexington Steele and other porn stars would ever get desensitized from some of the most physically attractive women out there. A lot of female porn stars are D and DD cupped women with breast implants and lower than average body fat percentages.

You do have a valid about about the woman's attitude and there's also some emotional stuff that can affect physical stuff.



What happens when boron and nofap are combined?

Sometimes they show porn scenes from the very start and she works s flaccid c0ck into an erection.

As a man i need a woman to show a sure sign of sexual interest.

 

[7onriverI f]

I could straighten up the leaning tower of pisa at 37 heres how...do not cherry pick this info it needs all doing together

1)30 mins CARDIO
2) no touching your own LeRoy
3)no viewing Porn
4)only ejac once a week for now
5) take your time, she must also be understanding, (notice how its all your fault)

30 mins of cardio is what people should be doing daily.
touching my own leRoy is the only way I really get hard unless it's in the morning sometimes and I wake up with a hard LeRoy. Not everyday and it was the same at 15. Can get hard everyday and mutiple times a day if i want if i touch my dik.
Porn really doesn't make me hard unless i touch my self and then continue. try and stay from that crap though.
Reading books tells me guys shouldn't ejac less for other reasons and mostly do it to have kids. Use that ejac energy to give you energy to provide for your family and others.
Stop blaming the female and take responsibility and it is your fault if you can't bang her. If your feeling low because a female thinks your not a man if you can't bang her you need to learn some humilty and stop having pride which ain't serving you.

 

[7onriverI f]

Sometimes they show porn scenes from the very start and she works s flaccid c0ck into an erection.

As a man i need a woman to show a sure sign of sexual interest.

lol she's in bed with the guy wanting him to bang her. Then gets upset that he can't get it up to bang her.

How much sexual interest do you need?

BTW op are you using condoms?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

30 mins of cardio is what people should be doing daily.
touching my own leRoy is the only way I really get hard unless it's in the morning sometimes and I wake up with a hard LeRoy. Not everyday and it was the same at 15. Can get hard everyday and mutiple times a day if i want if i touch my dik.
Porn really doesn't make me hard unless i touch my self and then continue. try and stay from that crap though.
Reading books tells me guys shouldn't ejac less for other reasons and mostly do it to have kids. Use that ejac energy to give you energy to provide for your family and others.
Stop blaming the female and take responsibility and it is your fault if you can't bang her. If your feeling low because a female thinks your not a man if you can't bang her you need to learn some humilty and stop having pride which ain't serving you.

It is not your fault if you can't bang her. They cuck men intentionally for power. She might have chose you for resources from the start. Sex was only to trap you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

lol she's in bed with the guy wanting him to bang her. Then gets upset that he can't get it up to bang her.

How much sexual interest do you need?

BTW op are you using condoms?

I need her to pull me out. Kiss on me a bit. Once I'm used to her giving it my c0ck knows what to expect and gets hard.

She can't just demand i get hard like a robot. I'm used to babes desiring me and being all over me. Thats what works.

 

[7onriverI f]

It is not your fault if you can't bang her. They cuck men intentionally for power. She might have chose you for resources from the start. Sex was only to trap you.

What? Well he should be telling her shes ugly as fark and needs to hit the gym and eat some celary for being such a fatty.
Tell her she's not turning him on and shes ugly as fark.

Lol tell her shes ugly as fark for doing the cuckin is more like it if shes actually hot. but most likely she isn't that hot because no girl is that hot and she needs to do at least 3.5 mins of more cardio a day to get in better shape.

 

[SW15]

She can't just demand i get hard like a robot. I'm used to babes desiring me and being all over me. Thats what works.

The more you know a babe is hot for you, the better it is. That's why I work out 4-5 days a week. I want to have a physique that will make women's vaginas tingle.

 

[7onriverI f]

I need her to pull me out. Kiss on me a bit. Once I'm used to her giving it my c0ck knows what to expect and gets hard.

She can't just demand i get hard like a robot. I'm used to babes desiring me and being all over me. Thats what works.

Then your getting off on PRIDE. You feel like the man when a girl likes you and it turns you on. Expect girls to attack this weakness over time.

For me I don't get turned on by this personally. I get turned on by stimulation the actual act of pumping and the feeling of it. I don't even need a girl to look at to stay hard. That's why I talk to some of the ugliest women you could think of in terms of looks but I like interacting with and the same is with interacting with some of the more beautiful women you could find.

Lust is another problem and is another weakness. You shouldn't really be looking at a girls tits to get you hard or her ass to get you hard.
I have this problem and try and stay away from looking at chicks asses or watching porn.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The more you know a babe is hot for you, the better it is. That's why I work out 4-5 days a week. I want to have a physique that will make women's vaginas tingle.

Agree you can have all of that and she knows your hot. She could have an ego problem with you and won't do anything that pleases you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Then your getting off on PRIDE. You feel like the man when a girl likes you and it turns you on. Expect girls to attack this weakness over time.

For me I don't get turned on by this personally. I get turned on by stimulation the actual act of pumping and the feeling of it. I don't even need a girl to look at to stay hard. That's why I talk to some of the ugliest women you could think of in terms of looks but I like interacting with and the same is with interacting with some of the more beautiful women you could find.

Lust is another problem and is another weakness. You shouldn't really be looking at a girls tits to get you hard or her ass to get you hard.
I have this problem and try and stay away from looking at chicks asses or watching porn.

It's not pride. I need her to show me her interest. I've fvcked probably 5000 times or more ( only 52 babes ) so I just need her to show her interest. Im not gonna get hard easy for a babe who doesn't really want me. Rubbing and kissing on me is usually enough. if I get used to someone and I know I'm going to fvck then I'll get hard. Sometimes your woman can be controlling or in a fight with you and it fvcks it up.