I sort of blew most of this attraction this girl I was seeing had for me. I was the one in control and she was the one texting all the time until I got clingy and needy and ruined it. Now I'm trying to gain attraction back by not answering right away and not thinking about "oh did she text ? oh is she thinking of me ?" and **** like that. My mentality is different and it seems to somehow work, but I have two main doubts.
1) What if she is trying to do the same thing, being distant and playing hard to get. wouldn't it turn into a staring contest? who ever blinks first loses kind of thing ?
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2) I don't want to come of as rude of course , so I've been giving short answers to her questions but I feel if I do it wrong she will just think I definitely don't care at all. She asks "hey so what's up " and i say "not much , drinking with homies". But she seems to try to do the same saying "Fun!" or "Cool" and the conversation ends in "lol okay" or "yea lol". any advice on how to get her talking a bit more ? or what is it that I'm doing wrong.
1) What if she is trying to do the same thing, being distant and playing hard to get. wouldn't it turn into a staring contest? who ever blinks first loses kind of thing ?
and
2) I don't want to come of as rude of course , so I've been giving short answers to her questions but I feel if I do it wrong she will just think I definitely don't care at all. She asks "hey so what's up " and i say "not much , drinking with homies". But she seems to try to do the same saying "Fun!" or "Cool" and the conversation ends in "lol okay" or "yea lol". any advice on how to get her talking a bit more ? or what is it that I'm doing wrong.