Me and one of my buddies that I haven't seen in a while were out grabbing a drink yesterday. We were talking about our recent social lives concerning women and all that jazz. I asked him how he has been doing recently with women and he said he hasn't been having good luck.
He broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years about 3 months ago, and has been going to bars/clubs recently. However, either due to rustiness or something else, he told me that he just doesn't have the "edge" anymore to approach girls and talk to them confidently. He told me mainly it was because he is a smaller guy (around 5'6) so many guys in bars and clubs tower over him which he says is a big intimidation factor, especially when approaching women who are wearing high heels or having to deal with another guy approaching a woman who he would be currently trying to flirt with. He says that he got too complacent because his girlfriend got used to his height which made him not have to worry about it, but now being single he has to deal with the challenges of competing against men who are taller than him.
I give quite a bit of advice on this forum and in real life, but I was just stumped on this one and couldn't really give my vertically-challenged friend any legitimate solid advice on overcoming his problems.
I could give him the whole "just be more confident" spiel all day, but honestly I have high doubts that will work. It's something more than that. It's a big psychological factor for him.
Advice that I can pass along would be great. Thanks.
He broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years about 3 months ago, and has been going to bars/clubs recently. However, either due to rustiness or something else, he told me that he just doesn't have the "edge" anymore to approach girls and talk to them confidently. He told me mainly it was because he is a smaller guy (around 5'6) so many guys in bars and clubs tower over him which he says is a big intimidation factor, especially when approaching women who are wearing high heels or having to deal with another guy approaching a woman who he would be currently trying to flirt with. He says that he got too complacent because his girlfriend got used to his height which made him not have to worry about it, but now being single he has to deal with the challenges of competing against men who are taller than him.
I give quite a bit of advice on this forum and in real life, but I was just stumped on this one and couldn't really give my vertically-challenged friend any legitimate solid advice on overcoming his problems.
I could give him the whole "just be more confident" spiel all day, but honestly I have high doubts that will work. It's something more than that. It's a big psychological factor for him.
Advice that I can pass along would be great. Thanks.