A traumatic event just ruined our night.

[666goobypls69]

I have been dating a girl for a month and it had been smooth sailing up until an hour ago.

We went to a titty bar and stayed there until closing. At the end of the hour I noticed one of the dancers standing outside in the alley with a group of men. As we made our way out I heard a death scream from the alley and everyone turned pale as the bouncers rushed out back to see what was going on.

At this point we had no business being there so we left and as we pulled out we saw the bouncers fighting a couple of drunks in the back. It was like something out of a martial arts movie.

I started shaking violently because of how disturbing the entire scene was and that basically ended our night. My girl saw me shaking and asked me if I was OK but I muttered and she drove me home instead because I was in panic attack mode.

So I'm just wondering how do I salvage this in the morning? She saw that the event clearly affected me, and I regret to say it did. It's only been an hour since it happened and I can still hear the Stripper's death screams ringing in my ears.

 

[Von]

What there is to salvage ? Just call her see if she's good, thanks her for the night, tell her these type of stuff puts you how you felt.

For all she knows you might have lived something like that in the past and it still affect you. She has a sensitive side of you, if she likes it, she's dating material

Than move on to ask her out again.

Oh, and don't make it like it a was a big deal.... be more humour

 

[Asmodeus]

You went on a date to a titty bar? My goodness not even I am that bold. Don't tell me that it was her that wanted to do it, she would be a very peculiar woman if she did.
Unlike you I love that kind of action. The brutality, the fight, the chaos. The panic you feel, that is adrenaline and it feels good. I would have sat and watched the whole ordeal, it would have been the highlight of the date.

You showed vulnerability. But that is not always a bad thing. In my life I have had too many women tell me that they wished they could see some kind of vulnerability in me. They are initially attracted to the bad boy appearance, to the confidence and fearlessness… It is highly successful with women but after initial attraction they tend to be seeking something more in me, something I cannot truly give them other than maybe lying to them. Thing is, that being a cold and impervious man is not what women truly want, because people like me tend to be unable to form and maintain actual relationships. I am successful with women, but never have success with keeping them around for long periods of time. Considering such, you may not have made an actual mistake so long as she does no look down on you for it. She may empathize/sympathize with you and that show of vulnerability may have helped to show her that you have just a bit of a soft side to you, just enough to be someone sincere. I am a bad guy with a bad heart which has grown cold. Women desire the bad guy with the good heart filled with sincerity.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Why are you so traumatized from a fight? I've seen plenty of fights in my day. Just go about your business and leave. The fight had nothing to do with you so you should've just bounced and not even worry about it.

 

[zinc4]

Geez, dude...not trying to bash you, but man up. Titty bars are full of crooks and drug addicts....what do you expect?

I witnessed and heard a few people getting murdered in alley ways in broad daylight while staying in Cambodia for a few months. You go places like that.....expect **** to happen.

As for your girl, just pretend like nothing happened. Should be good.

 

[grayclif]

If you appeared more shaken up than her I wouldn't contact her again. Your reaction to this moment has been imprinted in her subconscious. She won't expect you to be able to protect her or your family in the unlikely event that you will be called to do so. Sorry.

 

[foreverAFC]

lol @ "traumatic event"

start taking boxing lessons, you will be able to react to these kinds of situations with a much clearer head in the future

 

[HoneyHitter]

You sound like you had an extremely sheltered, feminine type of upbringing to be shaking at the mere sight of violence. Weird.

 

[zinc4]

I honestly think it's a troll post meant to be funny.

 

[Yewki]

Maybe the OP is a wuss but I also think people are downplaying the situation. When violence happens in person it's totally different than reading about it or watching it on TV. We can't appreciate the full context. I bet most here would be a bit traumatized if they legit thought someone was screaming for their life and getting murdered in the shadows nearby.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Geez, dude...not trying to bash you, but man up. Titty bars are full of crooks and drug addicts....what do you expect?

I witnessed and heard a few people getting murdered in alley ways in broad daylight while staying in Cambodia for a few months. You go places like that.....expect **** to happen.

As for your girl, just pretend like nothing happened. Should be good.

Fights and murder happen outside or around strip clubs all the time. When I stayed in Houston one summer like half a dozen where killed in and around strip clubs. When I stayed in Jersey several where. It's people drinking alcohol, smoking drugs, partying in the grey area's of life so stuff can pop off.