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after you say hi what do you say after

broken dreams

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well I am experiemnting with daygame , street elevator anyplace outside of a venue like clubs or bars.
I like bars but my wing works alot and im solo.So Ive always seem in the begiing to be shy to talk to someone or approach a woman in the street especilly nyc. bu thanks to a good friend and mentor here in nyc I finally learned to get better actually started last week. I feel confident now cause I dont feel sorry of what would i have said she so hot etc. I missed my chance etc.
I open even if i fvck it up .I talked to her, I think thats a big step at this point where Im getting in rhythm and gaining experience cause guys panic and dont approach at all.

please share experiences after you say hey wheres?
or hi you look friendly i weanted to talk to you, how you respond.

READ MY POSTS , Ive gotten lucky w some girls in the moment but Im talkin in reality.

I usually wait for her to respond and quickly think of a observation or cold read ftc tease abit more or say a joke and qualify herto build a bit of comfort and number close, lately i get the dreadded bf and i ignore it at first but they bring it up again and i say
"I thought we talk about this, why you keep bringgin him up, no wonder we cant get along,
we would fight and fight and then we end up in bed together "

feddback and check other posts.
PM if you want to go out practice in nyc.

tomorrow i'll try to break rapport in middle of convo and qualify her, lets see how that works out.
 

BudBundi

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Dude, you use way too many abbreviations. Does it really take that much effort to type out the whole word?
 

CGE333

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You may find an easy way to start a convo is to comment to the target something about the environment you are in. For example, if you were in a bookstore make a comment about a book they are looking at or holding or even one you are holding. The very first words i ever said to my wife were "Wouldn't it be great if these were 3 for $2 instead of 3 for the price of 2." I actually had walked up to this table in a bookstore because from a distance i thought the sign on it had said 3 for $2. You can then steer the convo in other directions. Most women i approached before i got married i just opened with a comment about the surroundings. In line at a grocery store you can comment on what they have in their basket, etc. One advantage you have here is that most men don't approach women in these places or if they do they use those cheesy pick up lines like "you look nice". For a laugh you should try that one on a 300 pound woman :)

I also like the Juggler method where you learn to become a good story teller and then after you open them up, you tell them a very interesting story about something that recently happened to you and before you know it, you have talked with them for 5-10-15 minutes. You talk to them like you would any good friend of yours, i.e. with that kind of rapport. So to get better you really need to push the envelope here and start holding some conversations with them. When you get good at it, it will just seem natural that you will collect their number before you leave. Don't worry about it being perfect the first few times out, just try and hold a conversation with them. One trick that worked for me is that after a period of time i would let the conversation just hang there for a few seconds. If they took the initiative to start the convo back up, i took that as an indicator of interest, so i talked with them some more and # closed, if they didn't pick it back up, i usually ejected.

My opinion is to drop the you look friendly BS, unless you wear cheap suits and want to sound like a used car salesman. By using that line you immediately sound like the other 5 a-holes that approached her recently
 
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