"Advice needed for introverted guy who is having trouble finding a woman I have a connection with!

[Jonathan99]

I am a 32 year old, introverted, sensitive guy with a caring and big heart! I've been very discouraged lately, with the lack of luck meeting that special lady I have a connection with. I haven't had a girlfriend for any significant length of time. I have been meeting women from Plentyoffish and Badoo Dating sites and Omegle. I am very shy, and don't go to bars to pick up ladies. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. The ladies I have met from Dating sites, I have found to be shallow and insecure or all about themselves, no matter what the age and weren't that attractive physically either. They showed very little interest or no interest in me romantically. Am I meeting the wrong types of women or am I the problem? I keep hoping the next woman I meet will be that special lady for me, but it hasn't happened yet! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Desdinova]

Am I meeting the wrong types of women or am I the problem?

You are the problem

I have been meeting women from Plentyoffish and Badoo Dating sites and Omegle.

If you are failing at meeting women in real life, you will fail at meeting women online. You need to get a LOT of real life interaction with women under your belt.

Start by filling your head with knowledge, then get out in the real world and practice. Read the DJ Bible.

 

[Yewki]

I am a.. sensitive guy with a caring and big heart! I've been very discouraged lately, with the lack of luck meeting that special lady

First of all, I think you suffer from Disney fairytale syndrome. I think you need to get a more realistic (red pill) understanding of women and dating. Read as much material here as you can, the DJ bible is a good start as Espi suggested

Second, dating sites and apps are comprised mostly of low life sl*ts. As in, girls who are broken, failures in life, or just looking to get a quick fix and get banged. If you're just looking for sex this can be fine, but don't expect to find a princess here. For quality girls you need to approach in real life and use social circles

 

[ZTIME]

I am a 32 year old, introverted, sensitive guy with a caring and big heart! I've been very discouraged lately,

Is this your POF intro??? I bet it is!

You're basically describing a non social person who spends a lot of time at home. Yet you wonder why you're finding women with no substance. Why?

Do you think that maybe it's time to start working on the enrichment of your own life, rather then search for someone who wishes to share your misery?

No offense intended little brother. But wouldn't becoming happy in you own life me a better choice??

 

[Midnight_Oil]

You and I are nearly identical. Introverted, shy, and no social circle. Hell, I get nervous posting on here. I thought about making an OLD account but what's the point? I don't even like to date myself.

Basically we need a complete personality and mentality overhaul. Shy guys just get run over. Tear that big heart out of your chest and become hardened. All it will do for you is allow yourself to succumb to drama and eventually get burned.

 

[guru1000]

I am introverted, sensitive ... with a caring and big heart!

You sound like the girl every man is looking for!

The goal is to sound like the man every girl is looking for.

 

[oOh Nasty]

Welcome to the Forums.

Consider yourself lucky for having googled your way here and not being intercepted by the likes of loveshack or other women-giving-advice forums.

Start off by reading the DJ Bible as everyone has suggested. Secondly, don't use "introversion" as an excuse for failure and not approaching. Thirdly, there is no such thing as a special woman.

It's time to get out there, become social, and learn the ways of Man.

Best of luck, kid.

 

[GoodOne123]

I can relate to you, since I am naturally an introvert. But the truth is you can still do extroverted things even if you're an introvert. My point is don't make that an excuse.

There is no way around it, in order to meet a good woman, you must go out and be social and hunt. It's time to face your fears, time to grow. You won't regret it. Try as many places to meet girls as possible, bars, cafes, socials, events, classes. Ask out lots of them, date lots of them, get some experience, have some fun! The right girl will eventually stay by your side. Use the resources online to educate yourself about dating and anything else related.

I'd strongly recommend working on yourself as you are embarking on your journey. The reason why is that as you work on yourself the higher quality of a man you become, and therefore the higher quality a woman you attract. Work on your clothes/style, work on building your body(lift weights), get rid of that shyness, become a good conversationalist, work on your confidence, work on your career and future goals. Use online resources to improve these also.

Another thing, it's good you have a big heart, but you can't allow yourself to give it to anyone. Not until the trust is earned and they have proven themselves to be worthy of it.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Holy f*cking ****...this has got to be a troll post. My blood pressure spiked just reading OP's garbage.

 

[sodbuster]

You can't drive around with the car door unlocked hoping "the one" will jump in your car at a red. What WILL jump in is a mugger {and some women leave you feeling mugged}. You need to get out and find them. To do that, you have to shatter your comfort zone and get out with hobbies, etc. IF you get out, no matter how "strange" you are, there is probably a girl who likes it.

BUT you'd have better luck being a better version of you. Ask us and we can help. Just don't ask questions that are archived here..... Pook and Anti-dump are also good reads, if they are still posted

 

[LiveFreeX]

Go abroad.

 

[speed dawg]

I am a 32 year old, introverted, sensitive guy with a caring and big heart! I've been very discouraged lately, with the lack of luck meeting that special lady I have a connection with. I haven't had a girlfriend for any significant length of time. I have been meeting women from Plentyoffish and Badoo Dating sites and Omegle. I am very shy, and don't go to bars to pick up ladies. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. The ladies I have met from Dating sites, I have found to be shallow and insecure or all about themselves, no matter what the age and weren't that attractive physically either. They showed very little interest or no interest in me romantically. Am I meeting the wrong types of women or am I the problem? I keep hoping the next woman I meet will be that special lady for me, but it hasn't happened yet! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

You all need to do a better job picking up on the trolls.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Forget any nonsense about being "introverted." If you want to meet girls, guess what you have to PRACTICE meeting girls. Which means make it a habit (like a workout habit like jogging or doing situps) to talk to people anytime you have a chance.

Give yourself a year of practice and skill building before you even THINK about looking for that "one special lady."

DJ bootcamp is calling you.

If you aren't willing to put in the WORK (and yes it is a matter of WORK) then don't expect any rewards.