I'd like to share a story about how I found this place in 2003 (different username) when I had just carried out some of the most AFC behaviour ever known to man!....Maybe you can learn from this, or at least laugh!
I'd somehow reached the age of 21 - That's five years of high school, 2 years of college, and 3 years of university, SURROUNDED by hot women - without even going on a date, kissing, or even touching a woman, and I wasn't bad looking, just very shy and the biggest AFC you could imagine, I mean, like heavyweight AFC - it was in my genes at this stage! When I spoke to women - even fat, ugly, disgusting warpigs - I would crumble, and mumble my way through awkward conversations, and repel them instantly - forever!
So...I'd been given a number by a match-making female colleague of one of her friends, who was about 6 months older than me, single like me, and said she'd like to meet up - we'd never even met each other by then, although I knew what she looked like, having seen her at a party, as I sat on the sidelines and watched other guys dance with her and her friends (as usual).
I sent her a text saying the usual crap like 'hi there (her name), hows it going, I was just wondering if you'd like to meet up sometime?' - I then waited TEN days for her to reply, guys, TEN days, and I spent the intervening time checking my phone every 3 minutes like a stupid, pining lapdog - 10 fvcking days doing that!
Eventually, she responded via text, and asked if I wanted to meet up - I told my parents that I was the happiest man alive! (*cringe*) And told them how I'd be so romantic with her, how i'd woo her with poetry and take her to special places - simply because she'd texted me to say she'd 'like to meet up sometime!' This was the first time in my life that a woman had shown interest in me - and it was via a text message from a complete stranger who couldn't even be bothered to reply within 10 days! Hand on heart - I honestly thought this was true love, and we'd be together for ever!
So after texting each other back and forth over 5-6 days (nothing sexual, or even fun, just polite), we agreed to meet up, and I picked her up in my parents car one evening for a drink. She was a HB7-8, but possibly the shyest person I've ever met in my life, and a practising Christian (rare in the UK), she'd only had, like 2 boyfriends before me - she couldn't even talk without blushing. I got the impression that she had never even been touched or kissed in her life, let alone had sex, but maybe she had...
So we went for a drink in an 'old man's' bar, and chatted politely about various things, and did get on quite well, so our first impressions of each other were ok. I didn't use any ****y + funny, I just talked about random, unrelated stuff - I don't recall her once laughing, just smiling politely. We did get on, although no chemistry was there...
I dropped her off home, didn't even try to make any move for her, but from under the seat, I produced a chocolate rabbit that my mother had thought would make a nice present for her..I shoved it in her face and said 'here, I thought you'd like this...', and she was like 'oh..thanks...' in a really awkward way, and then she got out and went home. No kiss, no smile....nothing.
THE MINUTE I got home, I sent her a text saying 'it was so nice to meet you, thanks for a lovely night' - and she didn't reply. (Hey, I wonder why!)
I texted her again the next day to see if she wanted to come out again - she took about 3 days to reply, but agreed and said 'What shall we do? We could go for a walk, go bowling, go to the cinema?' I was like, 'we could go bowling if you like??'
So I missed out on taking her for a nice walk - maybe we could have held hands, put my arms around her, gone in for the kiss - but no, I took her to a stinking old bowling alley where we had an ok time, and then back to that old man's pub for a drink - I had spent all my own money so she had to buy the drinks there, and we talked about EXACTLY the same things as the date before..the same polite, boring conversation about our school days, our parents, food, etc - big fvcking yawn!
I dropped her off home again - and this time produced ANOTHER chocolate rabbit, AND a huge bunch of roses for her - no kiss, no kino, just an awkward 'look - these are for you!' as I shoved them in her face - and she was like 'erm, thanks...' before getting out of the car. I still hadn't even touched her at this point, and I thought I was in love with her, that she was my soulmate, and that she was in love with me too! (*groan*).
So, I tried calling her about 5 times the next day, and in the end rang her home number and spoke to her mother. I asked if she could get her to text me - which she did - 2 days later. I asked if she'd 'like to do something again sometime?' and she replied the next day with 'ok then' - and guess where we ended up? The old man's pub, AGAIN - where we had the same polite, boring, uninspiring conversation that we had already had twice before! And you know what I did when I dropped her off home? Yes, that's right, I produced ANOTHER fvcking bunch of roses for her, because my mother thought it'd be 'nice!' OH MY GOD, I wish I could erase this from history!!
So I sent her a lame, p1ss poor text that night, saying 'thanks for a really great time' (it wasn't...) and then when she didn't reply after about 6 days, I kept bombarding her with text messages - about 6 a day for a whole week, asking if she wanted to go out again! She didn't reply AT ALL. Then I got really, really, really angry with her, thinking how ungrateful she was for not even kissing me after all those nice things I bought her!! ARGH!
And then after about 12 days - she replied - she said she was in town doing shopping, and would meet me at - yes, that's right - another old man's pub! On my way down, I reversed my parents car into a roadsign, causing damage, so was angry about this too! So i waited for her at the place....when I saw her walk up to me, she just looked SO creeped out and unfriendly towards me - I will never forget the disgust and dismay on her face. To be fair, I had sent her about 25 text messages in one week! So.... we then spent 2 hours talking again - about the SAME SH1T we had spent the last 3 dates talking about - boring, dull, monotonous conversations about our favourite teachers at school, and what food we liked, what our pets were called when we were kids - you name it!
I then asked if she wanted to go out again sometime - she said 'hmmmm...I'll think about it...' (PS when a woman says 'hmmmmmm' - it means 'NO') so I said 'Well I'm not going to make you do anything you don't want to!' - then I dropped her off home, and finally got to touch her - yeah, I grabbed her shoulder affectionately and said 'I hope I see you again, I think you're really great...!!!!.'
I then went home and spent the next 7 days crying myself to sleep, when I realised it was over between us, and how I'd never meet another woman - EVER! I then spent the next 6 MONTHS (YES, 6 MONTHS) checking my phone every half an hour, to see if she'd possibly changed her mind and texted me again (*double face-palm*).
I'd often cry myself to sleep in this time, and not even eat properly. I'd spend days just wandering aimlessly, even contemplating ending it all! I would even have to hug my mother every so often..I was AFC champion of the world!
That was 7 years ago - and I've never seen her since.....she's probably still living with her parents and hasn't touched another guy....
Shortly after, I found this place..and got a pair....and turned EVERYTHING around..make of that story what you will!
I'd somehow reached the age of 21 - That's five years of high school, 2 years of college, and 3 years of university, SURROUNDED by hot women - without even going on a date, kissing, or even touching a woman, and I wasn't bad looking, just very shy and the biggest AFC you could imagine, I mean, like heavyweight AFC - it was in my genes at this stage! When I spoke to women - even fat, ugly, disgusting warpigs - I would crumble, and mumble my way through awkward conversations, and repel them instantly - forever!
So...I'd been given a number by a match-making female colleague of one of her friends, who was about 6 months older than me, single like me, and said she'd like to meet up - we'd never even met each other by then, although I knew what she looked like, having seen her at a party, as I sat on the sidelines and watched other guys dance with her and her friends (as usual).
I sent her a text saying the usual crap like 'hi there (her name), hows it going, I was just wondering if you'd like to meet up sometime?' - I then waited TEN days for her to reply, guys, TEN days, and I spent the intervening time checking my phone every 3 minutes like a stupid, pining lapdog - 10 fvcking days doing that!
Eventually, she responded via text, and asked if I wanted to meet up - I told my parents that I was the happiest man alive! (*cringe*) And told them how I'd be so romantic with her, how i'd woo her with poetry and take her to special places - simply because she'd texted me to say she'd 'like to meet up sometime!' This was the first time in my life that a woman had shown interest in me - and it was via a text message from a complete stranger who couldn't even be bothered to reply within 10 days! Hand on heart - I honestly thought this was true love, and we'd be together for ever!
So after texting each other back and forth over 5-6 days (nothing sexual, or even fun, just polite), we agreed to meet up, and I picked her up in my parents car one evening for a drink. She was a HB7-8, but possibly the shyest person I've ever met in my life, and a practising Christian (rare in the UK), she'd only had, like 2 boyfriends before me - she couldn't even talk without blushing. I got the impression that she had never even been touched or kissed in her life, let alone had sex, but maybe she had...
So we went for a drink in an 'old man's' bar, and chatted politely about various things, and did get on quite well, so our first impressions of each other were ok. I didn't use any ****y + funny, I just talked about random, unrelated stuff - I don't recall her once laughing, just smiling politely. We did get on, although no chemistry was there...
I dropped her off home, didn't even try to make any move for her, but from under the seat, I produced a chocolate rabbit that my mother had thought would make a nice present for her..I shoved it in her face and said 'here, I thought you'd like this...', and she was like 'oh..thanks...' in a really awkward way, and then she got out and went home. No kiss, no smile....nothing.
THE MINUTE I got home, I sent her a text saying 'it was so nice to meet you, thanks for a lovely night' - and she didn't reply. (Hey, I wonder why!)
I texted her again the next day to see if she wanted to come out again - she took about 3 days to reply, but agreed and said 'What shall we do? We could go for a walk, go bowling, go to the cinema?' I was like, 'we could go bowling if you like??'
So I missed out on taking her for a nice walk - maybe we could have held hands, put my arms around her, gone in for the kiss - but no, I took her to a stinking old bowling alley where we had an ok time, and then back to that old man's pub for a drink - I had spent all my own money so she had to buy the drinks there, and we talked about EXACTLY the same things as the date before..the same polite, boring conversation about our school days, our parents, food, etc - big fvcking yawn!
I dropped her off home again - and this time produced ANOTHER chocolate rabbit, AND a huge bunch of roses for her - no kiss, no kino, just an awkward 'look - these are for you!' as I shoved them in her face - and she was like 'erm, thanks...' before getting out of the car. I still hadn't even touched her at this point, and I thought I was in love with her, that she was my soulmate, and that she was in love with me too! (*groan*).
So, I tried calling her about 5 times the next day, and in the end rang her home number and spoke to her mother. I asked if she could get her to text me - which she did - 2 days later. I asked if she'd 'like to do something again sometime?' and she replied the next day with 'ok then' - and guess where we ended up? The old man's pub, AGAIN - where we had the same polite, boring, uninspiring conversation that we had already had twice before! And you know what I did when I dropped her off home? Yes, that's right, I produced ANOTHER fvcking bunch of roses for her, because my mother thought it'd be 'nice!' OH MY GOD, I wish I could erase this from history!!
So I sent her a lame, p1ss poor text that night, saying 'thanks for a really great time' (it wasn't...) and then when she didn't reply after about 6 days, I kept bombarding her with text messages - about 6 a day for a whole week, asking if she wanted to go out again! She didn't reply AT ALL. Then I got really, really, really angry with her, thinking how ungrateful she was for not even kissing me after all those nice things I bought her!! ARGH!
And then after about 12 days - she replied - she said she was in town doing shopping, and would meet me at - yes, that's right - another old man's pub! On my way down, I reversed my parents car into a roadsign, causing damage, so was angry about this too! So i waited for her at the place....when I saw her walk up to me, she just looked SO creeped out and unfriendly towards me - I will never forget the disgust and dismay on her face. To be fair, I had sent her about 25 text messages in one week! So.... we then spent 2 hours talking again - about the SAME SH1T we had spent the last 3 dates talking about - boring, dull, monotonous conversations about our favourite teachers at school, and what food we liked, what our pets were called when we were kids - you name it!
I then asked if she wanted to go out again sometime - she said 'hmmmm...I'll think about it...' (PS when a woman says 'hmmmmmm' - it means 'NO') so I said 'Well I'm not going to make you do anything you don't want to!' - then I dropped her off home, and finally got to touch her - yeah, I grabbed her shoulder affectionately and said 'I hope I see you again, I think you're really great...!!!!.'
I then went home and spent the next 7 days crying myself to sleep, when I realised it was over between us, and how I'd never meet another woman - EVER! I then spent the next 6 MONTHS (YES, 6 MONTHS) checking my phone every half an hour, to see if she'd possibly changed her mind and texted me again (*double face-palm*).
I'd often cry myself to sleep in this time, and not even eat properly. I'd spend days just wandering aimlessly, even contemplating ending it all! I would even have to hug my mother every so often..I was AFC champion of the world!
That was 7 years ago - and I've never seen her since.....she's probably still living with her parents and hasn't touched another guy....
Shortly after, I found this place..and got a pair....and turned EVERYTHING around..make of that story what you will!
<----- my face after rreading your story.
