hey guys. How are you? I need advice on my text game with a girl I have seen once. She is about a 9-10 objectively. Me too I consider myself at least above average getting women to message me themselves on Instagram.
I am 22 years old and quite new to dating. I always was too shy to date and full of things to do so I just ignored it. Thats why my game kind of sucks.
I end up becoming too attached and screw up between dates over text.
So, a month ago, I DM’ed this hot girl I am talking about. Things went really well, she showed interest, we even sent nudes. And after a couple of weeks of chatting she told me to go to her town and have something to eat.
A couple of things to keep in mind, she is 17 years old, lives 40km (25 miles) away still with her parents and thjs is her last school year. I am from Argentina, and the age of sexual consent is much lower than in the US.
Before going on the date with her she explicitly told me that she isnt looking a relationship or anything. I agreed and told her that me neither.
As soon as I arrived to her town (it was raining so I picked her up) in the car, she started saying that we should definitely keep seeing each other and so on. I was like “ok” because I knew what she said before through text. We had a great pizza and then we ****ed in my car. She kept saying how we should keep seeing each other yes or yes. Even after the ****. She said things like “even once I start school we could definitely see each other over the weekends”. I agreed and told her she should come to a vegan place in my town next week.
I messaged her quite a few times after seeing her, this was bad of me. As soon as I got home I told her I had a great time. She told me
the same. Three days later I texted her about a movie she told me I should see. She started being more blunt over text, not sending selfies, replying slower. On thursday I asked her if she wanted to do something over the weekend, she replied back “I can’t” It felt unusually blunt. I told her “ok, its fine”.
The next week I talked to her again asking her out. She told me that she had a contagious skin condition that didnt let her had sex that showed a couple of days after seeing me and she said she was getting treated.
I was leaving 5 days on holidays with my family and told her wr should see each other when I am back.
Three days later I sent her a sexy selfie and she showed interest when I left her on read after she replying. She asked me how I was, when I was leaving and so on. I asked her if she was cured and she said yes.
5 days went by, a day before coming back from my holidays and I talked to her. Sent her a pic of the woods and a voicr message. She replied quite well. I want it to ease into asking her out but she stopped replying to one of my questions. I felt a bit rushed because she is starting school this monday and wanted to see her before her starting. 8 hours went by and I double messaged her telling “I am free this weekend, do you want to see eachother?” She said she was incredibly busy that weekend as she was preparing everything for their last first school day, but she said “this weekend I am busy, but next week I am free I think” I told her that I could see her closer to the weekend and she should let me know if she is free.
When we saw each other she wanted to try anal, but she wasnt ready. So closer to this weekend, on tuesday I told her we could try anal. She replied very fast but said something like “I am incredibly busy thats why I couldnt let you know”. Told her that we dont have to see each other is she is busy, that maybe we should wait until she is more free.
She said “Great, we will see”
Thats was the last message. Not sure how to act with her. I was thinking of not sending any other message for a couple of weeks. But not sure. What do you guys recommend me?
my theory is that I messaged her too much, showed too much interest and she is afraid I want something exclusive. Or just came off too strong. Or she is busy. She doesnt have too many excuses as she lies to her parents about seeing me.
I am 22 years old and quite new to dating. I always was too shy to date and full of things to do so I just ignored it. Thats why my game kind of sucks.
I end up becoming too attached and screw up between dates over text.
So, a month ago, I DM’ed this hot girl I am talking about. Things went really well, she showed interest, we even sent nudes. And after a couple of weeks of chatting she told me to go to her town and have something to eat.
A couple of things to keep in mind, she is 17 years old, lives 40km (25 miles) away still with her parents and thjs is her last school year. I am from Argentina, and the age of sexual consent is much lower than in the US.
Before going on the date with her she explicitly told me that she isnt looking a relationship or anything. I agreed and told her that me neither.
As soon as I arrived to her town (it was raining so I picked her up) in the car, she started saying that we should definitely keep seeing each other and so on. I was like “ok” because I knew what she said before through text. We had a great pizza and then we ****ed in my car. She kept saying how we should keep seeing each other yes or yes. Even after the ****. She said things like “even once I start school we could definitely see each other over the weekends”. I agreed and told her she should come to a vegan place in my town next week.
I messaged her quite a few times after seeing her, this was bad of me. As soon as I got home I told her I had a great time. She told me
the same. Three days later I texted her about a movie she told me I should see. She started being more blunt over text, not sending selfies, replying slower. On thursday I asked her if she wanted to do something over the weekend, she replied back “I can’t” It felt unusually blunt. I told her “ok, its fine”.
The next week I talked to her again asking her out. She told me that she had a contagious skin condition that didnt let her had sex that showed a couple of days after seeing me and she said she was getting treated.
I was leaving 5 days on holidays with my family and told her wr should see each other when I am back.
Three days later I sent her a sexy selfie and she showed interest when I left her on read after she replying. She asked me how I was, when I was leaving and so on. I asked her if she was cured and she said yes.
5 days went by, a day before coming back from my holidays and I talked to her. Sent her a pic of the woods and a voicr message. She replied quite well. I want it to ease into asking her out but she stopped replying to one of my questions. I felt a bit rushed because she is starting school this monday and wanted to see her before her starting. 8 hours went by and I double messaged her telling “I am free this weekend, do you want to see eachother?” She said she was incredibly busy that weekend as she was preparing everything for their last first school day, but she said “this weekend I am busy, but next week I am free I think” I told her that I could see her closer to the weekend and she should let me know if she is free.
When we saw each other she wanted to try anal, but she wasnt ready. So closer to this weekend, on tuesday I told her we could try anal. She replied very fast but said something like “I am incredibly busy thats why I couldnt let you know”. Told her that we dont have to see each other is she is busy, that maybe we should wait until she is more free.
She said “Great, we will see”
Thats was the last message. Not sure how to act with her. I was thinking of not sending any other message for a couple of weeks. But not sure. What do you guys recommend me?
my theory is that I messaged her too much, showed too much interest and she is afraid I want something exclusive. Or just came off too strong. Or she is busy. She doesnt have too many excuses as she lies to her parents about seeing me.
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