Abundance vs a poverty mindset....

[Ricky]

Gentlemen,

One thing the last month has taught me is the danger of a poverty mindset.

When i had that girlfriend I loved, I looked forward to meeting people including other people here and even was excited to talk of my girlfriend who was in another town when it came to that.

After the breakup, it is amazing how the poverty mindset set in. Now that I don't have her, it made me lose confidence rapidly. Pretty sick really.

Last year I had the abundant mindset and it was really easy because I had it in reality. For instance last year at one point I had 3 girls calling me, and could have had a 4th but she was a stalker! It was easy to carry an abundance mindset then as circumstances offered proof of it.

I think now that I am going to have to fake it. I know I can get alot of girls interested in me again as I have in the past. I need to walk around with the belief that alot of girls are interested in me again and I will feel powerful. Sounds crazy but to me it's very important.

Maybe I need a legion of groupies even if they are warpigs to boost me up. Don't tell me women don't do this stuff!

In reality, we all just need to remind us of times of when we were very desirable with women. Even if you only have one instance in your life where you were, this is sufficient to build on.

So for my exercise I want to write all the girls that have been interested in me, then picture them all in a room in love with me. If this doesnt give you the rockstar feeling I don't know what does.

Operating from an abundance mindset is very powerful. Make your mind believe it again.

 

[bobbob]

"In reality, we all just need to remind us of times of when we were very desirable with women. Even if you only have one instance in your life where you were, this is sufficient to build on."


What do you do when you've had no such instances?

 

[Luveno]

What do you do when you've had no such instances?

What a pessimistic question. You and I both know the answer.

 

[Ricky]

If you don't have any instances, you play an acting role. Find an example of a guy that is really good with women. Be him for a night.

What I learned after years of being an AFC, is that there are very few naturals. There are plenty of guys that are smooth talkers to women, from the outside it may look easy, but believe me they have skills that they had to develop just like you and I.

 

[Bonhomme]

This is so very true

Bump.

The thing is the "how to." You gotta get out, and I use that in the broadest sense, to include online ads, if you do that sort of thing, whatever gets you lots of prospects, or at least gals you can think of as prospects.

Perception is important. I felt a bit of a drought when I stared qualifying my prospects more strictly in terms of interest level. But I was not doing any worse, just improving the quality of the gals I had in the game. A large % of #s led to dates, and a large % of dates led to bed. But it still seemed like a drought, compared t before, when I got 4 #s in a night often. So, in some sense, it's not all that bad to be gaming gals who aren't really in the game.

Even if you're not a smooth talker, you can have killer game by working on your image, eye contact, and kino. Perhaps even better than the ace wordsmiths, especially when it comes to getting physical fast. Play to your strengths, and shore up your weaknesses as best you can, while de-emphasizing them when you're dealing with people.