About women's #1 requirement in a guy being "fun"

[LonesomeLoser]

I'm a "dinner and a movie" kind of guy on a date, that's my speed that's where I'm comfortable. And comfort, not fun, is most important to me in life. Are women who are ultimately looking for a serious committed relationship also looking mostly for "fun" in a guy when they first start dating? I mean if they want a lifelong serious relationship, surely they realize that once you get out of the dating phase and are officially in a relationship, its back to real life, which isn't "fun". Real life is dentist appointments, and bills, car payments, work, walking the dog, buying groceries. Real life is just having enough energy after work to come home and have dinner and watch tv and go to sleep. That's how regular people live. How "fun" do women expect a guy to be, if they're looking for something serious? I could maybe go along with pretending to be more fun than I really am in the initial dating phase, if that's what people do, but then its back to real life and now they see the real you which isn't very fun. They realize that don't they?

I don't know if that's universally accepted in the PUA community, that the #1 thing women are looking for in a guy is "fun", but its something I've heard. Although, the women who would list "fun" at the top of their list are probably not looking for a serious committed relationship, which I think is more my speed. Now, being with a lot of women would be nice for my ego, but sex isn't really what I'm looking for. As I said in other threads, I have a foot fetish and would rather tickle a woman's feet and then masturbate on her feet or get a foot job from her than have sex with her. Having sex with a lot of women would probably make me feel macho though, bragging rights and all that but that's the only interest I have in sex. That, and the fact that if a woman wanted to have sex with me it would tell me that she finds me attractive which is really what I want to feel more than anything, that I'm attractive.

But I'm ultimately too lazy to go for sexual conquests, and staying home every night with the same woman is definitely more my speed.

 

[WhitePimp]

I'd much rather be around someone who I can laugh and have fun with, than someone who takes themselves too seriously and is unable to loosen up and be goofy with me. I'm 99.9999999999999% positive women probably feel the same way. I've gone to dinner and a movie on dates, and guess what, I was myself and had an extremely fun time with the girl even though those aren't typical "fun" dates. Fun is just being comfortable with yourself and not trying too hard to be something you're not. Be goofy, tease, let go a bit and show the girl she's out with a man, not a Puritan.

I have a foot fetish and would rather tickle a woman's feet and then masturbate on her feet or get a foot job from her than have sex with her.

This is kind of creepy as sh!t, but I'm sure some women would LOVE a foot massage and their feet tended to. Work that into your game and you might have a new angle. Some girls have given me foot massages and I swear to God, I felt a tickle or two in my fun area.

 

[COD]

I LOOKED UP DULL, BORRING IN THE DICTIONARY ............it said see you.

CYNDY LAUPER SAID IT BEST...........girls just want to have fun.

If life is serious..........why would U ever want dating to be like that. Dating should be an escape from the routine, fun, thrilling............Dinner and a movie..........wow tell me that dont get old fast.

I got a question how is it being so predictable all the time............this is why women end up cheating...............LACK OF FUN.

TAKE THE PATH LESS TRAVELLED AND U MIGHT SEE SOME FUN...........as YOU get older, U are going to regret what U didnt do.

I suppose driving 5 miles over the speed limit is living la vida loca i your world huh.

Have U ever tried being fun and stepping outside your comnfort zone........as a kid did U always color inside the lines...............DUDE LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST...........its a gift, time is short. Venture outside your comfort zone and expand your knowledge........its how confidence is truly maximized

 

[DJVladdy]

Ohh Lawd..

I dont even know where to start commenting on this.

But if you asked a question, I'd try to answer...you're not asking anything so what was the point of your post?

 

[Jblitz59]

being fun just means they ENJOY being around you- your funny, you make her feel safe, whatever

if she cannot have 'fun' or be COMFORTABLE around you then how do you expect you will be able to handle the more SIMPLE every day to day things.

 

[MisterMcGee]

This guy's back?

 

[CrazyandLazy]

it's all fun and great til you humiliate yourself

 

[Deniska]

Dude, you are too uptight.

You can have fun doing almost anything, while paying bills or cooking, making a bed or doing laundry. If you cant have fun while doing any of those things, then you have a lot of work a head of you.

 

[RandallP]

Women list a lot of **** in the "must have" section when looking for a boyfriend. A lot of it is bullsh*t. They *think* they want it, and when they get it they realise it's boooooooooring. "I want a guy to hold my hand always. Never be afraid to tell me his feelings, blah blah blah"...she might as well be asking for a woman.

That being said I think fun is important. Not like you've gotta be bozo the clown and entertain her nonstop.

 

[acw]

Depends on the age of the female.

If she's in her twenties....she's definately wanting to have some fun...as in Partying big time.

As women get into the their 30's (which is where the sweet spot is), they tend to slow down and want to stay home too...but still go out once in awhile.

In their forties, a lot of women prefer to be homebodies and many rarely go out. If they do, its once in a blue moon, or once a month, whichever comes first.

Basically, women want romance and fun. You can have lots of fun at home....TRUST ME.

 

[Captain]

You are settling for mediocrity. I'm not writing this post to help you, because you can't be bothered to put in the effort yourself. I'm writing it in the off chance I help someone else.

I'm a "dinner and a movie" kind of guy on a date, that's my speed that's where I'm comfortable. And comfort, not fun, is most important to me in life.

Chances are you've lied to yourself like this for so long, you actually believe it.

Are women who are ultimately looking for a serious committed relationship also looking mostly for "fun" in a guy when they first start dating?

Yes. All women are attracted to a fun guy. Most end up marrying chumps, because both quality men are rare, and in the end they need stability, but they are still turned on by "fun" men, and still cheat disrespect and on their partners with them.

I mean if they want a lifelong serious relationship, surely they realize that once you get out of the dating phase and are officially in a relationship, its back to real life, which isn't "fun".

Real life is as fun as you make it. You're a total pessimist, of course "real life" to you is miserable.

Real life is dentist appointments, and bills, car payments, work, walking the dog, buying groceries. Real life is just having enough energy after work to come home and have dinner and watch tv and go to sleep. That's how regular people live.

Women don't want a regular man. They want better than average. And regular people are boring.

How "fun" do women expect a guy to be, if they're looking for something serious? I could maybe go along with pretending to be more fun than I really am in the initial dating phase, if that's what people do, but then its back to real life and now they see the real you which isn't very fun. They realize that don't they?

They will only see through you if you're putting on an act. You should improve your life to make it fun.

I don't know if that's universally accepted in the PUA community, that the #1 thing women are looking for in a guy is "fun", but its something I've heard. Although, the women who would list "fun" at the top of their list are probably not looking for a serious committed relationship,

Women don't even know what they want. They say they want a nice sensitive guy, and fvck the arrogant jerk. All women are attracted by the same general thing.

which I think is more my speed.

You are stuck in your comfort zone.

Now, being with a lot of women would be nice for my ego, but sex isn't really what I'm looking for. As I said in other threads, I have a foot fetish and would rather tickle a woman's feet and then masturbate on her feet or get a foot job from her than have sex with her. Having sex with a lot of women would probably make me feel macho though, bragging rights and all that but that's the only interest I have in sex.

Well, women like sex, so you've got another problem right there.

That, and the fact that if a woman wanted to have sex with me it would tell me that she finds me attractive which is really what I want to feel more than anything, that I'm attractive.

You get all your validation externally. Not healthy.

Depends on the age of the female.

If she's in her twenties....she's definately wanting to have some fun...as in Partying big time.

As women get into the their 30's (which is where the sweet spot is), they tend to slow down and want to stay home too...but still go out once in awhile.

In their forties, a lot of women prefer to be homebodies and many rarely go out. If they do, its once in a blue moon, or once a month, whichever comes first.

Older women may eventually compromise by getting into a relationship with a boring "man" for the sake of stability. However, they are still ATTRACTED to the same things are when they were young.

 

[bud_2005]

Life doesn't have to be the way you described: doctor appointments, paying bills, sitting at home every night, etc. You are conditioned to think that way. I see a lot of people in marriages with a couple kids, and a nagging wife, driving a minivan, and they hate it but think that is jsut the way it is.

I am 22 years old and I want to be at LEAST 30 before I settle down. I am having way too much fun being single.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

OP, you should've taken the red pill. You are barely alive!

 

[DonGorgon]

^^^false..

their number one requirement for a quick F is looks.. if you wana whine and dine them and wait around spending money while other men are fing her fast then you need to be "fun etc"..

 

[bud_2005]

What are you saying false to?

 

[easypeezy]

women in their 20s,30s,40s,50s............ALL like fun - who wants to stop in every night ffs - can do that when they got kids - not when they haven't ?!!!

a dvd n sofa is ok sure - but to chill out eating chips in the park is better - if your both relaxed in each others company have a laugh at yourselves, try new stuff.....

you can sit in with the TV when your 90 plus

 

[Soprano]

you're over-analyzing it dude, just relax and be yourself without the AFC filter watering down your true personality

 

[Voice]

Lol, I like how the guy admitted he had a foot fetish.

 

[Soprano]

How about getting totally baked and a movie?

That's what I do with my "friend" who is a "girl" (you could join those 2 words together, but I don't)

It's quite the experience

n if the btich dont smoke then get her drunk :rock: