After 'Bed' Tips

[Diaforetikos]

I never realized how powerful the moments after sex were if you wanna keep the girl. I always thought, "Get the booty. Girls interest will rise. I continue to receive booty." But I never had any guidelines on what to do and what not to do afterwards. I've been sleeping around, and so I've thrown together some tips on what I think maintains a women's interest in order to keep her coming back for more, and maybe even get her to brag about you to her friends.



CUDDLING
This may be a tough one for some of the stubborn, non-cuddle types, but this is a powerful tool. This gives off the impression that you don't just want her for sex. It shows that you actually enjoyed it and that her presence is welcome. It sounds gay, but it works. Before you cuddle though, make sure that you are congruent with the fact that you like cuddling.

How To: What I usually do in order to continue playing a dominate role while still cuddling is to skooch closer to her while my hands are planted under my head, and then I let her rest her head on my chest. It's the satisfaction cuddle. Your both satisfied, and she's happy that she could help. It also puts you in the dominate position.



SECRETS
My girl always asks me to tell her a secret. Your probably thinking, "But that's your girl." Well let me tell you... Before she started to ask me to leak a little of myself into her mental cavity, I use to tell her random tidbits about me. Things I only told people during deep conversations. She ate it up.

How To: When I give my girl one of my secrets, I tend to make it life goal oriented. It sets a frame of ambition. You want something outta life and you wanna go get it. Girls are all stirred up from the sex, that it turns them on a lot more than it normally would. Now your secrets don't only have to be goal oriented if you don't want. It could also be silly childhood stories or embarrassing moments.



APPRECIATION
This is really simple. Appreciate her body. Find a body part and caress it for a time. She'll enjoy it.

How To: My go to body part is the hair. I usually comb my fingers through it. Girls love this. I also kiss everywhere. And I mean everywhere. Head, arms, back, feet, and even armpits. But just a kiss, like a peck. Girls love when guys kiss their back. No one usually pays attention to a women's back, so be indifferent and kiss those backs.



STARE AND SMILE
This makes a women all warm inside. She feels appreciated.

How To: This is simple. Just stare into her eyes without saying a word, and smile softly. She may ask what. If she does, just say, "nothing", then continue smiling. She will feel so special.



KISSING
This keeps the attraction lit after sex. Use this sparingly though.

How To: I usually kiss 'em when she says something cute or funny. It's another "your special and appreciated smile."





I hope this helps some of you. This may not seem important, but I've had girls tell me how their other boyfriends weren't like this, and that I'm different. I had one girl tell me she was attracted to me because of how I acted after sex, which was probably the weirdest thing I've ever heard. But that just shows how important it is in keeping a women interested and keeping that attraction high.

One more thing guys. Value and appreciate women. Sex is fun and everything, so let the girls know that you appreciate 'em for it. Treat them right and they'll treat you right.

Good Luck mates!!

 

[Thatfeel21]

wow...just wow. This post is dead-on. I rarely sign in to reply because i rather just read and laugh at some of these posts. But yeah, you posters and lurkers need to take notes! These tips might not keep a girl for years, but they'll definitely be telling their g/fs what a great guy they've met.

And trust me, even though to us guys this is considered 'post-sex'-- it's not to girls. Sex for them starts when you first kiss them all the way until your done and holding her.

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

you like cuddling? fag...


just kidding, good post on something I have never read about on sosuave.

My only problem is that I cannot fall asleep if someone is hanging on me sooo after about 10 minutes of touching I usually roll over and get some distance.

Also, immediately after sex is a good time to verbally talk about sex. It can be as serious or casual as you make it but always beneficial.
The other week I asked a girl if she wants to try anal next time. Not something I would usually ask unless a girl is turned on.

 

[Scars]

After sex the power shifts over to the male regardless. I've avoided all of these things like the plague and they will still come back. If you don't want them to feel used then talk to them if they initiative contact. You not going into cutesy "boyfriend" mode is what will REALLY raise their interest. I agree some mild reassurance and attention doesn't hurt, but after I blow my load the only thing I want to do is roll over and sleep, which is what I usually do.

 

[handle]

If you need tips for how to act after sex, you're overthinking everything.

 

[Kailex]

I usually leave right after.

Seems to have worked so far. "Conventional wisdom" would have me believe that this would make women upset and feel like play things, I'd say that almost all of them kept calling after. Of course, I didn't run out through the window and just sprint out of there like The Flash.

But I never saw the point to sticking around.
It causes this amount of overthinking already.

More often than not, it seemed to be a challenge for women to TRY to get me to stay over or vice versa.

I just always tried to make sure I wouldn't fall into the "active test" trap.

 

[J. Darko]

I appreciate your effort to enlighten us about sex, which doesn't get as much attention on this board as what to write in a text message, but you know, those who get laid already have the social intelligence to do this kind of stuff. If not, they wouldn't even get the girl.

 

[Diaforetikos]

These are tips. Nothing more. Some people don't need em or want em. You'd be surprised how some people act after sex and could use this vey basic information. Majority of guys won't need this, but I'm here to help the little man.

Besides, with all the dumb questions on this board, this might help.