A reminder on getting the respect U deserve

[SoldMySoul]

I know most of you DJs know this, but I want to give this as a reminder. If you allow a woman to continually disrespect you it will ALWAYS turn bad! I guess I am learning this the hard way and it helps to vent with you guys on here. I had this women I had been seeing that was an alcoholic from hell and she would say some things to me that I didn't like. Things like stupid and dumba$$, of course she said that was her personality and she was kidding. Not to mention the alcohol and the withdraws didn't help. Last night she finally pushed my buttons and I went off on her saying much more mean things than she ever said. We dated for two months and after all this drama I will not be seeing her again. I was really trying hard to be patient with her too! I divorced last year to an alcoholic and I guess I finally realized that this women reminded me so much of my ex! However, it seems she was a lot worse than the ex.

I said all of that to say this. If you allow the disrespectful behavior, she will continue doing it and if you stay.. it will bring the worst out of you making you look bad. And I looked bad and feel bad that I allowed it. I should have nexted her long ago. You will be treated how you allow!!!!

 

[jophil28]

" You will be treated how you allow." Oh, yeah. Ain't THAT the truth !!

My buddie and I have some "rules"..

Rule #1 " At the first sign of significant disrespect by a woman she is GONE ".
Rule#2 " At the first sign of cheating, she is GONE. "

We spell it out to our new 'applicants' in the first WEEK. WE have some VERY well-behaved women now...

 

[Sinistar]

Lack of respect is one thing. However, your choice to enter into another relationship with a alcoholic (after a previous relationship with an alcoholic just ended) might be an area you'd like to explore before getting wrapped around the axle regarding the respect topic.

Most alcoholics have flipped and twisted value systems, often a result of growing up in that same twisted environment. You can go on expecting them to respect you all day long, but for some they don't even know what it means. Of course you can get harsh on their arse (which is probably what they're expecting / craving) but do you really want to go there either.

If you allow a woman to continually disrespect you it will ALWAYS turn bad!

Couldn't agree more!

 

[SoldMySoul]

Hey Sin, I didn't know she was an alkie at first and I have tried being patient because she has had some job issues, but Yes I wouldn't want to get involved with another ex wife, NO DOUBT!!! I like her pretty well and was trying to feel her out. There were times in my life when I drank too much because of issues in my life, but I hardly drink otherwise and I guess I was hoping to see if she was doing what I did when I was drinking.

 

[BobFuest]

nice post. I agree 100%. Also, you can never sink to that level. Getting in a shouting match or yelling will never get you the respect that you deserve. Only action will.

quick example:
my woman was being crabby yesterday so I held myself in check and told her she had said enough today. I will talk with her later. (we live together) 10 minutes later she called back and left a message that she was just really tired (from working 16 hours) and that she loved me very much. Another time she was a jerk off with major PMS and so again I held onto my patience and said ok if your going to be that way, I am not coming home. I instead stayed with my friend. She has never been that much of a jerk since. problem solved.

 

[Metro3pilot]

all I can say is ...DAMN STRAIT ...

alcoholic chicks .... no time for them ...first it's disrespect, you blow a gasket and wow ...you're the ass .......next thing you she's blaming alcohol for sucking some dudes chub in the bathroom at a bar and then spending the night at some guys house because she was too drunk to drive .....

chicks with addiction problems ...alcohol, attention, crack ...it don't matter ...trust me I have waisted more time than I should have with this kind .....

Hey Captain save a ho ...... TAKE IT AS A RED FLAG GET OUT, YOU CAN'T SAVE THEM.....

:rockon:

 

[TheLadiesMan]

They make some horny fvckers though. LTR material, hells no.

 

[STR8UP]

chicks with addiction problems ...alcohol, attention, crack ...it don't matter ...trust me I have waisted more time than I should have with this kind .....

My last two have had some issues....

One didn't know when to say when with the vodka and ended up losing her cool a couple of times when she saw me SOCIALIZING (read- NOT hitting on) other women. The latest one just lost her job cause she does too much blow.

Man, where do I find these chicks? Good thing it's not much more than just sex. At least I know better than to let it go too far.