After sex I just want them to leave.

[RalphaWreck]

Immediately after having sex I start looking for an exit strategy. Not just after the session but from the relationahip. I spend the next few weeks pulling back until they are no longer in my life.

These are nice ladies too that are genuinely looking for a nice guy to chill with. The problem is I'd much prefer to chill by myself.

I do have a nice lady friend that I really enjoy doing stuff with. I haven't had sex with her yet and I'm sure she''s wondered why I haven't made advances towatds her. I mean I've kissed her and heavy petting. I know once I have sex with her I'll try and avoid her and ruin our connection.

I don't know yet if what I'm doing with these nice ladies is considered a problem or if its unhealthy. I do know I'm not interested in a LTR and all of them know this early in the "courting" phase.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

 

[bigneil]

1) This generally means her DNA wasn't as good as your mom's DNA. Perhaps you need to get in better shape to be a better expression of that DNA so you can get hotter girls.

2) Before sex a woman considers all the reasons she doesn't want to have sex with a man. After sex, she thinks of all the reasons she DOES. A man is the opposite. Before sex he thinks of all the reasons he wants to have sex with a woman. After sex, he thinks of all the reasons he DOESN'T. Thus, unless both members of the couple can survive a period of trying NOT to like the other, the relationship dissolves. This tests the strength of the relationship.

3) After sex everyone will try to mess up the relationship. This is another way the Universe tests the strength of the relationship.

4) Spare us the "I could f*ck her but don't want to spoil the friendship" line - that is not only feminine behavior, but lame feminine behavior.

 

[sazc]

The 'norm' for females is that, after sex, we are probably looking to continue the 'connection' by being open, close, getting to know one another, being vulnerable with one another.

I suspect you exit, stage left, because you don't want to be in that position. You are not ready/willing to open up and risk yourself by being close,/vulnerable with someone. The idea possibly frightens you.

Happens to a lot of people

 

[Urbanyst]

I do the same thing whenever I sleep with women under 8 in looks. I can't get serious with an average girl. I've slept with a lot of women, but all my LTR were 8 or higher in looks.

What it boils down to is I fear being stalked. I'm attractive with a good job and I don't want to lead on some average girl and have her turn psycho on me when I don't commit to her. Also, a lot of these women are desperate these days. To give an example, I went on a Tinder date a while back with a 7 who I wasn't that into. Decided not to make a move because her interest level was too high. She called me a few days later saying she can't wait to see me again. I didn't call back so she called me again. Eventually I just told her I wasn't interested. Then she started arguing with me about why I should go out with her again. Imagine if I actually slept with her. She probably would of stalked me and slashed my tires.

I think we all get a little itchy when a woman seems too into us too early, so we recoil after we get what we want to avoid messy issues down the road.

 

[RalphaWreck]

4) Spare us the "I could f*ck her but don't want to spoil the friendship" line - that is not only feminine behavior, but lame feminine behavior.

Bro. I know how this thing goes. I'm being sincere.

 

[Roober]

I could understand this as a way to remain disconnected. I would agree with @sazc on where you are at in your life. Personally, I like sexing the same woman over and over. You introduce something new to rock her world each time. When she no longer is open to push the boundaries, that is the point that I will next them...

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Some girls I've clicked with and wanted to chill after sex, but most I didn't.

Unless you think you've got deeper issues, I wouldn't worry about it. If you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it.

OTOH, if you click with them before sex but not after, then you might want to ask yourself why.

When you bang these ladies, are you eager or do you need to push yourself?

 

[RalphaWreck]

When you bang these ladies, are you eager or do you need to push yourself?

I'm never eager. Everything flows really easily. If we're on the couch I put their hand on my dyck and it usually ends up in their mouth or I'll say let's go my bedroom. Theyll usually take all their clothes off before getting in.

As I write this I kind of see what your getting at. Moet tines I say to myself "this is the beginning of the end". In the past I'd gently fwck them now I'm more vigorous almost rough. Never once have I had a complaint. I figure they came here to get fuct.

 

[Konada]

I've been using a litmus test of whether a girl is worth pursuing in my eyes. I jack off and immediately then ask myself 'Do I still want to stick it in her or kick her out?' Saves me alot of trouble from wasting time with girls I don't really care about.

 

[RalphaWreck]

I've been using a litmus test of whether a girl is worth pursuing in my eyes. I jack off and immediately then ask myself 'Do I still want to stick it in her or kick her out?' Saves me alot of trouble from wasting time with girls I don't really care about.

How do you go about "kicking them out"???

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I'm never eager. Everything flows really easily.

As you're putting their hands on your dyck, etc, what's your frame of mind? "Oh boy, I'm about to get laid!" or "What am I going to have for lunch tomorrow?" Is there any sense of obligation? What would happen if they resisted, would you keep pushing through, or would just shrug your shoulders and check what was on TV? When are you the absolute horniest? What do you do about it?

If you could conjure up your ideal woman, one you would enjoy talking to after banging, what would she be like? Or can you not imagine such a scenario?

 

[RalphaWreck]

As you're putting their hands on your dyck, etc, what's your frame of mind? "Oh boy, I'm about to get laid!" or "What am I going to have for lunch tomorrow?" Is there any sense of obligation? What would happen if they resisted, would you keep pushing through, or would just shrug your shoulders and check what was on TV? When are you the absolute horniest? What do you do about it?

If you could conjure up your ideal woman, one you would enjoy talking to after banging, what would she be like? Or can you not imagine such a scenario?

I get excited and I look ford to it. I'd push through if she resisted. If I was really horny Id just take it. Turn them around, bend them over the sofa, raise their skirt and go to town.

Tall, slim, Latin, big booty, short hair (no weave), cooks, a reader, likes sci-fi, smells good. At least 10 years younger, has a job, not an entrepreneur, drives her own car, no kids (or kids older than 13), swims, has a passport, doesn't do drugs and drinks moderatly, non party girl type, sarcastic, gyms a few times a week.

 

[AlphaNate]

I've told multiple girls to leave afterward. The funny thing is the different reactions I've gotten.

I've had girls never speak to me again, but I've had girls become completely obsessed after I did that, even referring to when I told her to leave as something she found really sexy.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I'm very much the same with 98% of the women I've fvcked. It's like a switch gets turned when you come and she becomes no longer important to you, so you wanna be with your buds, or go do a man thing afterwards. She, in YOUR mind, should just be there waiting for you while you go off and do your thing for a while. Used to BE that way up until the feminist movement gained MOMENTUM late-1960s.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I get excited and I look ford to it. I'd push through if she resisted. If I was really horny Id just take it. Turn them around, bend them over the sofa, raise their skirt and go to town.

You're normal, I wouldn't worry. Sounds like after you bang them you figure there's nothing else interesting about them. If you could only get laid once a year you'd probably hang on for dear life, but since that's not the case, you're a normal dude unimpressed with "normal" females beyond sex.

 

[RalphaWreck]

You're normal, I wouldn't worry. Sounds like after you bang them you figure there's nothing else interesting about them. If you could only get laid once a year you'd probably hang on for dear life, but since that's not the case, you're a normal dude unimpressed with "normal" females beyond sex.

Yay... Lol!!!