AFCness: Does it ever end?

[WestCoaster]

OK, a gal I used to date (thank God I'm not pursing her anymore) told me the most agonizing AFC story ever yesterday. I'll keep it short so you I won't torture you slowly. You'll lose your lunch rather quick.

She went out with a 44 year old -- yep, 44 -- and after one date she decided he wasn't for her. When she told him this he started crying (uh, this guy has two grown children), and was saying like, "I knew this was too good to be true."

Then he bombards her with e-mails, phone, calls, and flowers. Then he cries again on the phone to her. She's like groaning and complaining about this guy as she describes this, thinking he's a wimp.

Just a quick reminder for me to never, ever go down that path again (I was an AFC when I was younger, but never this bad!).

OK, now take that heavy dose of Pepto Bismal!

 

[MetalFortress]

I'm partial to the guy here who kept a daily journal on how much he likes this girl for a whole year, then when she had to leave for college, HE GAVE IT TO HER. That is the magnus opus.

 

[Golden Arms]

Originally posted by DJ IronGirevik
I'm partial to the guy here who kept a daily journal on how much he likes this girl for a whole year, then when she had to leave for college, HE GAVE IT TO HER. That is the magnus opus.

gave what to her ? his journal ? or some sausage ?

 

[MetalFortress]

His journal.

 

[Julian]

Lol. I remember reading that one.

 

[xblitz44x]

AFCness will never end so long as you're covering up your insecurities with Stuart Smally (I'm a DJ, I'm a DJ, and daw-gone-it people like me) affirmations and techniques. You have to figure out what your hang-ups are, where they came from...and fix them.

 

[Titus]

Originally posted by WestCoaster
OK, a gal I used to date (thank God I'm not pursing her anymore) told me the most agonizing AFC story ever yesterday. I'll keep it short so you I won't torture you slowly. You'll lose your lunch rather quick.

She went out with a 44 year old -- yep, 44 -- and after one date she decided he wasn't for her. When she told him this he started crying (uh, this guy has two grown children), and was saying like, "I knew this was too good to be true."

Then he bombards her with e-mails, phone, calls, and flowers. Then he cries again on the phone to her. She's like groaning and complaining about this guy as she describes this, thinking he's a wimp.

Just a quick reminder for me to never, ever go down that path again (I was an AFC when I was younger, but never this bad!).

OK, now take that heavy dose of Pepto Bismal!

Poor guy... but it seems he is still better then you, Westcoaster. You won't believe this, but having children equals having lots of sex with someone you probably care very much about... Maybe you could learn something from him...

 

[Frank Zappa]

Re: Re: AFCness: Does it ever end?

Originally posted by Titus
Poor guy... but it seems he is still better then you, Westcoaster. You won't believe this, but having children equals having lots of sex with someone you probably care very much about... Maybe you could learn something from him...

Zuh? ~Zappa

 

[Kuen1]

xblitz44x is on point.

"AFCness will never end so long as you're covering up your insecurities with Stuart Smally (I'm a DJ, I'm a DJ, and daw-gone-it people like me) affirmations and techniques. You have to figure out what your hang-ups are, where they came from...and fix them." - Woe to the man who spends hundreds and hundreds of dollars on clothes made in Thailand for $2 and thinks that this will make him a strong, happy, and confident man.

 

[Knicknack]

Re: Re: AFCness: Does it ever end?

Originally posted by Titus
Poor guy... but it seems he is still better then you, Westcoaster. You won't believe this, but having children equals having lots of sex with someone you probably care very much about... Maybe you could learn something from him...

why the personal attack? relax man.

 

[Starman]

I never got into this whole "Im a DJ!" mentality. This whole site is a wealth of useful info for me to self improve, both with the ladies, life, career, and socially.

Some people here only aspire to improve their game with women and cant get beyond applying these techniques to other bodies of life.

Im willing to bet you most AFC guys have very few friends, poor paying jobs, and are pushovers with their friends as well..not just with the ladies..but they are AFC's in LIFE.

Most imporantly, when you want to adapt the DJ mentality, you cant just selectively act confident c0cky funny etc with WOMEN ONLY. This is not some ROLE you play and come out of in life.

You have to transform your entire persona to adapt with what the world expects of you. So that you truly become confident c0cky funny intelligent conversational social etc AS A PERSON/Totality/Genuinly and not as some phony hiding behind labels, insecurities and false persona's

You have to be able to see the BIG PICTURE in the game. Transform your MIND, ATTITUDE..BELIEVE..RAISE YOUR STaNDARDS of what you expect of people, demand respect

this process may take years..but once you have completely transformed your mind, you will see YOU HAVE GAME and the WOMEN WILL follow, regardless of WHAT PU techniques you use.

 

[Dale North]

as of late, I'm beginning to think DJs pride themself only in netting gal after gal.

after all, aint that what a DJ is made for. some of us, at least.

_________________________________
-Stand tall, live fast, die strong

 

[Player_Supreme]

it will end when you change what's inside.

 

[Bonhomme]

I'd rather read ...

An inspirational story of transformation, like the one posted by Mr. Fingers (it must be somewhere in the DJ Bible).

Nexxtttt!

 

[WestCoaster]

Better not post that again!

OK, OK, I get it. It was just an anecdote, don't take it so serious folks. Sheesh.

Titus, what the hell are you talking about? I'm doing well and am happy. Yeah, every guy with kids is the most happy person in the world. Huh? Nice logic.

And I'm sure the Menendez parents were real happy, too. Hey, they had kids, right? Charles Manson's parents? Real happy -- they had kids, right?

I'm sure Eminem's mom is really happy because she was called every name in the book. Hey, she had kids, right?

Titus, do you ever respond in a positive note, or is attacking people a favorite thing to do in Slovenia -- wherever that dump is.

 

[that happy dude]

esh

I think what Westcoaster was getting at is that a guy who has been through it all, kids etc, should know better than to wear his heart on his sleeve. Something like that.

 

[Titus]

Re: Better not post that again!

Originally posted by WestCoaster
Titus, what the hell are you talking about? I'm doing well and am happy. Yeah, every guy with kids is the most happy person in the world. Huh? Nice logic.

No.. he is not... but are there kids if the parents first don't like eachother and love eacother? In most cases, not. The middle ages and the marriage out of social status is over'n'done with.

Originally posted by WestCoaster Titus, do you ever respond in a positive note, or is attacking people a favorite thing to do in Slovenia -- wherever that dump is.

Positive or not, that is how you see it. From my point of view it was not seen as an attack. What if it was only you that saw it too personally?
And as for Slovenia...

http://www.gorenjska.si/td07.html

This is where i live and i can safely say that the rest of the country looks quite like it.

We are not called "the green part of Europe" for nothing.

 

[Golden Arms]

Re: Re: Better not post that again!

Originally posted by Titus
No.. he is not... but are there kids if the parents first don't like eachother and love eacother? .

Lots and lots !
Are you kidding me ?

 

[Titus]

No... i am not.

Would a girl want to have lots of sex with you without loving you first? Maybe we could... but they wouldn't...

And as for the kids... they come after the first step. By then it's either all fuycked up already or they still like eacother.

 

[WestCoaster]

Titus: What planet are you living on?

Perhaps your country has a totally different culture than yours, but we have a nation full of divorces and millions, yes millions of babies born out of wedlock. And it's not all the man's fault. Many women just want to have kids without a man around. I know a few women like that.

The U.S. has many great qualities, but our strange dating/marriage/co-habitating culture is not one of them. I find it humorous that marriage is considered "sacred" by some and it has a 50 percent failure rate. It's the only thing in our country considered sacred with such a poor won-loss record.

I ran into a gal I know on campus today, a beautiful Black-French woman from Toronto. She's gorgeous AND nice, friendly ALL the time ... when I first met her I knew she wasn't from America. Way too nice.

American women usually pass the eye-ball test and totally flunk the everything-else test. Why do you think sosuave.com is here? I've dated women of many different races and some from other countries -- and they're always better than American women.

Yes, American women have kids without daddies, screw men when they don't care or love them. Happens all the time in our dysfunctional country. Get educated, please.