Advice NEEDED badly!

[seeVip]

havent been dating for say, atleast 6 months, and now I need on some advice since I am supposedly seeing this girl now. My game hasen't been quite up to par so I need some tips before I misread things and slowly drench back into an AFC, EEEEEK

Well some background info on the situation. Girl I work with, finds me funny etc.... So I ask her to go outsometime, she replies when, I said i'll call her, she responds "do you have my number" I replied " no add it" (handing out my phone)

So 9-11 days later i give her a call, Asking her typical small talk questions and then I said lets go out, she replies ok, she gives me a her home phone number to talk since its noisy. (showing signs that shes helping me out)

So we go out to dinner, wasen't all that to me, i kept the conversation on her , light and funny, End of date she tells me cya thursday( the day we work together for an hour_), Thanks for taking me out. I had a negative feeling about that and the date overall, even though we talked about 80-85% of the time.


Asked the girl shes close to at work, she tells me its hard to get this girl to talk and that shes really shy (which i found the same, so therefore i thought it would be fine progress) Since i would have gave up if it had been the same with a normal girl.

So a week later i ring her up asking to go see a movie she says okay , and then says when , i say tommorow, she says cant friends coming over. So then i say wednesday she says ok.

Now it is tuesday and she rings me up and says that she cant make it for wednesday because her uncles coming over for dinner
whatever, and she suggest we make it another day, so i ask her what day ? she says i don tknow, so i say tuesday? She says okay. She also mentioned that her friend hasent came over yet, dont know if it means the same friend she is supposed to stay home for or not?

What do you reckon guys should i just forget about this?

Sorry for making it so damn long, I been outta touch Slap me back i nto place Djs


Either way, what do you personally think i shold do now.

See her on this tuesday coming up?

Scratch it all together?

Or miss the tuesday without telling her, and see if she calls me to wonder why and etc?

Any change of regaining the game?
Even if it a likely miss, any chance of turning it into bed buddie? (oh wait this must be the 6 months of no date talking side of me_)

 

[MR_PERFECT]

NEXT her.

Other people may tell you not to, but I feel you're wasting your time.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

First of all, stop putting too much emphasis on a particular outcome with this one girl. If you put too much stock on this one, you will be relying too much on somebody else for your happiness. Start sarging some babes, and start filling up your agenda, it will help you in different ways:

1) You won't be thinking about the situation with her so much, and when you do, it won't matter, because you got other things going that make you happy.

2) As soon as she finds out you are already going out as you plan, she will wonder why you are not chasing after her, which will increase her IL, providing there was any there to begin with.

3) They are all practice for you. Whatever doesn't work with this one, it is still good for you, you get to improve on your game and be ready for the next similar situation. So go out there and practice on these babes; after a while, you will start seeing similar patterns of what works and what doesn't.

If you opt for One-itis with this one, all of the above will be further delay, and your success will be on hold, not to mention the blow to your self esteem and confidence.

 

[seeVip]

I see your point i guess illg o and find some other ladies to relax my mind and keep my stable full

How many girls do you keep in your stable at a time?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by seeVip
I see your point i guess illg o and find some other ladies to relax my mind and keep my stable full

How many girls do you keep in your stable at a time?

As many as necessary But really, I don't think there is a magic number. When I was single I approached every woman that I thought was interesting. Some had boyfriends, others didn't. Some wanted relationships, others didn't. I just wanted to meet people that I may want to hang out with on occasion, no expectations.

There was a stint of time when I didn't have to ask any of them out for a date for several weeks because I was meeting enough women that a different one was asking me out almost daily. Talk about a ego booster!

Just go out and have fun. Expect nothing and everything will come!

 

[b's nuts]

just a little tip, when a girl breaks a date, instead of trying to figure out wich day she can go (makes you seem kind of needy) tell her to call you when she wants to go out (put the ball in her court). Keeps you from being on the phone to long, seems to work well for me.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Get as many girls on your stable as you can handle. You should have your A, B, C lists filled up, and ready to go:

1. A-List= The ones you will hang out with on friday and saturdays, the ones you take out in public.

2. B-List= Sunday through thursday, yet should always have them on call if you need them on the weekend. Even better, let them work up their way to the A list.

3. C-List= Definitely sunday through thursday.

As long as you can juggle a few babes, you will be busy, and have them have to prove themselves to you.