Advice for a girl that loves me but won't let her boyfriend go.

[Wstcstdrmr]

Hey some advice would be great here.

My situation is that I liked this girl who is currently engaged and we both recently confessed how we felt about each other and how much we really do like one another. She's been with her boyfriend/fiancé for 10 years. She isn't currently happy and feels unhappy with him. But she tells me she is always happy around me and makes her smile. We have had some physical contact with one another.

But she has been deciding what to do with her current situation. She went back and forth 3 times saying she wants me than goes I want to see it workout with her boyfriend. The last time she was packed up and ready to leave him and they were talking and she told him how she felt and all the things he did wrong that made her feel that way. He said he wants to make her feel better and how awful he feels about it. So she told me she wants to stay and give him a chance before walking away from it. She isn't IN LOVE with him but does love him.

But days before that she kept telling me how she wants to be with me and wants me. Now within 24 hours she doesn't feel the same way for me anymore much. She told I was always on her mind non stop and dreamed about me. I'm not sure what to do. I feel like she is just on high that he said all of this and is happy right now but things will eventually go back to the way they were. Any help? She works with me but today after she told him she is staying with him I drew the line and told her if she wants to make it work with him we can't talk as much.


Thanks for any advice on this.

 

[TheSlasher]

I've been in that situation before and it feels stupid. Go meet other women who are pretty. Play the numbers game and expect your approach to be not fruitful for some 30 women or maybe 50. You may get 6 or 5 or less after that. Just don't stop approaching and making bonds with HB7 to HB8 women until you have 10 numbers of them or so. This women have to be really pretty for you and the numbers must be legit, with real bonding happening between the two of you. Then try to go out with these women and have fun with them.

You have an unknown but spectacular future where the key lies on these forums, so you can't afford a broken heart right now. Go and put in some theory and some work,

 

[El Suave]

So you have a messed up woman on your hands... Let's say she dumps the boyfriend and then after 5 years of being with you, does the same thing again. You want to waste 5 years on low quality woman?

Stop talking to her all together and have some respect the fact that they are engaged and stay away at least because of that.

Here's another thing. Look at her actions, not her words. She is not walking away from her boyfriend, but simply stringing you along and you're eating it up. Somewhere out there she is getting a good laugh with her girlfriends over this. Walk away with dignity!!!!

 

[VikingKing]

Your getting played.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Deep down inside you there is a voice that is already telling you what you should do. Travel down past the emotions and listen to it.

Everyone here already knows what it's saying. NEXT!

Get the hell away from this girl, she is bad news. Then examine yourself to see why you are pulling girls like this into your orbit.

 

[Epimanes]

You are both meeting her needs and by doing so her "love bucket" is in the romantic threshold for you and her 10 year LTR. Your best best is to cut it... Drill a hole in her "love bucket" for you and let it drain away.

Go find someone who IS available...

NEXT.

 

[Cremasta]

Haha! I was in EXACTLY your position a while back. You've got a safe option and a high risk option.

The safe option is you tell her that this isn't what you want and it's best if you don't talk anymore, then go Ghost.

The high risk option is that you escalate through the roof and every time you talk , you tell her up front that you just want to do her and tell her when you're available for fun.

I took the high risk option and got laid a few times, then she ended up staying her fiance.
It's cool, we're still friends, everyone kept their mouth shut and no-one got hurt.

 

[Greasy Pig]

She enjoys the emotional validation you provide which her boyfriend doesn't but just can't bear to leave the bad boy who fvcks her like a $2 hooker and dominates her.
You're the crutch she leans on when she feels sad but the fiancé obviously pushes her primal buttons and she's addicted.
All that avails is flight. She'll only come to you when she's been pounded into oblivion by the bad boy and dumped, leaving you to pick up the pieces with a shell of a woman.

 

[TheSlasher]

We have had some physical contact with one another.

I don't think the OP has even screwed the girl. Yeah, you're probably just an emotional tampon,

 

[Thorninmyside]

Her investment in him will always trump the emotional top up she gets from you.

Stop topping her up and let the other relationship thrive or fail on it's own strengths or weaknesses. Go and kick ass at life.

 

[TheSlasher]

Not sure about the rest of what Thorninmyside said, but THIS:

Go and kick ass at life.

 

[nismo-4]

This is low ass interest to the 5th power! Why the f**k are you chasing this uninterested b**ch instead of moving on?

She loves you my ass! How much fun are you having as a beta orbiter? Do you think mixed signals are good? No! They ain't! Mixed signals are negative signals. Yes, it is that clear cut and dry. She's using you as an emotional tampon! She has no interest in you romantically.

Drop her ass now. She doesn't deserve you or any attention. This princess is an attention wh0re to you because she's in another castle.

Gee whiz, after Judge nismo takes her to chambers, she comes to you crying about how wrong I treat her, but I really destroyed her vaginal walls and tore her a new a$$hole! When you give her support, she runs back to me to polish my gavel, and comes back to you crying. Only this time, with my kum stains on her.

Oh I'm sorry, you wanted some good advice. DROP HER ASS AND MOVE ON!!! Just how much exploration in Friendzone Gardens do you need to be doing? You can do better than this. And it starts with you. Erase and replace her. Simple. Do it now. That's my ruling.

BTW, women who are interested in you won't confuse you.

Case closed. Get out of my court so I can get this girl off after she drops her suit.

 

[DonGorgon]

What is more important is that all men learn to understand that females always have a few dudes in their life that they will alway love and always fvck no matter what!!!! I am that guy to about 3 girls now... they have hfs and husbands and they completely separate their sexual interaction with me from the rest of their life so thy dont even see it as cheating..

I have had about 4 series gas in my life and the only one i am sure didn't cheat was my high school first love. The other 3 there is a 99% chance they cheated.. I don't care because i learned too accept human nature and what females really want..

females want a different dude for each different thing they want and all those dudes are poet around using sex..

here is a funny story of my last gf.. she went away too college and we started cool and would fvck and hang out when every time she came back home.. it was not until she dropped out and moved back that she decided that i took to long to knock her up or marry her sol she picked up a new dude but what sunny is the new dud is in out hime town lol not at here college lol sooooo hmmmm lol... eve since she told me that she demoted me and i could no longer get easy sex from her. so i cut her off 2 months pass and she randomly calls me and i don't know who it is and we argue about what went wrong with us.. lol i told her i will never marry or knock her up .. 1 week later she was in my bed fvcking me again.. and cheating on her new bf..lol 1 week after that ji see her again and she won let me do anything lol

so point is i will never marry any females there is just no damn point

 

[Dgwizdal]

If she leaves him while they are engaged she'll do the same sh*t to you. Just happened to my gazillionaire boss - monkeybranched to him a week before her ex wedding. Fast forward ten years to now and she just monkey branched from my boss to some 34 yr old meathead bro who doesn't have a pot to piss in.