Let me start of by saying, Hello SoSuave HS Forum. It's been a while since I've been here. Last time I was here, I was doing DJ bootcamp with Norwegian and DJ Hero, maybe you guys remember me, maybe not lol.
Luckily, I have made some improvements in my time away, although I've stayed away from the forum, I find the Book of Pook is always good to have on hand.
This is the story of one night when I was at a party, the things I did at this party were certainly not the best way to do handle the situations, but you can do nothing but learn from failure, so as unfortunate as the failure was, it only excels my growth.
At this party, I was on the top of my game, I was attached to no one group of people or girl, I was a sort of Party Nomad, and whereever I bounced I was loved. I am not exactly sure how I managed to enter such a DJ state, but girls were loving me.
I have to admit however, that I was indeed high, and I know there is some controversy about DJing while under the influence of marijuana, and I have noticed some upsides and some downsides to it. It is probably better to not DJ on it altogether, but that is neither here nor there. I just wanted you guys to know the full situation.
Back to the party, at one point I was grinding with this HB9 and after she walked away, I knew I had to talk to her.
First, I will explain the situation and then I will go over the 2 points that I learned from it.
Approach
I walked up behind her after she walked away, and put my hand on her lower back to which she turned around, I however only moved my hand to her waist. I had been introduced to her almost a year ago, but haven't seen her since. It was quite loud in the party and when I went in to talk to her we had to have our faces extremely close, so keep in mind that while this conversation is going on her face was pretty much touching mine and at times was actually touching mine.
Me: "You're name is HB9 right?"
HB9: "Yeah, I know you, what's your name again"
Me: "E_Sex"
HB9: "How do I know you again?"
Me: "Just other parties, I would hang with so-and-so, and you would hang with so-and-so right?"
HB9: "yea"
Me: "So listen, is there a man in your life?"
HB9: "Yea"
Phenomenal conversation right? Not so much. And after she said that is when I began to stumble, I hadn't planned on her saying that, and I literally didn't know what to do. So I managed to stammer out a "I'll get back to you" and eject. I obviously handled this wrong, but up until that point everything had been going so right, how could I have failed so miserably? This has brought me to learn 2 certain points.
The power of the physical.
I'm sure you can tell that the conversation I held with HB9 was not spectacular in any way shape or form, yet if you had watched it you would think we were about to have sex right there on the dance floor.
This is because I learned first-hand that words can mean nothing. I was literally saying the first things that came to my mind, and yet she was almost on top of me, because our bodies were doing the talking. And with women talking with your body is 1000 times more important than talking with words... well maybe not 1000 but you get the point.
Don't psyche yourself out.
Had I known the previous point, I probably could have avoided this altogether, but it is good to know. When I asked her if she had a man (a question that I really shouldn't have asked in the first place, despite our words not really meaning anything at the moment), her response caused me to believe that I no longer had any chances with her, which was completely untrue. The body language that we spoke was saying "fvck me right now" and the words were purely aesthetic, had I not convinced myself I had already lost, I still could have possibly pulled the girl.
I am not pretending to be some all knowing DJ, just sharing my experiences, and what I've learned from them. Hope this helps guys!
Luckily, I have made some improvements in my time away, although I've stayed away from the forum, I find the Book of Pook is always good to have on hand.
This is the story of one night when I was at a party, the things I did at this party were certainly not the best way to do handle the situations, but you can do nothing but learn from failure, so as unfortunate as the failure was, it only excels my growth.
At this party, I was on the top of my game, I was attached to no one group of people or girl, I was a sort of Party Nomad, and whereever I bounced I was loved. I am not exactly sure how I managed to enter such a DJ state, but girls were loving me.
I have to admit however, that I was indeed high, and I know there is some controversy about DJing while under the influence of marijuana, and I have noticed some upsides and some downsides to it. It is probably better to not DJ on it altogether, but that is neither here nor there. I just wanted you guys to know the full situation.
Back to the party, at one point I was grinding with this HB9 and after she walked away, I knew I had to talk to her.
First, I will explain the situation and then I will go over the 2 points that I learned from it.
Approach
I walked up behind her after she walked away, and put my hand on her lower back to which she turned around, I however only moved my hand to her waist. I had been introduced to her almost a year ago, but haven't seen her since. It was quite loud in the party and when I went in to talk to her we had to have our faces extremely close, so keep in mind that while this conversation is going on her face was pretty much touching mine and at times was actually touching mine.
Me: "You're name is HB9 right?"
HB9: "Yeah, I know you, what's your name again"
Me: "E_Sex"
HB9: "How do I know you again?"
Me: "Just other parties, I would hang with so-and-so, and you would hang with so-and-so right?"
HB9: "yea"
Me: "So listen, is there a man in your life?"
HB9: "Yea"
Phenomenal conversation right? Not so much. And after she said that is when I began to stumble, I hadn't planned on her saying that, and I literally didn't know what to do. So I managed to stammer out a "I'll get back to you" and eject. I obviously handled this wrong, but up until that point everything had been going so right, how could I have failed so miserably? This has brought me to learn 2 certain points.
The power of the physical.
I'm sure you can tell that the conversation I held with HB9 was not spectacular in any way shape or form, yet if you had watched it you would think we were about to have sex right there on the dance floor.
This is because I learned first-hand that words can mean nothing. I was literally saying the first things that came to my mind, and yet she was almost on top of me, because our bodies were doing the talking. And with women talking with your body is 1000 times more important than talking with words... well maybe not 1000 but you get the point.
Don't psyche yourself out.
Had I known the previous point, I probably could have avoided this altogether, but it is good to know. When I asked her if she had a man (a question that I really shouldn't have asked in the first place, despite our words not really meaning anything at the moment), her response caused me to believe that I no longer had any chances with her, which was completely untrue. The body language that we spoke was saying "fvck me right now" and the words were purely aesthetic, had I not convinced myself I had already lost, I still could have possibly pulled the girl.
I am not pretending to be some all knowing DJ, just sharing my experiences, and what I've learned from them. Hope this helps guys!