AFC Herd: Case Study

Buddha_Mind

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Going to try to take a long story and make it short -- and the point of this story, my dear gents, really is to highlight a few things:

(1) Essentially what I would suggest are the concepts of female sexual freedom and,

(2) AFC Herds

A friend of mine has a lease that ends soon, a girl who moved from Philadelphia, probably in her mid-twenties right now, asked to "move in early", and he agreed (being a nice guy) and she sleeps on the couch for a week.

This chick within 1-2 weeks of being here as recruited a herd of AFC men. I'm not even saying this chick is that attractive -- because she's not -- but she was constantly commenting on how "big her boobs were" (she's of a hispanic decent and definitely has a large rack, but a big thick frame too) amidst the room. I was sitting there taking a completely disconnected-so-sauve-student point of view, and what I noticed was insane:

(1) She was inviting these male "friends" over -- all whom upon entering the apartment surely seemed disheartened there were too OTHER guys there competing for her -- and they looked terribly out of place -- but these are young guys, they don't know any better, they are sticking around anyways for their "chance".

(2) She would drift from dude to dude giving them attention, even my buddy (who is unknowningly an AFC) she would sit next to and literally talk in the tone of a 7 year old about some random bull**** around them -- it was a flash back to the way a 2nd grade girl acts when she likes someone -- entirely childish. But what I couldn't believe is how receptive ALL THESE DUDES were to this chick, and also how a COMPLETE LACK OF ANY GUILT she felt for playing these dudes emotions. I mean she was saying **** about her tits half the time, saying random **** about something sexual -- any time on this board it's clear wtf she was doing consciously/subconsciously.

What I have noticed, and maybe this has something to do with the sexual freedom movement in the last generation (1960's-1970's) that she feels the full reign to choose from whatever suitor she would like, has no qualms about sticking these suitors in the same room together, all under the guise of friendship, and then taking her choice as she is showered in this male-eager attention...it was fvcking absolutely awful to witness and upon retrospect I entirely see what was happening.

She assembles a herd, feels nothing about their intercompetition, takes the top, and wouldn't give a damn about how you feel. And this chick is not even that attractive. Just very flirtatious and repeatedly mentioning her large rack.

Many men on this board feel bad about entertaining too many women or spinning too many plates or emotionally cheating, that sort of thing -- I do not advocate cheating -- but what I am saying is, unless you are in a explicitly exclusive relationship, you should feel no remorse doing the very same thing these women are doing. And clearly not every women is this way -- she was a MAJOR AW -- but I was shocked at least by own comparison as to how I feel guilty leading many women on in this way (especially when my attention becomes fixed on one[perhaps my problem]) -- but in the dynamic of the sexes, there is no remorse on her part.

Women will gather an AFC herd with absolutely no inner conflict or sense of guilt for her manipulation of these men -- and in the long run, she'll actually feel more worthy and gratified for having secured her herd.

This was one crazy woman. I feel bad for any man who falls for her, unaware of the dynamics that are occurring all around. Be aware of women of this nature guys -- there is no innocence there at all. She wants to be the star of the show, and it's amazing in intergender relations how many of us men will gladly attend that show (such as all the gents around me yesterday).

--BM>>

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I was also thinking last night about sexual freedom -- in the 1960's when women were burning their bras, it is clear there have been effects on female psychology since then. They are free to do whatever they want. That's fine. But what it has also done is almost given them the upper hand in the sexual dynamic of male-female situations. They have the freedom to fvck and attract all the suitors they want -- hell, most men will literally FIGHT over a woman (what a nice position to be in) -- and at the same time, in many legal situations, come out on top. We men become imprisoned by our naieve understandings of women, not understanding their true undertones, drunken on AFC-love-concepts, and all the while we are failing to understand why we aren't getting what we want. It's such an elaborate sort of thing, it's no wonder most men are entirely blind to what's occurring around them! Myself included until I've begun really ruminating more deeply on this stuff and taking the role of "student' amidst these social encounters!
 

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I linked a site a while back where this idea is actually promoted as positive behavior.

http://www.observer.com/2011/media/gaggle

Many women have actually no respect for your time -- it's mind-blowingly narcissistic, as a lot of men have serious work and commitments and can't really afford to f*ck around with a lot of nonsense. It's socially acceptable enough though so it's not going away. Live learn and avoid.
 

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I was mostly surprised at (a) how about 2/3 men had no idea this was occurring and (b) how nice it must be for her to just bask in this attention...you are exactly 100% right with your description,

wait_out said:
it's mind-blowingly narcissistic
 

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A lot of women need validation from guys, ESPECIALLY when they are single, in between relationships or whatever the case me be.

The key is to be ABOVE what she is doing and not get sucked in to some false hope of "oh, she really likes me!" You did the right thing in figuring out what was going on and then you can act accordingly, or however you choose to interact with her...

To get sucked into her frame, is very amature, i've done it more times than i care to admit, hook line and sinker! (embarrising actually)
 
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