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Adapting to different contexts clubs, cafés

anonymous12345

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Like many I move between different contexts, situations. I hang out with different (age) groups in college, at cafés, sometimes at the diner after clubbing. This could be described as “different cultural contexts” and I’m having trouble adapting to these different situations. They talk in different ways — some joke about sex, some are horrified by it, and they expect different things.

I’ve taken hits because of being too direct in situations where it’s unwelcome/unsuitable, and missed opportunities because I haven’t grasped it’s a context where those things happen. I take heat and as a result I back down and therefore miss.

Hofstede/Gesteland talk about differences related to countries, but I am experiencing it from a game perspective: different ages, contexts, different study programmes/backgrounds.

I am in a sense a bit different. I don’t need to get drunk to talk sensually and I’m comfortable anywhere, for instance (and I’m 37). So, I need to approach these adaption in an “intellectual” way, I suspect.

One could also claim I’m not a “natural” and missing a bolt. Any ideas about how to improve this “smoothness”? What is it really about?
 

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It's about reading your audience, and using innuendo like a rapier.
 
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