Advice what should I text girl in beginning of week to setup date?

[Shootin4Dreams]

If I just said hows it going, or how is your week every week I dont think it would generate much emotion or interest. What do you guys routinely text girls on a weekly basis before asking them out or coming over?
If you have nothing going on really.

 

[marmel75]

We need to start having sticky posts for the rash of ultra basic questions that keep getting asked in posts recently.

You text "I wanted to meet up for a drink one night this week. What's your schedule looking like?"

 

[SmooveMooves]

"I'm free (date), (date) or (date) let's meetup sometime."

If you're talking about general texting, then text something interesting or funny and have a small convo and be sure to end it at it's highest point. Do that no more than twice in a 7 day time span.

Pro tip: You should only be texting girls with the rule in the paragraph above if you've:

• Been out on a date with her
• See her regularly and sure of her interest
• She's responsive
• Have a date scheduled a bit of time away from the date it was originally scheduled

 

[Reykhel]

If I just said hows it going, or how is your week every week I dont think it would generate much emotion or interest. What do you guys routinely text girls on a weekly basis before asking them out or coming over?
If you have nothing going on really.

Look son, use the phone to set up a hook up. what's a hook up I hear you say?

Simple: Create an opportunity for sex to take place, bring value (positive emotions, fun) and have a good
time. That is a process. Get good at that process and let go about thinking about the outcome.

You should know from your previous post about PIMP that the phone is a fvcking timebridge.

As far as emotion: Look this should be basic stuff: a biatch has two sides to her brain: logical and emotional. Now if she is going to feel anything for you, if she is going to get freaky with you it's going to come from the emotional side of her brain...

How do you engage the emotional part of the biatche's brain? Easy brother, with tension.

What's falling in love? what is it? what's butterflies in the stomach? I'll tell you what it is....it's tension, it's anticipation, it's uncertainty, it's being unsure, it's the emotions being engaged

Is it disney? no fvck that. you can create that. how? here's one simple thing.....don't answer her questions directly....just practice this one thing and tell me if it doesn't make a fvcking difference....even ignore some of her questions and change the subject....it creates something unfinished inside her.....and she has a need to return to the subject....and that need creats tension.....

when I say don't answer directly....you can often answer the question, but at least create emotion in it....

what do you work at? I'm an accountant. question finished. dead.

what do you work at? you know when I was a kid, I had a thing for numbers...I was like Rainman! Have you seen that film? (conversation thread planted) anyway, I just had this thing for numbers and blah blah blah.....you're showing her your passionate and creating emotion in your story

tension: let her wait on your text answers. don't call her back straight away. tease her.....just pull her up on ****. ask her a question and bust her balls on it....just try to be edgy and be playful

look at this clip from Goodfellas where he creats a build up of tension:

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Okay so basically anytime she asks like where do you work or what you did this weekend or logical questions just make up ANYTHING out of thin air that is random?? Its hard to for me to develop this because I have been used to growing up and people I knew friends being generic and regular. What is the best way to develop this mindset?

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Be honest I dont have any examples I know of I can do but that one is funny with the do you think i am funny and make them scared. What are the best things I could use or learn from?

 

[marmel75]

Look son, use the phone to set up a hook up. what's a hook up I hear you say?

Simple: Create an opportunity for sex to take place, bring value (positive emotions, fun) and have a good
time. That is a process. Get good at that process and let go about thinking about the outcome.

You should know from your previous post about PIMP that the phone is a fvcking timebridge.

As far as emotion: Look this should be basic stuff: a biatch has two sides to her brain: logical and emotional. Now if she is going to feel anything for you, if she is going to get freaky with you it's going to come from the emotional side of her brain...

How do you engage the emotional part of the biatche's brain? Easy brother, with tension.

What's falling in love? what is it? what's butterflies in the stomach? I'll tell you what it is....it's tension, it's anticipation, it's uncertainty, it's being unsure, it's the emotions being engaged

Is it disney? no fvck that. you can create that. how? here's one simple thing.....don't answer her questions directly....just practice this one thing and tell me if it doesn't make a fvcking difference....even ignore some of her questions and change the subject....it creates something unfinished inside her.....and she has a need to return to the subject....and that need creats tension.....

when I say don't answer directly....you can often answer the question, but at least create emotion in it....

what do you work at? I'm an accountant. question finished. dead.

what do you work at? you know when I was a kid, I had a thing for numbers...I was like Rainman! Have you seen that film? (conversation thread planted) anyway, I just had this thing for numbers and blah blah blah.....you're showing her your passionate and creating emotion in your story

tension: let her wait on your text answers. don't call her back straight away. tease her.....just pull her up on ****. ask her a question and bust her balls on it....just try to be edgy and be playful

look at this clip from Goodfellas where he creats a build up of tension:

Yeah this is all well and good but its like trying to teach a toddler to run a 100 meter sprint before he learns to crawl...

 

[thatfeel]

You just need to be witty. Be playful, sincere, smart, passionate, and most of all funny.

 

[l__i__l]

Where would you like to take me this week?

 

[Reykhel]

You just need to be witty. Be playful, sincere, smart, passionate, and most of all funny.

Okay so basically anytime she asks like where do you work or what you did this weekend or logical questions just make up ANYTHING out of thin air that is random?? Its hard to for me to develop this because I have been used to growing up and people I knew friends being generic and regular. What is the best way to develop this mindset?

Kid the key here is basically your humour. If your in a jovial, playfull, fun humour....your actions are going to be more that likely jovial, playfull and fun...

If your humour is downbeat and just like everythings ok man.......then trying to be playful and teasing would come across forced....

Start watching a little stand up each night. Or find a decent sit com (the old sit com three's company....full of bantering back and forth and full of innuendos)

Now your not trying to be a comedian.....your simply boosting your humor and getting into a playfull less serious frame of mind.....

 

[RangerMIke]

Just ask her out to a date. Be specific time/place/activity. If she says no then move on to the next one.

The problem here is that too many guys try to get things started with women who have insufficient initial attraction. If a woman does not like you then what you have to do to get her interested makes you look like a needy b!tch... which kills attraction.

It is MUCH easier to just find women who like you then to try and force something to happen that is NOT meant to be.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

I am starting to watch californiacation. any other shows you suggest or standup>?

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Also my question wasnt answered. What things do you guys usually open with to text a girl before you ask her out. Do you just tell her to join you on date on first message? Also I am finally getting it people showing me on here. You need to never take women serious, and find a moment where you can trick them and be really serious and get them shocked and you tell them kidding and they are mad and tease you. So how can you do that? Or what are best examples??

 

[marmel75]

Also my question wasnt answered. What things do you guys usually open with to text a girl before you ask her out. Do you just tell her to join you on date on first message? Also I am finally getting it people showing me on here. You need to never take women serious, and find a moment where you can trick them and be really serious and get them shocked and you tell them kidding and they are mad and tease you. So how can you do that? Or what are best examples??

I answered it in the first reply. Stop playing games and trying to have "magical text conversations" with these women. You can send a few fluff texts and then send that or you can just say "Hey, it's xxxx. I wanted to meet up for a drink one night this week, what's your schedule looking like?"

Done. Simple. To the point.

No amount of texting is going to get her to say yes if she isn't interested. Stop looking for magic answers, they don't exist. She either is interested in meeting you or she isn't.

Period. Point Blank.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Also my question wasnt answered. What things do you guys usually open with to text a girl before you ask her out. Do you just tell her to join you on date on first message?

Why are you so scared to talk to her on the phone?

Also I am finally getting it people showing me on here. You need to never take women serious, and find a moment where you can trick them and be really serious and get them shocked and you tell them kidding and they are mad and tease you. So how can you do that?

If you want somebody to hold your hand and walk you through this, then you seriously consider taking a RSD boot camp.

Or what are best examples??

Read that book. You also need to try be willing to try sh*t and see if it works. You do realize that you're eventually have to tailor this your on personality so that it's comes off natural, right? I just have to ask, her you ever asked a chick out or been on a date.

I sucked with women, but long before this PUA sh*t was even thought of, I had been on dates, gotten numbers, been on dates, and f*cked a few broads.

 

[marmel75]

Why are you so scared to talk to her on the phone?

I've talked on the phone with women to set up dates and I've texted women to set up dates. I've noticed no difference in regards to reactions, flakes or meet ups. I've banged far more women via text meetups than phone meetups...

IMHO, the whole text vs. phone thing is way overblown. If she is interested, she is going to go out with you, doesn't matter what form of communication you use. In person is what really counts.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Yes I have I am just trying to figure out a routine to use with every woman so I can rinse repeat etc..

 

[ubercat]

I'm normally quite a fan of canned material for training wheels. I think you're good with the sitcom material and practising with everyone you meet. although I'd suggest starting with Three's Company rather than trying to go to the full Hank straight away.

and simple humour is best for most chicks. example we have a call centre sharing the same building with us so there's a few cuties in the lift. this Asian girl it was Wednesday so I said happy hump day and she laughed and said how are you. so I said you know sometimes the hump is biggerand sketch the hump in the air I was basically innocently drawing a pair of tits. she was still giggling when I got off at my floor.

so yeah most women's humour is pretty simple. just keep making is up and as long as you are confident you'll be amazed at the lame s*** that they will laugh at.

 

[ubercat]

and you seem pretty young. I don't think trying to learn routines is going to work for you. you have to suit your game to where you're at right now

 

[JohnChops]

Corey Wayne did it best. Text her, and when you set the date up make it a specific time and place. Making it definite makes her commit to it more than if you just said "lets hangout this week" or "lets hangout Friday" versus if you said "lets go to X on Y at "time". Before you do this ask her when she is free and pick a date that works for you based on her scheduling.

Me: when are you free this week?
Her: I'm free Friday and Wednesday.
Me: let's go to X at Y on Wednesday. (If Wednesday suites you).

What I used to do that used to **** me up was I never asked when they were free (lol) which made setting up dates difficult.

Also don't text, or text as little as possible between the time you set up the date and the day of the date. 1) if you text a lot between that time you'll have nothing to talk about on your date. 2) maintain a little mystery 3) let her hamster wheel spin about your upcoming date (she will do this assuming you laid down the proper rapport beforehand).

If she texts you, keep it light and then just don't respond after 1 or 2 texts. Saying "I gotta go" by text to end a conversation makes no sense to me so I just don't respond.

Err what else do we have? Ah yes confirming the date. To confirm or not to confirm that is the question!

If she's very interested in you, she will text you beforehand to make sure it's on. However I've had some girls where I would set up a date on Tuesday for Friday and we both didn't talk to eachother in between. Then I texted her I was going to be a little late and she thought the date wasn't on since I didn't confirm/speak in between.

So confirming is a double edged sword that needs to be played by ear. If the above situation happens, and she counter offers that's a good sign. If she doesn't, she wasn't into you anyway.

This will probably be quite long but this is the stupid little crap that tripped me up for awhile so I figured I'd share how I get it done now.