A Small Dilemma: How Much Should I Drink in Bar/Club?

davelmn2003

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If I drink a little bit, I get a bit more jovial, but I'm still pretty shy. If I drink more, I tend to want to drink even more (and thus get drunk). But in that scenario I feel more confident to approach women (or don't care if I get shot down)...

I can't seem to find the right balance where I can drink enough to allow me to approach women without fear and yet retain control over my wits....

Is there any suggestion as to how I can handle this situation?
 

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Read the DJ bible - all the tools are there to get over your fear of approaching women - thats what your here for right?

If you have to get smashed to approach chicks your in trouble. What if you see some hot b#tch in a coffee shop? What you gonna do then?

Get over it.
 

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Dude everyone is different. You have to find YOUR comfort level of tipsiness. Remember, the key to drinking is pacing yourself. Any dumb fukk can take 8 shots in 5 minutes of then be puking and being a passed out dumbass.

Take it slow, you will know when your 'perfect'.
 

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For me personally - i read that for a man to say under the limit (for my age / driving exp / location) its 2 standard drinks 1st hour then 1 drink every hour there after.

I try and stick with this rule. If im 2 drunk 2 drive id probably be 2 drunk 2 ride :D

Works for me!
 

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Yeah , who wants to be too drunk to DJ.

I try not ot drink when I'm DJing , cos remember it's supposed to be fun , so if you aren't enjoying your Djing then yr doing it wrong.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Once you put a quart of oil in the engine to prime it, you gotta put the rest in and make it run...If I could answer that question, i'd save alot of money on beer tabs
 

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See if you can do it without drinkin'...

If you build your confidence to the point that you can have the same lack of inhibitions minus some of the stupid **** that you do when your drunk then you're sorted, it gives you a huge advantage in the day time pick up too... plus your much more on the ball if a chick is less drunk and actually have your mind actively involved, unlike when you're drunk...

I guess the step to goin' towards this is to use some of the confidence buildin tips in the bible...
 

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Go out and get wrecked why not..it makes for a better night out and after all, we're not here for the girls are we, just to enjoy our lives....
 

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Originally posted by NewMan
Read the DJ bible - all the tools are there to get over your fear of approaching women - thats what your here for right?

If you have to get smashed to approach chicks your in trouble. What if you see some hot b#tch in a coffee shop? What you gonna do then?

Get over it.
Yeah, rely on building your own skills. Drink for the pleasure of the drink, forget the 'liquid courage' mentality, it's a crutch.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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why drink at all at the bar?
I like the above sugestion (about it being a crutch)

When I go out I order pop only
(not water - the pop has plenty in it)
If you want to look like your drinking,
say you want a pepsi/coke in a short glass...
some bartenders get confused when you ask
for that,others understand.

when I get home is when I start drinking,
(partly cause I must DRIVE myself)
this way I'm saving tons of money.
the money you wasted buying jugs or pitchers
I invest in a selection at home...

My aim is to someday to be able to mix
any drink equal or better then a bar can offer...
including martini's.

I don't need to get drunk to have a good time!
 

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Personally, I think alcohol can be very useful in overcoming shyness and fears. It has been in my life. What happens with me is that if I'm afraid to approach a girl or something, I will drink a lot until I get the liquid courage to do it. Then, usually I do it, it ain't so bad, and my fears are alleviated. Then, next time in the same situation, I have the comfort in my brain to know that I can approach her and I don't need alcohol. So, alcohol is kinda like a drug I use to treat a problem and then when the problem is gone, I don't need it anymore.
 

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Originally posted by bp1974
Drink less than Bugsquish::cool:
Damn good advice! I'm like you davelmn I don't know when to stop. I'm sure it puts some people off but I approach more, and a lot of them are drunk too. The worst thing though is that it makes me forget people's names. I suspect drinking is much more prolific here in the UK than in the US.
 

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Originally posted by bugsquish
Damn good advice! I'm like you davelmn I don't know when to stop. I'm sure it puts some people off but I approach more, and a lot of them are drunk too. The worst thing though is that it makes me forget people's names. I suspect drinking is much more prolific here in the UK than in the US.
No sh!t Sherlock :)

Actually, it's kinda funny the differences between cultures - the Europeans are just plain crap drinkers, the English drink almost as much as the Irish, but differently - e.g. there is zero culture of the "lunch-time pint" here in Ireland, unlike UK. You guys binge drink more than we do: we drink regular amounts Monday - Sunday, you binge Thurs, Fri Sat.

The Americans are kinda strange - they're more regular 2 - 3 pints a night and then some nights they decide that they're going to get complete wasted (their actual aim is to get as fscked up as possible!), so they start doing shots.

Strange...

Oscar.
 

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Alcohol-the cause of and solution to all of lifes problems
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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well, tonight, I kept the limits I sort of imposed on myself. I drank four beers. The first two in quick succession, and then the last two I spread them out. I was kind of drunk as I got back home (now), but I'm conscious enough to know what I'm doing (and I can remember many people's names--at least those that i was interested in). The problem though was that while my guard was down a bit (I could start talking with strangers--male and female--at the bar and pretended to be in the same group dancing on the floor, I didn't really make a move on any girl).

I guess the best solution is not having to rely on beers, but I'm just too darn shy...I need beers to help me out....
 

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drink as much as you want and have a good time with your boys... forget about the girls, they will come
 

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Originally posted by In Sync
Go out and get wrecked why not..it makes for a better night out and after all, we're not here for the girls are we, just to enjoy our lives....
I used to have the exact same feeling until I got a DUI a year ago. Five thousand dollars later I dont feel that way anymore.

Plus I almost died when I rolled my GTI that night.

I am just happy to be alive.

Its something to think about........



Party on, yes absolutely!
Just plan on how to get home if you are gonna get bombed......
 

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I never said to drive after you go for a night out did I. It's only pricks and wasters who do that.
 
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