Hello everyone,
I am a long time lurker and old poster. The last time I posted here I was chasing a girl, and when I managed to get her, I fell out of the DJ life. I thought that having a woman completed me, how wrong i was...
I stopped improving myself, heck I stopped improving. I've been gaining weight, spending money, not reading anymore and struggling to balance work, university and a relationship.
These days, I have been thinking of calling it off. Just ending my relationship. Based on these factors:
- Time allocation, I have no time to tend for a relationship while working 40 hrs, and with full time university.
- I have been reluctant to see her these days, I'd rather do things with my friends rather than see her, due to the fact we live 1 hours away, and I'm the only one who can drive.
- We have been together 6 months, and i've seem to lost my attraction for her (is this normal, the honeymoon phase is over?)
- She has met my parents (they insisted), built a relationship with my younger sister, and my parents quite like her (she's from a wealthy family)
I admit I'm a beta and have never broken up with a girl before, but I feel like it's really selfish for me to end this based on superficial reasons which I can change (possibly?) I am afraid my parents will shun me, but on the other hand I don't want to continue this relationship just because of other peoples reasoning and expectations. I just want to live my life for my own, you know? Has anyone been in the same predicament? Will the first one always be the hardest to dump? I know it's quite shallow to end a relationship based on physical attraction, but I feel like the chemistry is gone.
I am 22, have been in 3 relationships, and this relationship has lasted 6 months. She is 22 and this is her first.
Appreciate any advice.
I am a long time lurker and old poster. The last time I posted here I was chasing a girl, and when I managed to get her, I fell out of the DJ life. I thought that having a woman completed me, how wrong i was...
I stopped improving myself, heck I stopped improving. I've been gaining weight, spending money, not reading anymore and struggling to balance work, university and a relationship.
These days, I have been thinking of calling it off. Just ending my relationship. Based on these factors:
- Time allocation, I have no time to tend for a relationship while working 40 hrs, and with full time university.
- I have been reluctant to see her these days, I'd rather do things with my friends rather than see her, due to the fact we live 1 hours away, and I'm the only one who can drive.
- We have been together 6 months, and i've seem to lost my attraction for her (is this normal, the honeymoon phase is over?)
- She has met my parents (they insisted), built a relationship with my younger sister, and my parents quite like her (she's from a wealthy family)
I admit I'm a beta and have never broken up with a girl before, but I feel like it's really selfish for me to end this based on superficial reasons which I can change (possibly?) I am afraid my parents will shun me, but on the other hand I don't want to continue this relationship just because of other peoples reasoning and expectations. I just want to live my life for my own, you know? Has anyone been in the same predicament? Will the first one always be the hardest to dump? I know it's quite shallow to end a relationship based on physical attraction, but I feel like the chemistry is gone.
I am 22, have been in 3 relationships, and this relationship has lasted 6 months. She is 22 and this is her first.
Appreciate any advice.
