Greetings to all here on the forum, I would appreciate some input on a situation with a woman(surprise!)...
About a month ago, I met a woman(Irene) at a friend's house. She was a distant cousin of this friend and we talked a bit. She is an attractive lady, 29 years old and seemed a bit difficult to talk to and defensive... Still, I was attracted and during the next few days, we became FB friends and exchanged numbers.
I asked her out and we went for drinks about 2 weeks ago... Again, she seemed defensive and difficult, yet responded well to all types of Kino on my part and talked about possible meetups...all in all, it was an evening that didn't have passion but there definitely seemed to be something there...
During the next week, we talked once or twice, but I was busy at work and so was she, so it wasn't until last Sunday that I asked her out to a movie(last minute actually but I like doing spontaneous dates).
She had made plans already, but suggested we get together during the week, so we made arrangements to see a movie Thursday night.
Come Thursday, I pick her up and we see The Descendents(pretty boring flick) but she seemed to like it. I didn't actually try to put any moves on her in the cinema as she seemed closed and her back was turned a bit towards me...the situation just didn't seem favorable...
As we were walking outside after the movie, we were talking about a moment when the lead, George Clooney, went for a kiss, and so I felt I should do similarly...
...
However, Irene pulled away from me so I guess that was a strike...still, her attitude seemed to be getting better rather than worse...anyway, as I am driving her home I start stroking her legs, back and kissed her on the wrist a bit(while driving...oops!)
She seemed into it, so when I stopped in front of her place, I gently turned her towards me and went for a kiss which she reciprocated... We kissed a bit and as I walked her to her door, we kissed again... Next day I log onto FB and see that she has posted a song right after I dropped her off ...KISS by prince...
All in all, I felt things went OK and although she was still guarded, some headway had been made...plus she again referred to us doing stuff in the future if I agreed...
Thinking of striking when the iron is hot, I call her up yesterday(Friday)and ask her out to dinner this Saturday(today)...she replies that she might be leaving town for the weekend but will call by 9 to confirm....and true to her word, she promptly calls at 8 to tell me she can make dinner...
However, she also presents me with a problem of sorts...
Irene broke up(as she says) a month ago and isn't in the right frame of mind. It seems my sexual advances caught her off guard(which I find surprising actually...)and felt she needed to be clear with me before we go to dinner...
In all honesty, she had mentioned an ex before, but I never gave it much thought since I tend to look at people's actions(which is our case were her accepting and coming on a date with me...).
Still, I ALSO felt I needed to be clear about the matter, so I tell her ,flat out, that we should go to dinner and that I'd like to see her....HOWEVER, I am going out with her on a date and NOT as a friend....if she is cool with that, we can go out, otherwise it is better we leave it...after hearing me out, she agrees to this and we are set to go out tonight at 9...
My questions now:
- Did I handle this situation correctly?
- Is it wrong to explicitly state terms under which two people go out on a date?
- How should I act on this date? My gut feeling says to just be myself, which means I will be flirty, sexual, and touching her... I mean, why should I be someone different from the person she has seen on our first 2 dates?
In fact, I was thinking that I just need to disregard what she said completely about "state at present" and just go about doing my thing...if she is open and goes along...fine... if not..well, we move on....
Your Opinions friends?
Thanks for reading!
About a month ago, I met a woman(Irene) at a friend's house. She was a distant cousin of this friend and we talked a bit. She is an attractive lady, 29 years old and seemed a bit difficult to talk to and defensive... Still, I was attracted and during the next few days, we became FB friends and exchanged numbers.
I asked her out and we went for drinks about 2 weeks ago... Again, she seemed defensive and difficult, yet responded well to all types of Kino on my part and talked about possible meetups...all in all, it was an evening that didn't have passion but there definitely seemed to be something there...
During the next week, we talked once or twice, but I was busy at work and so was she, so it wasn't until last Sunday that I asked her out to a movie(last minute actually but I like doing spontaneous dates).
She had made plans already, but suggested we get together during the week, so we made arrangements to see a movie Thursday night.
Come Thursday, I pick her up and we see The Descendents(pretty boring flick) but she seemed to like it. I didn't actually try to put any moves on her in the cinema as she seemed closed and her back was turned a bit towards me...the situation just didn't seem favorable...
As we were walking outside after the movie, we were talking about a moment when the lead, George Clooney, went for a kiss, and so I felt I should do similarly...
...However, Irene pulled away from me so I guess that was a strike...still, her attitude seemed to be getting better rather than worse...anyway, as I am driving her home I start stroking her legs, back and kissed her on the wrist a bit(while driving...oops!)
She seemed into it, so when I stopped in front of her place, I gently turned her towards me and went for a kiss which she reciprocated... We kissed a bit and as I walked her to her door, we kissed again... Next day I log onto FB and see that she has posted a song right after I dropped her off ...KISS by prince...
All in all, I felt things went OK and although she was still guarded, some headway had been made...plus she again referred to us doing stuff in the future if I agreed...
Thinking of striking when the iron is hot, I call her up yesterday(Friday)and ask her out to dinner this Saturday(today)...she replies that she might be leaving town for the weekend but will call by 9 to confirm....and true to her word, she promptly calls at 8 to tell me she can make dinner...
However, she also presents me with a problem of sorts...
Irene broke up(as she says) a month ago and isn't in the right frame of mind. It seems my sexual advances caught her off guard(which I find surprising actually...)and felt she needed to be clear with me before we go to dinner...
In all honesty, she had mentioned an ex before, but I never gave it much thought since I tend to look at people's actions(which is our case were her accepting and coming on a date with me...).
Still, I ALSO felt I needed to be clear about the matter, so I tell her ,flat out, that we should go to dinner and that I'd like to see her....HOWEVER, I am going out with her on a date and NOT as a friend....if she is cool with that, we can go out, otherwise it is better we leave it...after hearing me out, she agrees to this and we are set to go out tonight at 9...
My questions now:
- Did I handle this situation correctly?
- Is it wrong to explicitly state terms under which two people go out on a date?
- How should I act on this date? My gut feeling says to just be myself, which means I will be flirty, sexual, and touching her... I mean, why should I be someone different from the person she has seen on our first 2 dates?
In fact, I was thinking that I just need to disregard what she said completely about "state at present" and just go about doing my thing...if she is open and goes along...fine... if not..well, we move on....
Your Opinions friends?
Thanks for reading!
