Advice for 23 yr old that missed out (sex, developmental years, and social life)

[aspiringbloomer]

I found this gem of a forum recently and hope to get some much needed advice.

At the age of 23, I feel like I have completely missed out on everything. As a kid with crazy immigrant parents (super strict abusive narcissists), I didn't get a lot of social opportunities growing up. Lots of moving around when I was younger too. Went to a high school with about 150 kids, no hot girls at all. Got into a good university but my awful parents managed to force me into staying at home for college where the downward spiral started.

Went to your typical community college type of school for the first two years of college while having curfews and those kinds of barriers. Not an enjoyable experience at all but I did attract some interest from a few girls (they were usually above average looking to hot). Ended up going on a date with this hot brunette but never really got it going after that, was too slow to escalate and get it going, plus I lived at home with parents so not like I was going to bring her over.

Decided I had enough, finally got it together and transferred schools. Transferred to a large state school which is a well renowned party school too (top 10 usually). Ended up going into college completely unaware of how college game works. Felt isolated when I transferred and overwhelmed too since academics here are tough. Girls here are also much tougher to game, lots of the hot sorority girl types and lets just say I have had no luck there. Have run some game (number close is something I like to do) but that has led nowhere, no dates or anything since I first got to this university. By the end of this semester (in a few weeks), I will be graduating.

I feel like I missed out on my life completely even though I am 23. It is almost like I never even had a chance to experience things like binge drinking, casual sex, hooking up, and having a cool group of male friends to hang out with. Now that I am done with college, I feel like I will never have a chance for any of that since if you are an American, college is the only chance you have for all of that at once.

Even if I get it now, I feel like I will always be depressed and angry on the inside....

Advice?

 

[foreverAFC]

how many times is this guy going to make a new screen name and ask the same question?

 

[nzsnowman]

how many times is this guy going to make a new screen name and ask the same question?

Then perhaps link us to said examples of the same question being asked and answered?

 

[Fedex]

how many times is this guy going to make a new screen name and ask the same question?

Even if this guy has posted numerous times with a new screen name, he has come here for advice and not someone pointing out how many times he has asked the same question.

If we were in his shoes, we would be desperate for some advice, having not living his youth.

"It is almost like I never even had a chance to experience things like binge drinking, casual sex, hooking up, and having a cool group of male friends to hang out with".

Causal Sex and Binge Drinking is more of wasting the time of your life instead of living your life. Not all of us had experience these thing's, if that is your definition of what your "missing out on", Don't bother even asking. Go pay a **** some cash and blow the extra's on drinks and you will completed on what you missed out.

I can bet that is not what you want. You know you are worth more than that.
Welcome to sosuave and read up on the Dj Bible, It will change you and you will learn of the many thing's life has to offer :rock:

 

[Huffman]

I have two answers.

1. Concerning most of your post: stop whining. Alot of us have been there. Read some Victory Unlimited posts, you literally need a kick up the ass.

2. Concerning this:

Now that I am done with college, I feel like I will never have a chance for any of that

Yes you can, it's just a bit more work. Tell you what: I was on a lot of college parties. During that time I discovered SS. I started flirting, kissed girls a couple of times and even almost got a girlfriend. But was this the best time of my life? I didn't even get laid.

Today I have two girls that i sex without commitments, and on the weekends I'm having fun meeting some more. At work, my coworkers and bosses respect me, and I flirt with all the ladies - I feel like I really am someone in the place.

Recently I thought back at my college years - hell, it's way better today.

 

[beyondunplugged]

Yea, you need to get out in the field more then.

But like everyone said, it's not that sweet.

You'd be far better off preparing for your 30's.

That means focus on career, business, fitness, health, intellect, personal development, emotional development, networking, independence, etc.

30+ sex is going to blow college party sex out of the water IMO. Especially if you are confident, independent, have money and are emotionally prepared for life. Also, most of those guys who were superstar frat guys ended up married and beta as sh1t life over.

GRASS AIN'T ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.

 

[Evzone]

Would you rather have found out about game at 24? Or 30?

Tai Lopez said you're never going to be any younger than today. Be thankful that you're only 23 and you have plenty of energy to spend on learning this stuff.