ACDC is fukking up

[AC/DC]

I need people beyond my level of knowledge to help me with this.... let's see what we can do to help me out.

I can get any girl's number very easily. I can get girls to like me very easily. I get by on my looks and charm more than anything else.

After takin a girl out a few times, they end up not really wanting to go out with me. Dates are always fun and I always get them laughing and feeling really special... but after a few dates, they seem to lose interest. I would normally say its the girl... but when it happens with like the last 7-8 girls I realize it's probably something I'm doing...

I think I'm maybe:
- too intent on her calling me often
- calling too much? (once a day or soemthing)
- not sure how fast to move along with sexual stuff
- not sure how to bring up going out (i feel that I shouldnt until she does)
- I'm a tad pushy about stuff I want
- I'm not entirely sure what she wants to hear
- making it too easy for them

I want a girl to KEEP, i've let some total BABES go because I don't know how to hang on to them. I don't really know what to do after the initial first date.

Help a brother out... and I'll post pictures of the female that dropped me later.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

To really know, we'd have to know how you talk to them, and how you portray yourself. Sure you can keep them entertained for a couple dates, but we don't know what goes on subconciously.

Also, how do you show your target that you're different?

 

[oakraiderz2]

I think after a certain amount of dates girls want things to progress to something more. How many dates would you usually say you go on with them? Or how long until they stop wanting to chill? They might think you only want one thing since you two arent official, but i dunno, this isnt my area of expertise.

 

[crust45833]

If your calling her once a day thats quite overboard. Unless the girl is really really tight, sexual stuff shouldnt affect it unless your not going far enough. You dont need to bring up going out until after a couple dates. But, most girls(in my experience) wait on the guy to do it. You dont have to tell her everything she wants to hear, in fact, i rarely tell women "what they want to hear." I say whats on my mind, maintain C+F and Kino, and that is whats important.

In essence, you have the seemingly hard part down about creating attraction, getting the #, getting the date. Now keep up your C+F and Kino, hold back on the attention you show them after the date, and you'll be fine.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by crust45833
In essence, you have the seemingly hard part down about creating attraction, getting the #, getting the date. Now keep up your C+F and Kino, hold back on the attention you show them after the date, and you'll be fine.

I need to hold back on the attention, I'm making it too easy for them. That's lack of a challenge...that's no fun. How often should I call them? I would say its different for every girl... I dono tho.

Good replies, keep em coming please.

 

[JayUK]

Jus try an chill man, like u gta try an relax, put yourself in her shoes! She'll be tellin her mates that your great an everythin, an her mates will ask her why she likes u, an she'll tell them.
Then there gna be like 'do u think itll last?!'
an this gurls gna be like 'hmm i dno, il see how the few next dates go'
So u gta go on dates an things an be special wit her an giv her attention, but also u gta be like her best friend, like so u can move into the section wer u hav arguments an instead of dumpin u shes upset that u wer arguin!
So be normal wit her, like include her in ure life, like take her places u go normally on ure daily routine, like say if u go bowlin alot, take her an introduce u to her mates, so shes joinin like a family, an it feels official, but u aint sayin 'whoa weve bin goin out for a while now' Its hard to explain
So if she doubts the long termness, shell think 'why shud i finish him' cus shell be kinda a part of u, in ure routine, an ul be in her routine, an if u go therll be a hole! but dont rpessure her too much, jus chill, an do things like ona certain day, so shell be like 'no i cant do my appointment on wednesdays doctor, i se my boyfriend then' an if she thinks about it, shell be like 'whoa wendesday is boyfriend day' jus try an become normal wit her as soon as, like comfortable an chillin, so u both kno ure into each other

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by JayUK
Jus try an chill man, like u gta try an relax, put yourself in her shoes! She'll be tellin her mates that your great an everythin, an her mates will ask her why she likes u, an she'll tell them.
Then there gna be like 'do u think itll last?!'
an this gurls gna be like 'hmm i dno, il see how the few next dates go'
So u gta go on dates an things an be special wit her an giv her attention, but also u gta be like her best friend, like so u can move into the section wer u hav arguments an instead of dumpin u shes upset that u wer arguin!
So be normal wit her, like include her in ure life, like take her places u go normally on ure daily routine, like say if u go bowlin alot, take her an introduce u to her mates, so shes joinin like a family, an it feels official, but u aint sayin 'whoa weve bin goin out for a while now' Its hard to explain
So if she doubts the long termness, shell think 'why shud i finish him' cus shell be kinda a part of u, in ure routine, an ul be in her routine, an if u go therll be a hole! but dont rpessure her too much, jus chill, an do things like ona certain day, so shell be like 'no i cant do my appointment on wednesdays doctor, i se my boyfriend then' an if she thinks about it, shell be like 'whoa wendesday is boyfriend day' jus try an become normal wit her as soon as, like comfortable an chillin, so u both kno ure into each other

Im pretty sure they speak uhh...English in England. So maybe i dont speak English, so can i get a translation? I got to the end of the first paragraph but it got worse and worse.

 

[American_Psycho]

Are you making out with these girls? Anything sexual at all?

 

[steroidsrule]

acdc your the man.. and this is easy cause you answered it yourtself... your making it too easy for them... hang out with them then act busy for a couple days... get some shoppin done or spend some extra time with your guy friends or the gym.... yeah the gym gotta love it... show them they arent your #1 priority and they will love you for it

 

[MetalFortress]

How far do you end up going with them, physically, by the 1st, second, etc? You might be moving too slow and they might end up wanting more.

 

[AC/DC]

With the girls I dont care about, I can usually have sex with them pretty soon, and they're the ones that want me bad. But the ones I actually care about, I take it kinda slow with them... I never get up past kissing (no, I'm not a bad kisser).

I think that may also be partially relevant.

 

[n00bPimp]

I think you're invading their space too much, calling them once a day every day is something you might do in a serious LTR.

You should think about how you act with the girls you dont like,
You probably spend less time with them, say whatever you want to them, and probably place them below your other plans. Sadly, this is how you have to threat the girls you really like too, however, you can show them affection and interest from time to time.

 

[Taviii]

You are giving them to much attention...remember YOU ARE THE PRIZE, and they got to work for it. And dont think to much about things in regard to them, it only causes problems .

Off topic: I never called my gf and we are togheter for 2 months now, never go on a date twice a week, didnt get her a Christmas present and friends tell me that she looks at me like I was God lol.

Keep it up man!!

 

[JSH]

I think that it is just one of these classic cases whereby you end up treating the special girls as if they were special. You end up vitiating all the good work you did in making them validate themselves to you and you start to validate yourself to them.

To borrow, you are putting them on a pedastal. Treat them the same way you treat other girls.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Your problem is that you put the "special" girls on a pedestal

you said
"With the girls I dont care about, I can usually have sex with them pretty soon, and they're the ones that want me bad. But the ones I actually care about, I take it kinda slow with them... I never get up past kissing (no, I'm not a bad kisser).

I think that may also be partially relevant."

your putting the ones you care about on a pedestal. Look I'm not telling you to f*ck them because thats not the point. The point is to do what works with the girls that you don't care about as much just don't f*ck them since you don't wanna do it with the ones you deem as more attractive.

Look man, if you take a girl on 3 dates without any progress she'll see you as a wuss, another friend, disinterested.

After the second date IF they are dates, you've got to step it up and kiss her, lead her by the hand etc..

Those girls that got bored of you didn't get bored because of you, they just got bored of waiting for you to make a move. Think about it man.

 

[CrazyAsianBiker]

Well i'll just put the random extracts first.

If you want one you want to keep. Make sure she hasn't done anything or has the capacity to do anything that will bother you or piss you off to an extreme extent. VERY important.

Remember that every person in the world has their flaws. Best friends usually don't become best friends until you've gotten into a fight with them. So expect arguments over the same thing over and over and when they come, talk it out talk about flaws.

Ok now that the LONG term is over with.

Keeping a girl.

Well... I know you have a car. You don't neccesarily have to take them on dates. Don't focus so much on attraction because you already have that down. Just keep in mind that you are better than her, always will be better than her, and stay confident completely and utterly.

I know exactly what you mean by the special ones.

The ones that stand out, the ones that aren't sluts. To put it short.... Keepers.

They are the fem juans.

Remember that they know they are the fem juans. Treat them a bit differently. These girls are seasoned and game usually doesn't get them to give things up. The reason that they don't go past kissing, is because they know that they are attracted to you, but you aren't "special" enough for them to keep. You basically send off all the right buttons but they need more.

You should already have a different view on society or something of that sort, talk to them about something like that, something that sets you apart. Something that lets them know that yes, you do push the buttons, and yes you are different and you are something that they can be even more attracted too.

So basically, ditch the mainstream.

See by ditching the mainstream though, you give up the sluts. The sluts only go for mainstream but really you don't want this and you've stated it.

Hey Sea bass, how about when I go on a road trip soon we'll talk some more in person and i'll show you what i'm talking about. You helped me out years ago and steered me in the right direction, so i'll go that extra mile. Just let me know.

 

[golfguy]

Originally posted by AC/DC
I need to hold back on the attention, I'm making it too easy for them. That's lack of a challenge...that's no fun. How often should I call them? I would say its different for every girl... I dono tho.

Good replies, keep em coming please.

Honestly, let them call you. Set up dates over MSN (if you have them on your list) or just set up the next date when you're at the end of one (don't do this everytime though).

If they like you, they'll show enough interest.

on't waste your time calling her everyday. You prolly see her at school, talk to her on MSN..don't call.

 

[kev me723]

I have made it a habit to basically set up the situation so that they are the ones pursuing me at least to some extent. It's not hard to get a girl to call you etc. If you make those things happen, it makes you different from the other guys. Just look for ways to get them following you.

Have her drive to your house before the date instead of picking her up.

Tell her to call you within a specific time.

Simply use some subtlety/hinting and get her to suggest doing something together

these are those things that nobody understands, but somehow makes her attracted to you.

I don't even call my gf everyday. We usually talk everyday, but often times I just say give me a call tomorrow/later/whenever if you want. Even though I add the if you want, she always does, and it helps swing the image of who the prize is a lot.

It's the little things my man. Also, do NOT let the sexual relationship go dull. That will f*ck you hard if you do. Progress gradually and keep it steady, it's fun that way anyway, girls do NOT need it to be 'taken slow' you just have to turn them on enough to want it faster.

 

[Jester]

crazy fools

the answer is to stop dating.

the system is flawed...obviously if it wasnt flawed this place wouldnt exist.

dating is arbitrary.

i bet you paid for her too.


you are a slave to the p u s s y.


dont work for the ponachita, have the ponachita work for you.

 

[AC/DC]

Re: crazy fools

Originally posted by Jester
the answer is to stop dating.

the system is flawed...obviously if it wasnt flawed this place wouldnt exist.

dating is arbitrary.

i bet you paid for her too.


you are a slave to the p u s s y.


dont work for the ponachita, have the ponachita work for you.

What can I do different starting now?