The thing is, it is easily possible to sustain a relationship in the way these articles suggest- kissing ass, suplicating your self, constantly chasing, buying shyt all of the time. The result being that you will live the existence of a whipping boy, and even then will run the risk of being dispatched when something better comes along (be that a DJ, or a richer, more suplicating chump).
To me, that is not a relationship. Equally nor is a woman waiting hand and foot on a man, hanging by his every word- this in the past has given me no satisfaction whatsoever. However, it would seem that women are less prone to this sort of suplicating behaviour as dating is perceived to be a sellers market- that is to say that women believe themselves to have the right to choose.
This is to my mind one of the most important things about being a DJ- if you roll up trying to find ways to earn a woman's attention, then you have already lost the game. Sure, she might throw you some scraps from the table, but you will never have a relationship. Rather, the alternative is to make her want your attention- which means that you make the choice as to whether to give it (attention
that is...) to her. Here you are already in the driving seat, and can determine where things go from there, if at all.....
Then all you have to do is keep her in this state for as long as you want your relationship to last, which is what I have found to be rather more difficult...but I'm learning.
Cyrano
