Advice: Money or Pride? What's worth more?

[divorcedlol]

Hey guys.

I'm the OP from THIS THREAD

So the BPD chick is gone out of my life good riddance. She has to still come back to the apartment to pack her stuff up and move. Now here's the scenario I need advice on.

During one of our crazy fights the nutcase smashed a 2500$ television that was mine before we got together. It's worth $1800 now. She said she's pay for replacing it while we were together but now that this nightmare is over I doubt I'm going to see a penny of this money.

Then she took her daughter's cell phone with her for the month that we've been split up and her daugther ended up running the bill up to $600 for the month we've been apart. I called her on it and she starts talking all kinds of shXt like she needs money for first and last month at her new place..xmas money for her kids etc.

Honestly...that's not my fxing problem. Her daughter isn't mine now either (and never should have been in the first place).

The stuff she has here is nothing of value, so it's not like I could sell the stuff to recover my money. Furthermore, she actually stole shxt from me when she first left to ensure in her mind that I would not throw her shxt out. Oh ... and the best thing is....I wanted the engagement ring back...initially she says she's gonna pawn it to feed her kids. WTF.........how does that become my problem.... ***side note...thank you god for letting this crazy broad get out of my life now rather than later.....wish I listened to these guys on here last year because they had her pegged*** .... I did end up recovering the engagement ring and the other stuff she took tho. She may still have a video camera I bought awhile back...but that's not a definate.

So...now she's asking if I could help her pack her stuff up that she has left here and drive it 45 minutes away from here to save her from renting a moving truck (the drive to take her stuff will run me 50 bucks in gas) ... and she's calm now so she's saying she'll give me the money for the phone bill back .. $300 when she comes to get her stuff and the rest when she can afford it.

What do I do?

Kiss her BPD ass to get atleast some of my money lost recovered, or should I just eat it and tell her to go fk herself?

Anything else I should do to make life harder for her, or just cut my losses and tell her to get her shlt out of here and go fx herself?

What's the best play to gain the upper hand in the sense she doesn't think she has it?

End game for the end??
Thanks guys!!

 

[typical]

Okay first of all get that mobile phone that her kid has diconnected if it's under your name, even if the company wants the full bill paid. Pay it and shut it down.

Do this for anything that you are in charge of but she has with her, hire purchases etc.

Next change the house/flat/apartment locks and if its not your home make sure only your name is on the tenancy agreement with a close family relation as a emergency contact.

NOW go sell all her rubbish and recover the lost money and cease all contact with said woman for ever. Cheap pawning store will be fine and they pay cash. Will be a double blow to her especially if something is very sentimental and precious to her.

She is gone cut all contact and make a fresh start, you won't be able to recover all the lost money but hey the peace of mind of getting rid of her and her things is worth more then the money.

Having said all this there are many many ways of getting revenge on the old bird but they have a slight chance of backfiring and in our world females word is law and she can have the authorities chasing you down for by twisting her words ...................... domestic violence accusations etc.

 

[divorcedlol]

Makes sense! I cut that phone off already and now waiting to get it back in my name. The problem with the pawn shop scenario (which I thought of) is that I spoke to my brother's friend who's a cop and his answer was:

-Cops won't let her in here if I'm not here
-If I throw her **** out it becomes criminal
-If I take her to court over the money she owes it's a civil dispute, but at that point the fact that we lived together for that long .. the TV busted could be looked at like she busted 'her own tv' and there would be no restitution.
-Cell phone bill is in my name

So really this mgiht be too much hassle than it's worth. Like you say too .. she could make a lot of accusations that can make this all backfire.

I'm thinking of getting her to ship me atleast part of the $600 phonebill .. then when she shows up expecting me to drive her stuff back to her city I'll be like ... F you and the horse you rode in on beach. Thanks for the 3 bills..I'll eat the rest....not you deal with this shxt because it's not my problem anymore!...that's where I'm leaning at right now seeing as I may not have any other solid ground to stand on but this.

 

[L B]

Give her a deadline to pay you back. If not, sue her in small claims.

It's mainly about money, but also, bish shouldn't be breaking sh!t she can't afford. And she has the nerve to involve her kid too. Make sure you have all your paper trail or some kind of evidence to prove that she owe you money.

 

[Maximummax]

I am a fan of Judge Judy
she(judy) for sure is going to smash this lady.

 

[Holden Caulfield]

In situations like this, where emotions run hot and cold, one is better served to let the money go, cut off all ties, and move on; never looking back, other than to refect on the red flags you overlooked in the beginning. Learn from the experience and in the future, avoid them like the plague if you see them in someone else. My two cents.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Another option is to take inventory of what may be missing. Help her move but when you get to her new spot take all your stuff back. Or offer to trade her stuff for your stuff, don't go into monetary value with her just tell her you want your stuff back because you like your stuff...