A word about Sex

[Lost]

A word about Sex

I've been thinkin about this for a while so... here it goes.. i could give a **** what you think of my post.. i just wanna get this out cuz i dont know how many ppl mess it up.

Ok, lately i had realised that i had been putting "sex" on a pedestal, so to speak. I mean.. i never realised it before, but i was maybe subconciously thinking of sex as a life goal. Like .. i would be an ultimate DJ when im getting sex.. or ive done what i wanted to do in life... like its some great thing to achieve.

NO, its not. Stop making such a ****ing big deal out of sex. It's not anything. This is why players are such a waste. Spend all your time getting sex? What for... a 4 second orgasm? **** i dont even really like orgasms.

I don't know if i've made it quite clear what im trying to get out.. but, just dont make sex such a big goal. In fact dont make it a goal at all.
I know people have always said you have nothing to lose ( in the sense that, if you approach u can get the sex, but if u dont approach, u wont get it.) Why not look at it the other way... if you approach without looking for sex.. u really ARENT losing anything.. because u didnt want anything out of the approach.

Ok one last thing... this is a bit off the topic of this post but ... also, whoever said that sex is like... something that belongs to a girl that a guy has to earn.. like their ***** or w/e.. (this has to do with the phrase got none). ***** shouldn't be something we should earn. Yah yah, i know when you hear the women talk about men vs women of course theyre gonna side with the women and say bs like "all men lie and are pigs" ... whatever.. theyre just jealous theyre not the superior race . So stop being like eveyrone else that thinks the guy is earning the *****... be the guy where the girl is earning the ****...
k, im done.
Lost

 

[ShortTimer]

I think I understand

Star Trek Fans

Pot Heads

Football Fans

Players

They all scare me for the same reason. They have all taken a minor entertainment distraction and turned it into their life's obsession. Like the True Believer in a religious cult they are blind to the outside world.

Is that what you meant?

 

[legolas]

Here's the killer

For guys sex has become like a tool of pride. Tell me of one guy who has sex just to get off and I will drop my case. Why would I want to put my d1ck in some stranger's vagina, while taking all that risk just so I can get off? I can get off very easy in the comfort of my house without contracting a veneral disease.

Think of it all you want, label me all you want, but face the truth. Why did you have sex the last time? Just to get off? No you had sex to prove to yourself and your buddies that you 'got game' whatever that means, and to show off to the girl you had sex with.

Can you actually realize that men are having sex just to please women? Yes!! Think about it. Why all the fuss with all the warm-up and foreplay just to get your d1ck in? Why all the fuss with cuddling? Why do we take pride in getting a woman off multiple times? So sexual pleasure for men is psychological while for women is mostly physical. The only physical pleasure men get is when recieving BJobs.

I find it very weird that when it comes to sex, guys just want to have it as often as possible, like they are male sluts thus giving away all their power to women who have to think ten times before letting anyone inside their vaginas. That is why I see these hotties everywehere dressed in tight clothes, showing off their tight a$$es and long legs and it seems like they say "Haha, can't have me"

Let's face it guys, fukking is merely just a way to prove our pride and to prove our control of women both physically and psychologically. So never make a big deal out of it. Sex was never meant to be a recreational activity.

 

[cynetix]

You elves are weird

Originally posted by legolas
For guys sex has become like a tool of pride. Tell me of one guy who has sex just to get off and I will drop my case. Why would I want to put my d1ck in some stranger's vagina, while taking all that risk just so I can get off? I can get off very easy in the comfort of my house without contracting a veneral disease.

Think of it all you want, label me all you want, but face the truth. Why did you have sex the last time? Just to get off? No you had sex to prove to yourself and your buddies that you 'got game' whatever that means, and to show off to the girl you had sex with.

Can you actually realize that men are having sex just to please women? Yes!! Think about it. Why all the fuss with all the warm-up and foreplay just to get your d1ck in? Why all the fuss with cuddling? Why do we take pride in getting a woman off multiple times? So sexual pleasure for men is psychological while for women is mostly physical. The only physical pleasure men get is when recieving BJobs.

I find it very weird that when it comes to sex, guys just want to have it as often as possible, like they are male sluts thus giving away all their power to women who have to think ten times before letting anyone inside their vaginas. That is why I see these hotties everywehere dressed in tight clothes, showing off their tight a$$es and long legs and it seems like they say "Haha, can't have me"

Let's face it guys, fukking is merely just a way to prove our pride and to prove our control of women both physically and psychologically. So never make a big deal out of it. Sex was never meant to be a recreational activity.

I think this is an absurd reduction. Though I grant that sex IS made more desirable, on the whole, because we have been brought up to think of it as an achievement in and of itself, saying that is ALL IT IS is fascinatingly strange. Are you from Loth-Llorien or something?

Sticking my banana into a wet vagina is fifty times more pleasurable than sticking it into my hand. Not to mention the immeasurable the benefits over masturbation OUTSIDE of the genitalia--like, oh, feeling her react to me, listening to her moans of pleasure from what I'm doing, seeing her cute face when she's about to lose it...

The above is NOT compensation for cognitive dissonance to "make okay" a purely ego-driven motivation, as you would put it. But it's not to say the ego plays NO role, 'cause that is a valid point.

cynetix

 

[matius]

This is like trying to generalize all of the dispositions in the world to like one or two.

There are many reasons for sex, why people have it, why their opinion differs from yours, etc...

Sex is fun, stimulating and pleasurable. It can create a bond between two people, and another being. It can elevate your mood, your senses and your spirit.

Sure, yeah it's gives you a sense of pride. But to say that's it, well, you might want to reassess the situation.

 

[matius]

Think of it all you want, label me all you want, but face the truth. Why did you have sex the last time? Just to get off? No you had sex to prove to yourself and your buddies that you 'got game' whatever that means, and to show off to the girl you had sex with.

I've associated sex with emotional pain in the past. I've even been guilty of such an attitude as above...I'm not looking for absolution, but...

As I've grown mentally and emotionally...I see the statement above as truly pathetic, and a horrible attitude to take into a relationship with a woman. Or atleast, it's a dumb way to view it because you miss out on the true nature of things.

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

I disagree...

I was in a LTR for 6 years (AFC days...), and we had sex a lot. It was about way more than just getting her off. My friends all new I was getting laid, I never had to bring it up, I never cared what they thought. In fact, I hardly ever talked about it.

I loved the sex. I loved the whole package of eating, getting a bj then going to town on her. It was great. In fact the sex is what held us together for the last 6 - 8 months.

To say that sex is totally psychological for guys is a totally biased statement.

I like to eat steak. Maybe some other guy doesn't. That doesn't mean that either of us are wrong, it's stritcly an opinion. There's nothing wrong with feeling differently than someone else.

Maybe for you, it's totally psychological. I think that for me, the whole act of sex is awesome.


-- Zero-

 

[Panther]

Heheh... Sex is like Oxygen. It is only important if you are not getting any!

 

[Lost]

.........
i dont know if u missed the point or im missing your point but.
people make sex out to be like.. what life is about or something.. i know when iwas younger i used to think man the one thing i wanna do is ****...... why?
i mean.... lets say ur with ur gf.. i think id rather make out than have sex.. i dont know maybe im weird but... the thing thats supposed to be good about it isnt the orgasm.. id rather just cuddle or something.. and if ur approaching a girl with the notion of getting sex, ur approaching with the wrong reason.
I mean honestly, if sex is O SO imporant to you, and ur about to try to do something O SO IMPORTANT, its gonna become a big deal, when it shouldnt be anything. You know how u do **** when ur nothinking about it..... its because u didnt really want anything out of it, and u dont get scared. If i want sex, theres a chance if i approach that i wont get it from that girl, and i could be losing that sex...(you know the saying uve got nothing to lose... well if ur approaching for sex, you could lose that sex..)
argh my thoughts have gotten really jumbled up... i dnno if that made ne more sense

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

Yeah, that cleared it up a lot.

Different strokes for different folks, I guess...

Not much else to say, other than, gotta do what makes YOU happy.

There are many different reasons why people have chosen to use the information from this board. Some want to get laid, others want to meet lots of women, and I know I personally am here more to improve myself than anything else. There are many other reasons that I haven't even mentioned, but I have found that those are the big three, IMO.

Basically, do what works for you. I do find some validity in your post, though. If you approach a woman with nothing in mind except to meet her, then there's nothing for you to lose. Even if you get a hi out of her, you win.

-- Zero-

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Right on Lost. When we put sex on the Pedastal, we put women on the pedastal. Just as the junkie is a slave to the dealer, and much for the same reason...

 

[Lost]

Originally posted by -Zero_h0uR-
If you approach a woman with nothing in mind except to meet her, then there's nothing for you to lose. Even if you get a hi out of her, you win.

-- Zero- [/B]

Yes, this reminds me of something i heard. People are afraid of failure. Well, you should set what failure is to you. Make it very hard to fail. If you try to get sex, its gonna be very easy to fail. But if all u want is just any response from the person, it is IMPOSSIBLE to fail, so why not try?

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Lost
Yes, this reminds me of something i heard. People are afraid of failure. Well, you should set what failure is to you. Make it very hard to fail. If you try to get sex, its gonna be very easy to fail. But if all u want is just any response from the person, it is IMPOSSIBLE to fail, so why not try?

But wouldn't that be like lowering your standards? Actually, this could help people that are afraid to approach. Almost everyone goes in looking for sex and figure all the ways to fail, so they get scared...hmm...good idea Lost.

 

[oreo_renegade]

See-Saw effect

Actually for me, it works a lot like a see-saw.

The higher I place intercourse on the pedestal the lower the women (in general) fall.

Because for me, as of right now, I see sex as an expression of emotional bond.

An expression of love. A spiritual and emotional connection between two people while enjoying ecstatic sensations.

Now, does that mean I see any woman and I want to jump her?

NO! in fact, it has the opposite effect. I see a woman and I go "oh man, shes not worthy of sharing this intense experience with me, shes worthy of a hug "

Now all of a sudden, sex is something that I AM IN CONTROL OF. Its still this highly incredible experience, but I am no longer a slut willing to let anyone do it with me.


*ON THE FLIPSIDE*

If I lower sex down the pedestal to something like dumping your load, then all of a sudden i dont care who or what i dump it in. As Ross Jeffries says "we'll do it with mud, trees, rocks, anything."

If all i am after is cvmming, then i no longer care who I cvm inside. The women are up the pedestal because now I see ALL of them as worthy of my jiz.

Are they really worthy of it? HAHAA hell no.

I havent met a woman yet that was worthy.


People gereally think too much ahead. They see an attractive woman and they are plannig on what theyll name their kid, or what moves to try in bed.

STOP THAT SH!T

See a woman, excellent, go and have a closer look, see what she sounds like, feel her skin, is she playful enough for you? Did she just make a dumb remark? Is she worth your time?

Most of the time they aren't.

Did she meet your standards?

That is what your goal should be from an approach. NOT already qualifying her before you even speak to her.

Give HER the burden of proof. "innocent until proven guilty" changed to "not worthy until proven."