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Syxx96

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Well, where do i start? Last Sunday i went to this bar and i noticed this cute waitress. I eyed her a couple of times and i noticed she was getting trained. So i called her over to my table and we talked a little bit, she had to get back to work but it seemed we made a minor connection. About an hour passes by, so i ask her for her number and she gives it to me then i leave.

I got really busy at work but i called her about 4 days later. On a first phone call i usually ask her out and finish the call very quickly, so i asked her out on Saturday and it seemed like she turned me down but she said to come down to the bar where she waitressed at on Friday. I was just gonna cut my loses and wish her well but she started asking me questions and we ended up talking for about 30 minutes before i had to leave but i decided to ask her out on Saturday again and she accepted. She said to come down to the bar on Friday and we can make some plans. I had made plans already so i said i might show up but i'll call on Saturday, she said great and we hung up.

My plans on Friday fell through so a friend and i decided to go get some drinks at that bar, I saw her there and we talked whenever she had some time. I bought her a couple of drinks and it seemed like she was having fun but when i brought up Saturday she said she might be busy with work. About 30 minutes later i tried to give her an out, i said "If you're too busy then we can reschedule for another time" and she said "no, no i just have to help a friend with a resume and i'm free for the rest of the day, so call me tomorrow". I said fine but i kept thinking to myself this girl is all over the place right now, I just can't read this girl but i made up my mind to call her. My friend and i had to go so i gave her a hug and she said "don't forget to call me", I said i will and we left. Come to think of it she said "Don't forget to call me" a couple of more times before we left.

So Saturday comes and i give her a call. I get her voicemail and i decided to put the ball in her court and leave a message. I left my name, my phone number and i said If you want to get together then give me a call, Well she hasn't given me a call so should i call her? or should i just cut my losses and move on?

Whew that was long, any help would be great. Thanks guys.
 

Mr Spitfire

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You didn't do things as well as you could have.

1. You asked her out too quickly. By the time the fourth day came around she probably forgot the entire conversation you had with her and the "minor connection" you made. As a brand new waitress in training her mind is filled with 99 other things than you at the time you met her.

She probably wasn't comfortable OR interested at all in meeting you for a date. That has nothing to do with you necessarily you just didn't make enough of a connection.

2. You can never believe anything a girl says over the phone. Over the phone a girl is in girl mode. Girls are masters of the phone. They literally have years of phone experience with their girlfriends. They are female pimps on the phone, so calling her to make some kind of connection is failure in the making.

my prognosis: if the bar is a good place to bring a girl you are on a date with, bring her there and then your waitress can serve you. This is not to make her jealous because she won't be. She will just see that you are worth another girl's time and maybe call you. Make sure you are having fun with the girl you bring. Maybe a girl that gave you the LJBF. Just have a good time and keep in mind though, a cute waitress gets hit on alot and they are busy when it is happening...
 

Desdinova

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Let's see where you went wrong.
I got really busy at work but i called her about 4 days later.
I don't care what the DJ Bible says, this is too long to wait. Strike while the iron's hot and you're fresh in her memory. Wait a day or two before calling.
I bought her a couple of drinks
Why are you buying drinks for a woman who hasn't earned your time and money?
So Saturday comes and i give her a call. I get her voicemail and i decided to put the ball in her court and leave a message.
Making plans on the day of the date doesn't work very well. Next time, take the lead (which women love), and make solid plans a few days before the date.

She flaked on you. She knew you were supposed to call, but either ignored you, or didn't think highly enough of you to remember you were calling on Saturday.

NEXT!
 

Lost In Translation

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yeah the way she was winding it up

i would NOT have left a message on her voicemail

that would have played on her mind


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 
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