Advice on pick up style

[someperson12]

Hi there (sorry if this isn't all that clear....buts its late and i'm getting sleepy)

I'd like to ask a question about the appropriate pick up style to use.

I'm by nature a pretty nice person (not in the chump way). I'm not weak willed and i will stand up for myself, but i'm not a jerk by nature. I've tried the "jerk" style approach (for lack of better ways of description), and although it sometimes works, this eventually gets to the point where i'm out of scripted lines (causes im not really a jerk by nature and its unnatural).

Anyways, i'd like to ask, what "style" of approach would it be best for me to use? Should i establish some form of "connection" (you know, "soul mates kind"), or keep acting like a "bad boy" (again, not that i wouldn't fight if i had to, but its really NOT me)?
Or any other suggestions

Some information about myself might help you give better advice

Traits about me

1)Polite
2)Leaning on the quiet side (although NOT extremely and I can hold a conversation) (and i'm not afraid to approach women)
3)somewhat intellectual/smart
4) Not arrogant or a jerk (generally nice)
5) Generally confident
6) Not drop dead gorgeous but reasonably good looking

Am Not

1) a*hole or bad boy (dont do drugs, drink or anything like that)
2) Jerk or arrogant

Advice appreciated thanks (preferably, please give a DETAILED response)

 

[someperson12]

hi there would anyone have any advice (if you need something clarified (something i wasn't clear on).......feel free to ask)

 

[someperson12]

umm anyone with advice (hehe seems to be quite a number of views but no replies yet)

 

[undesputable]

youre the one that decides youe style....but from what you tell about yourself,it seems like youre should rely on chivalery and being a gentleman....just dont be clingy or desperate or boring

 

[someperson12]

alright thanks

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Originally posted by someperson12
Traits about me

1)Polite
2)Leaning on the quiet side (although NOT extremely and I can hold a conversation) (and i'm not afraid to approach women)
3)somewhat intellectual/smart
4) Not arrogant or a jerk (generally nice)
5) Generally confident
6) Not drop dead gorgeous but reasonably good looking

Am Not

1) a*hole or bad boy (dont do drugs, drink or anything like that)
2) Jerk or arrogant

Advice appreciated thanks (preferably, please give a DETAILED response)

Hey..you sound just like me...although I AM drop dead gorgeous..hahaha

Your 'style' as you put it, is a reflection of who you REALLY are inside. You cant just say "hey...lets be nerdy today" and become a nerd. You can follow a path, but, your own experiences will determine what 'style' you use when approaching women. It all takes time, trial/error, and your judgement.

As for myself...

When it comes to women..hell..when it comes to people in general, I'm what you would call the ****y funny guy at the party. Women often call me a dork or goofy..but hey...who wouldnt love a fun going guy who enjoys life, can laugh at himself or any situation, and is genuinely happy about the people around him.

For me, this works because I've field tested it, have had success being a dork, and enjoy my life more when I dont take this whole DJ thing too seriously. DJing is supposed to be fun...not work.

Read the DJB and use it as a guideline to find your style...

 

[So pimp its scary]

To develop a pick-up style, you must first learn how to pick up women.

Despite all the reading and everything on the forum, approaching women and sexing them comes down to a few small principles:

1 - approach
2 - smile / laughter
3 - curiosity
4 - ability to read reactions
5 - persistance - because alot of rejections happen before you get good.

There's probably a couple more that could be added, within these lines though is where you develop your style.

For example, a hundred people could all approach a hundred different ways, get her to smile a hundred different ways, have different levels of curiosity, have different levels of skill at reading people, and each will have differing levels of persistance (those with much success in macking will usually have ALOT).

With just this short list, and a hundred people to compare, that means there are about 100^5 possible styles of macking.

The only real way to develop your own style is to get started and see what works for yourself.

 

[someperson12]

Just curious (since someone mentioned different styles)...........what styles exists? For example. some people seem to have success acting as a bad boy while for others the gentlement approach seems to work. Just curious, what seems to work for you guys (i do have some experience but i'm curious on what works for everyone else)

 

[So Many Ways]

It looks like your temperment is a lot like mine. I'm workign on cultivating an attitude that is attractive to the women, and I want it to be in line with who I am naturally. Personally, acting like a full on jerk doesn't work for me since it's not in my nature and it will look fake.

I'm a person that's quiet by nature but at times likes social interaction. When I'm with my friends, I'm sarcastic, witty, and I give them a lot of sh!t. I've decided to treat women I talk to similar to how I treat my friends, except I tone things down a little and I add the flirting and teasing. So far it seems to be working and I've already noticed the way my female friends react around me. They're much more flirtatious now and I think there might be opportunities to hook up with a couple of them.

As you get used to socializing with women, you'll see what works and what doesn't and what works with your personality. Once that all comes together, you're golden.